Question for all the much wiser and experienced second time moms

Nichole8787 · April 2014

I am a ftm due July 22 and havve no idea what level of discomfort to expect at the end of third tri. That being said here is my question/situation...I live in NC and here it gets into the high 90s or even 100s in July. One of my favorite bands is coming to town about 2 weeks before I am due snd playing at an outdoor ampitheater with tons of space.( it would not be a rowdy or overly crowded area). We could buy lawn tickets and bring chairs/a blanket to sit on...so am I crazy to think I'll still be able to go to/tolerate a concert so far along in my pregnancy? How miserable were you at the end of your previous pregnancy?

jnnfrrose6 · April 2014

DS was born at the end of August. I won tickets to a concert at an outdoor amphitheater about 3 weeks before his EDD (ultimately 2 weeks before he was born).

Everyone's pregnancy is going to be different, but we went to the show anyways. We had seating and it wasn't the type of show where people were bouncing around and dancing in the aisles, so I could still sit and enjoy it. The worst part was simply the humidity (in Georgia here) and it had rained earlier in the day so it was even worse. I definitely felt more swollen and we did leave a little early, but I'm sure that decision was easier to make because the tickets were free. I'd say go for it, but be prepared in case LO does decide to make an early appearance and you can't make it. And definitely take yourself something to sit in. I don't think a blanket on the ground would cut it for me at that point.

bullybutt · April 2014

I was 42 weeks pregnant when I delivered my son in Oklahoma, where everyday that summer in 2012, it was in the 110-115° ranges. I love the heat so it wasn't miserable for me. However, once week 40 hit, my feet began to take on some swelling and it was pretty major for my skinny feet. I can't imagine having to stand up/walk around ALL day long for a summer concert. I can almost guarantee that you will be miserable and wishing that your pregnant ass was at home, lounging on the couch in the AC.

A 7 months, I went to an indoor concert to see Incubus. I sat down quite a bit and was tired. I think you need to rethink your plans.

AKB090609 · April 2014

DD was born at 41 weeks, I was still playing on the playground with preschoolers in 90+ degrees at 38 weeks and I was fine. I would go to something like that as long as I had access to a non port-a-potty bathroom, chairs and snacks. I was also never so uncomfortable that I didn't do the things I wanted to do (other than waterski).

I would just keep the options to leave early open.

AMcLaws · April 2014

I live in AZ, and I avoided the great outdoors as much as possible in my last pregnancy. It was just too hot and miserable. I'm already feeling that way this time, and we haven't even hit triple digits yet.

If you think you might be ok, go for it. Keep in mind that it may become too much and you'll have to leave.

I don't think I would personally do it. But that's me.

tourqeyes · April 2014

Nichole8787 said:

I am a ftm due July 22 and havve no idea what level of discomfort to expect at the end of third tri. That being said here is my question/situation...I live in NC and here it gets into the high 90s or even 100s in July. One of my favorite bands is coming to town about 2 weeks before I am due snd playing at an outdoor ampitheater with tons of space.( it would not be a rowdy or overly crowded area). We could buy lawn tickets and bring chairs/a blanket to sit on...so am I crazy to think I'll still be able to go to/tolerate a concert so far along in my pregnancy? How miserable were you at the end of your previous pregnancy?

I went to a concert at the ampitheatre near UNCC 2 weeks before my due date with DS (in August). It was not as hot as you described even in August, though it could be different with a heat wave. I was having braxton hicks and it was humid out, but I was fine and I'm glad I went.

I sat in the lawn seats and I would not recommend that. I got irritated with people trying to walk in front of me 24/7. I would rather have paid for seats.

Nichole8787 · April 2014

If lo comes early I could give tickets to my brother...Maybe I should just wait until closer to the concert to see how I feel. Opinions seem to vary...hmmmm

AKB090609 said:

DD was born at 41 weeks, I was still playing on the playground with preschoolers in 90+ degrees at 38 weeks and I was fine. I would go to something like that as long as I had access to a non port-a-potty bathroom, chairs and snacks. I was also never so uncomfortable that I didn't do the things I wanted to do (other than waterski).

I would just keep the options to leave early open.

The bathroom situation is something to consider. That might make or break the idea for me.

drunkenhandstand · April 2014

If you want to go, go. You can do it. But will you be miserable? Probably. Especially if you have any swelling at that point. Guess it just depends on how much you love them and would the suffering be worth it?

cookieinva · April 2014

I live in VA which has hot, humid summers; my son was born on July 22 in a very, very hot year. Personally I would not have enjoyed what you are describing. The heat, the humidity, the bathroom situation, just trying to sit comfortably for that long a time in something like a lawn chair, having potentially painful B-H on and off throughout. I might feel differently for something that was only an hour or two, but I think for me this would last too long for me to be comfortable.

AutumnBonfire · April 2014

DS was born at 38.5 weeks and I was miserable by that point. I started work again after being off for the summer and I was horribly uncomfortable every day. Sitting hurt, standing hurt, walking hurt, I had a lot of swelling in my feet, etc. I don't want to be anywhere other than laying on my couch by the end of this pregnancy. I definitely wouldn't want to be sitting on a blanket on the ground.

tourqeyes · April 2014

Nichole8787 said:

If lo comes early I could give tickets to my brother...Maybe I should just wait until closer to the concert to see how I feel. Opinions seem to vary...hmmmm

AKB090609 said:

DD was born at 41 weeks, I was still playing on the playground with preschoolers in 90+ degrees at 38 weeks and I was fine. I would go to something like that as long as I had access to a non port-a-potty bathroom, chairs and snacks. I was also never so uncomfortable that I didn't do the things I wanted to do (other than waterski).

