3rd Trimester

Baby Registry message?

Does this sound too demanding:

"THANK YOU FOR LOOKING AT OUR REGISTRY. WE HAVE ALREADY BEEN BLESSED WITH THE GIFT OF MORE BABY CLOTHES THAN WE KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH AND DON'T NEED ANY CLOTHING SMALLER THAN SIZE 12 MONTHS. ALSO, OUR PREFERRED DIAPER AND WIPES BRAND IS PAMPERS. THANK YOU AGAIN! WE HOPE TO SEE YOU AT OUR SHOWER!"

(Sorry for the all caps, I copied it from our BRU registry)

I can't think of a better way to word it...I was up late last night and my brain is mush. Any thoughts or recomendations would be great!

Re: Baby Registry message?

  • FWIW, I think it sounds okay. It's pleasant and you're only being honest. Then again, I won't have a shower myself and I'm not up on etiquette. It's all you can do, really.
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  • I think that it is a great idea to write the part about too many clothes. I would appreciate knowing that so that I bought something you needed. Maybe just register for only pampers and they should get the hint. IMO
  • I think the clothes thing sounds great but not the diapers part. Like PP said just register for what kind you prefer.  
  • My only suggestion is the same as PP - just register for Pampers but don't mention it. The reason why is that I put we were cloth diapering only on our registries, and at my showers several ladies brought disposables who obviously hadn't looked at my registry. I was fine with it - I expected I would get some and thanked them, only to overhear the people next to them flat out say, "Oh, didn't you know she's cloth diapering so she won't use those?"

    I was so embarrassed and felt really bad. And so were the women who bought me the diapers.

    Anyway, just my two cents from experience. But I like how you worded about the clothes!

  • imageaxr8111:

    Personally I think it's a bit rude to put this on your registry. Sure it's honest, but seems very tacky.  

    This.

    Just return things you cant use.

    More appropriate message:

    We are having a baby ____! Please included gift receipts.  

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  • Tacky!  Clothing you can always take back as long as they have the tags, and who is to say that once your LO comes that Pampers will remain your first choice? Your LO might leak all over the place with Pampers and you'll regret not having any kind of backup...
  • imageaxr8111:

    Personally I think it's a bit rude to put this on your registry. Sure it's honest, but seems very tacky.  

    If you have too much of something return it for a bigger size. I know you won't get receipts for everything, but you will for a lot and might even be able to return some of the stuff you already have. 

    Really you have a wipes preference?? As a second time mom, this just makes me laugh, sorry. That just seems a bit much, but if you really do then just register for the kind you want instead of putting this note in there. 

    Well, the stuff we already have is all hand me downs, so no returning it there. We have 10 garbage bags full of 0-6 months and 8 full of 6-12...I just don't want people to waste their money. But you're right I could always exchange it for something in a bigger size.

    As for the diapers and wipes....I'm a second time mom, too. I honestly don't give a sh!t what brand of wipes we use, lol ...I used the grocery store brand for DS. And we only used Pampers diapers until he was out of Swaddlers and then it was whatever was on sale. But, people keep asking me what my preferred brand is, even though I've registered for a few packs of Pampers. It's very frustrating, lol. I thought I might just put it up front to help people out, but it does sound kind of rude....

    You brought up some good points, ladies. I appreciate all the feedback. Like I said, my brain isn't functioning to well this morning.  Smile

  • I think it's fine. I know the traditional etiquette answer is not to tell people what you want or don't want, but IME people these days actually want to know that kind of thing. 
  • imageMsMoseley:
    imageaxr8111:

    Personally I think it's a bit rude to put this on your registry. Sure it's honest, but seems very tacky.  

    This.

    Just return things you cant use.

    More appropriate message:

    We are having a baby ____! Please included gift receipts.  

    I tend to agree with this- it's much better sounding. 

  • I think it depends on your relationship with the people invited to the shower.  If it's a close family affair, then the honest route is best - family wants the truth!  Besides are you going alone to return all that stuff?   But if there's a lot of distant or pompous in-laws (my in-laws are very uptight) then I would just receive the gift and deal with it all myself - none of them will be there to help with returns and last minute purchases.
  • axr8111 said:

    Personally I think it's a bit rude to put this on your registry. Sure it's honest, but seems very tacky.  

    If you have too much of something return it for a bigger size. I know you won't get receipts for everything, but you will for a lot and might even be able to return some of the stuff you already have. 

    Really you have a wipes preference?? This just makes me laugh, sorry. That just seems a bit much, but if you really do then just register for the kind you want instead of putting this note in there. 

    OP - I agree that it's kind of obnoxious to put that on your registry. It is demanding. And just add some Pampers diapers and wipes to your registry. 

    And @axr8111 - hey now! I actually get the wipes preference. I prefer Huggies. 

    I say this because I used to buy those Charmin wet ones wipes to use after the bathroom. One day I realized that it was cheaper to just buy a big thing of baby wipes. Huggies are thicker and therefore I prefer them. I don't think that's weird - totally legit preference. ;)
  • imageMsMoseley:
    imageaxr8111:

    Personally I think it's a bit rude to put this on your registry. Sure it's honest, but seems very tacky.  

    This.

    Just return things you cant use.

    More appropriate message:

    We are having a baby ____! Please included gift receipts.  

    I tend to agree with this- it's much better sounding. 

    I think this does sound better, but I probably wouldn't include the part about gift receipts, either.  To me that is pretty much the same thing as saying "please include gift receipts so I can return your gift later."

    If you are worried about coming across as rude, I'd just say "We're having a baby boy/girl!" and leave it at that.

    Like pp said, though, if your family really wants to know these preferences, maybe your shower hostess/host can spread this info via word of mouth?
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  • I wouldn't say anything.  Just leave the comments sections on the registry blank.
  • Tacky, IMO.
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    We left the comments section blank even though we are in the same boat with bags upon bags of hand-me-downs.

    Your message comes off tacky IMO, and the note about including gift receipts is just as bad. 
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    edited April 2014
    I just realized this is a zombie thread from 2009. Nevermind.
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