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So pissed. Sorry for the vent.

heids4787heids4787 member
edited April 2014 in April 2014 Moms
I had trouble getting LO to go down for sleep tonight; I've been feeding her, burping her, and changing her for the past few hours and she's still wide awake. I asked my DH around midnight to just "hold her" in order to help soothe her to sleep. Granted, he was in a deep sleep when I asked, but when I was in the bathroom, I started hearing the baby crying and my DH raising his voice at her. I thought he was yelling at my cat in the room, but clearly he wasn't. He then stormed out of the room with the baby, whipped open the nursery door and swaddled the baby pretty aggressively in the crib (me quickly trailing behind).

Oh HELL NO. I couldn't believe how he reacted to her crying. I scooped her up and took her downstairs for another feeding, and she seems more calm. I don't even want to go back to bed after that happened, I'm so pissed. There will be a talk in the a.m. about this.

I know being a first time parent is scary and frustrating at times, but I'm pretty sure it's never okay to yell at a child to go to sleep. How would that ever help??? My DH is seriously the sweetest guy, and this behavior is so unlike him. Ugh.

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Update: after a nice chat, DH and I feel much better about this and night feedings moving forward. I would like to go on record saying he's a great dad to my LO and a wonderful husband. Thanks, again, for your feedback!
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Re: So pissed. Sorry for the vent.

  • chirico3chirico3 member
    I'd be pissed too! Definitely talk to him. I understand being tired, but yelling won't make baby sleep, and is never useful!

     

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  • heids4787heids4787 member
    Thanks, @chirico3‌ and @MelsaX‌. Things have calmed down, and I just chatted with DH between feeds while we were both up.

    I admitted it was scary how he handled LO earlier and that yelling won't help the situation. He explained he needed to get her into the crib and walk away ASAP since he knew he was getting frustrated. We never fight, so I hope my bringing it up doesn't hurt him as a new dad. I agree that parenting can really test your patience, which can make you behave in ways you never thought possible.

    Lesson learned: keep the baby in the nursery and wake up DH first, to then go to her, rather than bringing her to the bedroom.
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