S/O happy people: Who is the most unhappy person you know?

lightgetsin · April 2014

I have a friend who I am trying to distance myself from because she is just so unhappy, all the time! She complains about everyone and acts like she pretty much hates life. I have tried to talk to her so many times and given so much advice, none of which she has taken. I have been there for her for 5 years and nothing has changes so I am just tired of listening to negativity.

It also makes me feel uncomfortable to talk about happy things with her. I feel like I am rubbing my positivity in her face when I am just being myself and sharing day to day things with her.

99% of her unhappiness stems from the fact that her and her DH just don't like/love each other AT ALL. They act like children toward each other with constant bickering etc. She knows she needs to move on but just can't for some reason.

Who is the most unhappy person you know and why are they so unhappy?

nonoemily · April 2014

My mom, probably. She is really manipulative and insecure. She had surgery earlier this year and that was kind of the tipping point in our relationship. She treated everyone horribly, especially my dad.

Later, after my dad went back to work she told me she's only married to him for the money and if she won the lottery tomorrow she'd leave him. My dad makes a very good living but they are very irresponsible and have nothing to show for it. They don't own a house, don't have retirement savings, don't have any savings at all. They basically live hand to mouth. I think she just plans to spend it til it's gone.

While she was laid up she paid a neighbor to go through the mail and take out all the credit card bills and bank statements so my dad wouldn't see them.

Watching her pull this whole charade together so she can maintain her lifestyle really disgusts me. I can't even imagine how your heart can be so black that you just use everyone around you to get what you want and have no remorse or compassion at all.

bumpuser8448316 · April 2014

My mother.

toadstool · April 2014

My mother. She has suffered from depression my entire life.

bhuffman · April 2014

My father in law. He is so negative about everything. Anything someone says he has a negative response or anecdote. Honestly, it is exhausting to be around him.

hayleydeee · April 2014

MIL!

Keeptruckin · April 2014

A mom of friend of mine. I have distanced myself enough I wouldn't call her a friend anymore. She is very insecure. All she wants to talk about is money and how much this and that cost, how much does my husband make, etc. how she could never drive anything less than a Porsche cayenne, how she thinks anyone over a size small is obese because of vanity sizing and if you are a xxxsmall like her, that is the normal or should be. She seems so angry! One day she was saying that if all dementia patients stopped eating sugar they would be cured. When she spoke about things it wasn't like she was stating her opinion, but more like she had a seething anger about the issue.

rachie1019 · April 2014

My MIL. Barf

rockyrollgirl · April 2014

My mom.

Reason: My dad.

rosesandpetals · April 2014

I have several family members tied for first. It's their own doing, they don't try to be positive. Everything is immigrants are ruining the country, and the gov't steals my tax money, I hate Obama, etc. It seems like they never have a single positive thing to say.

notkateanymore · April 2014

The friend who is distancing herself from me.

HBirdie · April 2014

I seriously could've written OP word for word, almost. It's a friend I met at work five years ago, and I've been there for her through a really, really crappy relationship (he cheated on her multiple times, broke up with her about once a year for four years, randomly packed all his crap up in boxes and moved out while she was at work twice, was all-around just terrible and emotionally abusive). I gave her so much advice, supported her for staying with him even when I disagreed with her decision, spent hours letting her vent/cry, everything. Now they're finally broken up for good, but the friendship is still suffering because she's so negative. We initially bonded over disliking the same people at work, and I've tried so hard to move on from the gossip and general complaining/venting, but that seems to be all she wants to do.

Lately I've noticed that when we do hang out (which is rare these days... I love having a baby as an excuse to skip out on social stuff), she launches right into stories about herself and literally never even asks me how I'm doing or what's new with me. I'm over it. Andplusalso, the last time we hung out, she was holding my (adorable and very quiet) six month old and said, "Every time I hold one of these, it just makes me so glad it isn't mine. Man I'm happy I'm not a parent." Uhh.. wtf? Who says that to someone WHILE HOLDING THEIR CHILD? SO rude. I'm over that friendship.

jlpev · April 2014

My husbands best friend's wife. We used to be super tight but she got pregnant while they were dating. She was not ready but they got married & a baby shortly after the wedding. She hated being pregnant, hated being a sahm so went to work but hates work, acts like she hates her h, & is a terrible mom to her son. Shes so negative hence all the hates.
She is always making comments how she thinks im crazy for being a sahm & having 2 kids. I just avoid her anymore. She works at our bank. So i make dh go in there.

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