I would just keep the options to leave early open.

The bathroom situation is something to consider. That might make or break the idea for me.

Is this the same venue I went to or are you talking about the one in Raleigh? If it is the Charlotte one, there are regular bathrooms there.

Nichole8787 · April 2014

tourqeyes said:

Nichole8787 said:

If lo comes early I could give tickets to my brother...Maybe I should just wait until closer to the concert to see how I feel. Opinions seem to vary...hmmmm

AKB090609 said:

DD was born at 41 weeks, I was still playing on the playground with preschoolers in 90+ degrees at 38 weeks and I was fine. I would go to something like that as long as I had access to a non port-a-potty bathroom, chairs and snacks. I was also never so uncomfortable that I didn't do the things I wanted to do (other than waterski).

I would just keep the options to leave early open.

The bathroom situation is something to consider. That might make or break the idea for me.

Is this the same venue I went to or are you talking about the one in Raleigh? If it is the Charlotte one, there are regular bathrooms there.

The one in Raleigh.

abundancenow · April 2014

I went to a County Fair and sat for a few hours in bleachers to see an event I really wanted to see, just about a week before my first baby was delivered. It was in the mid 90's and there were only port a pottys. I enjoyed it and did not regret the choice to go. As fine and comfortable I was for that, a few days later, I called out from a friends formal reception and said I was too swollen and uncomfortable to get decked out in formal wear and attend. I did not regret that decision, everyone ended up really drunk and I heard it was a mess. I think you can do what ever your really motivated and want to do, but there's always the possibility of being too uncomfortable. Would you feel open to giving the tickets away or selling them if at the last minute you did not want to go?

katnipeverclean · April 2014

This is as a result of my own personal experiences with my last pregnancy and this one: Not just no, but hell no. However, if you feel like pregnancy has been good to you so far and/or you could sell the tickets go for it if you are comfortable.

LyndseylovesHugh · April 2014

Every pregnancy is different but personally I would have gone to a low key concert at that point. I was uncomfortable regardless of what I was doing at 38 weeks and found that doing fun things helped me keep my mind off that fact.

BP607 · April 2014

I was pretty huge with DS and did some activities outside and kept up with walking and things but I was to the point where I was getting uncomfortable. I don't think I would enjoy doing what you are thinking of doing, but if the time gets closer and you are feeling ok - go for it.

kxk243 · April 2014

I was actually thinking of going to a concert a week before I am due. Same situation - outdoors, could get seats or just sit down on the lawn. It's not a really big venue, but unfortunately DH has to work, so out went that idea. However, I would have gone. I think you have to go into it as a game time decision and see how you feel, as previous posters have said, each pregnancy is different. When I was pregnant with DD, I was at my sisters wedding 3 weeks before my due date and i danced the night away and would have been able to go to a concert easily 2-3 weeks before my due date.

SaraRL07 · April 2014

Porta Potties would be the the deal breaker. I got nauseated from the smell before pregnancy, I can't imagine stepping into one pregnant in the dead of heat...also I refuse to sit and I don't know how balanced I will be in my squat (god forbid I touch any surface)

AKbadwolf · April 2014

One thing for the lawn situation is if it is big enough / not crowded, for me it would be more comfortable to spread out and lay down while listening to the band. That way you aren't forced into uncomfortable seats for an extended period of time.

SuperTinkerham · April 2014

I couldn't do it comfortably now. Let alone 37 weeks.

Nichole8787 · April 2014

Thank you ladies for all your feedback! I think the best thing for me to do will to be just wait and see how I feel closer to the date. I really appreciate everyone sharing their experiences though! I don't know what I'd do without the advice from you ladies

Palan · April 2014

Went to Jimmy Buffett, inside, at 39 weeks. I was fine, just got cab back to the hotel instead of walking the 3 blocks up hill in the rain. FYI we bought the tickets from a friend the day of the concert, we wouldn't have planned to go at 39 weeks.

kwh33ls · April 2014

I am contemplating the same question. We just won bleacher seats to a Red Sox game...DH says the seats are so small, that I'm unlikely to want to sit there, but I love going to Fenway. We have plenty of people that would take the tix, but I'm tempted to try to go. *sigh* Tough decisions...

pfeilele · April 2014

I'd say no to the lawn seats. Other than that... You'll probably be fine. I wasn't all that uncomfortable with my first, but there's no way I'd go to a concert while super pregnant and not have a decent place to sit.

MississippiCatfish · April 2014

Eh, at that point, you're going to feel how you're going to feel. Meaning: if you're going to be a little uncomfortable, why not do it while listening to great music? Get yourself prepared to be as comfy as possible: a good chair, cool drinks, your lightest most breatheable outfit, and go for it.

ETA: hit enter by accident

shanaynerz · April 2014

DD was born Oct. 20th, so I was pretty big during the height of summer here and even September was pretty hot. That said, at 38 weeks (DD was born at 39 weeks btw) I was so done. I didn't want to do much. I did go to a 10 year high school reunion at 37 weeks where I stood a bunch and whatnot, but it was indoors and cool. But I was exhausted after.

That said, I'd still go I think. If you could bring lawn chairs and snacks and whatnot as others said, than that should be good. If for some reason you just don't feel up to it though, then just sell the tickets or something. Remember that it is possible for LO to arrive at 38 weeks, even as a FTM.

Hadynimogen · April 2014

buy your ticket if your not up to it pass/ resell your tickets.

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