Oh the lovely comments!

sarahg8r · April 2014

I was happily eating my Easter dinner on Sunday when my aunt's MIL asked how far along I am. I said 6 months and she said, is it twins? I laughed and said, no just one! She said, "you're so big already!" My dear mother said, "yes, a lot of people say that." Gee thanks, mom. I guess they're telling her that, because they're not saying it to me!

Thankfully, my sweet aunt stepped in then and said that she didn't think I looked big at all and that they needed to remember that I am only 5'1", so there's not a lot of room for it to go, lol. You'd think that would have stopped her MIL, but no...she went on to say that I still looked exceptionally large for 6 months. Granted, I was looking especially bumpy that day because I was wearing a non-maternity maxi dress with an empire waist...but I was still surprised by her RUDE comment!

What lovely comments have you ladies been getting?

Nuclearcupcake · April 2014

I'm 5'2 and I stick out too. I have people comment ALL THE TIME. I'm used to it because it's my third. But I have one friend that keeps making comments about my size and it makes me stabby. She's got one more strike before I lose all tact.

Jessicalig · April 2014

sarahg8r i think you look beautiful people say stupid comments no matter what!!! i try to laugh it off or have a quick witty comment to say back to make them feel stupid. Dont worry you look great! If you were "to small " they would have something to say about that too!!! Enjoy

Eena1242 · April 2014

My weirdest comments are both from the same guy.

One day he asked if the milk I was drinking was from a cow or from me.

This morning he points to my belly button and says, "I guess the outtie isn't indicative and being ready to pop, huh?"

MeganEMcG5 · April 2014

People are ridiculous, it's like they think they have to comment on how big or small they believe you are and can't just say you look great. I always wonder in what they are comparing me to when they are commenting. Do they have a social network of tons of other pregnant women where they are even qualified to say "you look big/small"?? Most likely not.

For whatever reason, it's one of those things that people feel they need to comment on. Just take it with a grain of salt...or tell them you're measuring exactly on track and shut them up! You look great!

Erika101076 · April 2014

I'm also 5'1 was 110lbs before pregnancy and get it ALL the time, how huge I look, how much I'm going to struggle later on, how big I get so fast... Blah blah blah!! I go to the gym and lift 4-5 X a week, walk my dog 3-4 x a week for 30 min and eat very healthy so the comments don't make me question my "bigness" but rather rubs me the wrong way and makes me want to slap a bitch lol

Raclla · April 2014

There's a salesman at work who always jokes with me about the weight.

'That diet really isn't working for you, is it?'

I told him I still had a long time before it got any better.

It's all in good natured fun though.

missmiss307 · April 2014

I (thankfully) haven't had any comments yet this pregnancy, but I got a lot of twin comments last time. I figure it's only a matter of time. This time my response, depending on who says it, will either be, "Nope, I was just fat before I got pregnant" or "No, why do you ask?"

For the OP: I think older people tend to be the rudest. I would just shrug it off. Another go-to response for me last time was, "I'm actually measuring right on track according to my doctor!"

Lawgrl04 · April 2014

I am 5'2" and yep, it's got nowhere to go but out! I was especially huge with my second son because he was a bigger baby, and I swear I could just read people's minds when I went to the mall. It's like they thought I was going to give birth at Nordstrom's. People need keep it to themselves. They would never comment on the size of a non-pregnant woman; but they see you're pregnant and they think they have carte blanche to say whatever! P.S. You look great, OP, so don't pay any attention to them!

Jentech84 · April 2014

Siiiigh today is not a good day for comments like these! Last week people made comments about how they thought I was due in May/June, then some asked if I was sure it's not twins.
Monday two people told me of need larger scrub tops, to which I demo'd how stretchy these maternity scrub tops are. Yesterday again someone told me I was stretching out my top & would need to buy bigger ones.
Today the same person laughed when she saw me and asked how far along I am, as if from yesterday to today my answer of "5 months" was going to change. She kept saying, "No no, it's not meant as an insult! Just that you're blossoming!" over & over while laughing when she saw I was unhappy with her comments.
Two coworkers came by after and said all they wanted to do was hug me after overhearing the conversation.
Theeeen five minutes later the one coworker who always makes the worst comments exclaims like she's never seen me before "You're just so big!! Like, out of nowhere! I just can't believe how big you've gotten so fast!"

I'm really, really tired of these comments. I could easily burst into tears at any moment, just barely holding it back today.
I've had weight issues since I was a preteen. I was on track and at a healthy weight before pregnancy so it's extra hard to have people literally gawk at me all day at work.
We have a staff BBQ this weekend and after today I'm dreading going. I look so much bigger in maternity clothes than I do scrubs.

At home and with family/friends I love my bump. I'm beginning to hate it at work and have noticed I'm trying to hide it with client files, by sucking it in, etc...

Sorry for the long post OP!! I've had to get this off my chest for a few days! Lol

RunningJ · April 2014

missmiss307 said:

I (thankfully) haven't had any comments yet this pregnancy, but I got a lot of twin comments last time. I figure it's only a matter of time. This time my response, depending on who says it, will either be, "Nope, I was just fat before I got pregnant" or "No, why do you ask?"

For the OP: I think older people tend to be the rudest. I would just shrug it off. Another go-to response for me last time was, "I'm actually measuring right on track according to my doctor!"

These are awesome responses!

I have been getting that I don't look pregnant. I am tall (6'0"), and while my body is changing, it just isn't as apparent yet. However...I don't know how to react. It's hard though because depending on who you talk to, you're too big or too small. I am trying to be graceful and use it as practice for the comments that will come regarding my LO and parenting.

I agree that older people can be the worst. I see my Grandma this weekend for the first time since I've been pregnant, and I am excited to see her but bracing myself for the comments. She's 94 and there is no filter.

MeggoWaffles · April 2014

I have the opposite problem. I was heavy before i got pregnant, and I'm growing up, not out (yay for heartburn and losing my breath by getting out of the car!). I have gotten "thicker" but don't really have much of a bump, so at 25 weeks I'm still not obviously pregnant. I've had people accuse me of lying about how far along I am so that i'll be induced early (WTF?) and gossip that i'm probably lying about being pregnant just to cover up weight gain.

There's this crazy girl I went to HS with who has spent the past 10 years hating me, and she posted something on Facebook about how I was faking my pregnancy just so I can get as fat as I want, and then fake a MC for sympathy when there's no baby. Some people are a new level of disgusting.

dogperson11 · April 2014

My inlaws came to visit a few weekends ago and my mother in law couldn't stop commenting on how she didn't think I needed to be wearing maternity clothes yet. "Those are maternity clothes? I didn't think you were much bigger then before." Seriously?! I'm hoping she was just trying to be nice, but I'd like to think I didn't have a beer gut before... I don't mind people pointing out that I'm big - I mean, it's for a good reason. It was the comment about NOT being bigger. I wanted to say "seriously?! My belly is past my boobs and I can't see my cooter!" I'm sorry, but that is NOT normal for me... I'm 5'2" and petite. I wanted to punch her.

ETA: we should start a new pinned thread: "Stupid Sh*t People Say"

Rannndi · April 2014

A co-worker told me that I was gaining all of the baby weight in my hips...thanks.

IvyMagic828 · April 2014

@MegoWaffles - WTF? wow, those are pretty rotten comments. That is messed up. I'm sorry you have to interact with people like that.

As for me, no one's really commented much yet, to my face anyway. However, until recently I've been wearing heavier/more concealing winter type clothes so that kind of hides things. I definitely look pregnant now at 24.5 weeks. I've gained more weight than maybe I should have by now, but I'm tall so perhaps it doesn't seem as obvious. I'm pretty much just embracing it at this point!

MollyHooper · April 2014

This wasn't directed at me but at my sister when she was pregnant but it was awkward for everyone in the room

our 4'11 grandmother going on and on about how she had 5 babies and didn't have a single stretch mark, only a scar from her c-section
And then she stood up lifted up her shirt and showed us her scar.

MeggoWaffles · April 2014

snowflake91011 said:

MeggoWaffles said:

I have the opposite problem. I was heavy before i got pregnant, and I'm growing up, not out (yay for heartburn and losing my breath by getting out of the car!). I have gotten "thicker" but don't really have much of a bump, so at 25 weeks I'm still not obviously pregnant. I've had people accuse me of lying about how far along I am so that i'll be induced early (WTF?) and gossip that i'm probably lying about being pregnant just to cover up weight gain.

There's this crazy girl I went to HS with who has spent the past 10 years hating me, and she posted something on Facebook about how I was faking my pregnancy just so I can get as fat as I want, and then fake a MC for sympathy when there's no baby. Some people are a new level of disgusting.

What the hell is wrong with people? I'd cut ties with anyone involved with the bolded statements above and tell them they can shove their disgusting comments up their asses.

Oh, these are not people I still associate with "in real life". In the age of facebook, grown women who are still butthurt over high school bullshit apparently feel the need to talk shit and try to cause drama 10 years later. Its sad and pathetic, really.

MeggoWaffles · April 2014

PunkieNight said:

MeggoWaffles said:

I have the opposite problem. I was heavy before i got pregnant, and I'm growing up, not out (yay for heartburn and losing my breath by getting out of the car!). I have gotten "thicker" but don't really have much of a bump, so at 25 weeks I'm still not obviously pregnant. I've had people accuse me of lying about how far along I am so that i'll be induced early (WTF?) and gossip that i'm probably lying about being pregnant just to cover up weight gain.

There's this crazy girl I went to HS with who has spent the past 10 years hating me, and she posted something on Facebook about how I was faking my pregnancy just so I can get as fat as I want, and then fake a MC for sympathy when there's no baby. Some people are a new level of disgusting.

What the actual fuck is this chick's issue? Seriously, I'm sorry you have to see and deal with such complete and utter bullshit. That asshattery is ridiculous.

I haven't received any awkward or rude comments so far, but my grandparents are coming in a few weeks, and I'm sure they will exceed my quota. My grandmother has always had snarky comments about my weight, and I'm sure this will be no different.

Her issue? She was the perfect, popular girl, i was the weird loner, and her boyfriend kissed me at a party junior year. She decided I was a ginormous slut and embarked on a mission to make the rest of my life miserable. I WISH I was kidding.

And grandparents have a particular way of pushing buttons, don't they? My grandmother is the same way.

caybeh · April 2014

I get the opposite. Yesterday someone asked me when I was due. I just said early August. "Oh wow, you don't look like you are that far along yet." I just smiled....I definitely feel like I'm that far along....

beachbum4304 · April 2014

Everyone here says I'm adorable. Everyone back home has told my mom I'm huge and will have a huge baby

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