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Critique my email to a former employer (receiving harassing phone calls from ex-coworkers)
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The reason I'm stuck commuting 100 miles a day is that about a year and a half ago, a contract job I had, within reasonable commuting distance from my house, was abruptly terminated three days after I was given an office and a promotion of sorts. They gave me some bullshit story about the company being in bad straits financially. But, one of their employees knew someone in my husband's office, badmouthed me to all his coworkers, and put him in a very uncomfortable position at work for a long time,.
Fast forward, and they've hired a few people to try to resume the work I was doing. And they keep messaging me through LinkedIn, emailing me, calling me, asking me to give them FREE advice on their company's business processes. I'm already struggling with extreme depression and anxiety, and this is an extra kick in the gut. After cutting short a phone call from a department manager, I got an email from someone in a different department saying, "the COO, and X, Y, Z person are the only ones that didn't like you and here's why". I am sitting at my desk shaking and about to puke.
I'm thinking of sending this email to the head of their HR:
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I have been receiving communication lately from several employees at your company who want my advice and perspective on certain aspects of FIRM's business processes and data collection, as well as editorial about who did and did not like me personally.
On XX date, management decided that it was best to end our professional relationship. I was extremely disappointed, but moved on and how have a demanding new role with a long and stressful commute.
The decision to terminate my contract was entirely within FIRM's rights and reasonability and I wish the company all the best. While the contact is extremely insulting and upsetting on a personal level; more importantly it's professionally inappropriate and unfair to your company.
I wish the company all the best, but would appreciate if your employees don't reach out for my professional assistance again.
Thoughts?
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Re: Critique my email to a former employer (receiving harassing phone calls from ex-coworkers)
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A demanding job is good. Keeps me from getting bored.
I'm giving the jerks the satisfaction because getting contacted by multiple people, through multiple channels, is giving me more panic attacks that I frankly don't need. What I need is for them to lave me the F alone. I would like to do that without help from an attorney. Hence the contact.
Fully agree. But I'd honestly be a little more specific - mention that their employees call you and message you through numerous channels and some of the communciation is unprofessional (perhaps send an example). Also - are you documenting all this? I hope so. LIst who is calling you, when, what is said, etc. Save all messages. Etc.
All of this. That email you received in which the sender listed who didn't like you will be a gem if this does come to legal action. So sorry you have to go through this. Hope your email will result in not hearing from that company anymore!Well, the communication was NIL for almost 1.5 years, then it began up again about a month ago. And if they're not paying me (not only that but badmouthing me around town) they forfeit any right for me to be willing to "assist during a transition period". Had they played it differently, sure. But that ship has sailed.
I've emailed HR a nicer version of the letter above, since I've gotten some emails this afternoon. It's not just email, but also phone, text, about a dozen people repeatedly checking my LinkedIn. But I'm still shaking. Oh well, I have some good stuff on email as well as I meet with a psych (FINALLY) tomorrow.
Thanks!
I think you're misunderstanding me. Send the letter. (I'm glad you sent something.). I would just do the "living well is the best revenge" thing. If they didn't like you, well f them. Someone new does. And you love them back. And it's obvious they miss you, but gosh you are so sorry but you've moved on already.
I didn't say "Stop contacting me" outright. But I did ignore the initial emails, and I responded to one of the people something along the lines of, "Because I have not worked for your firm in 1.5 years, I don't think my advice is helpful or appropriate." Which IMO isn't, "Hey, call me!"
Such assholes. I can't imagine how you get to that level of entitlement!
Bump. Heard back from the head of HR this morning. "I don't know if I can assist you, and I have to say I'm a bit confused by your email."
Fine. I'm going to bring it, forward the emails these people sent.
I'm late to the game here, but I think the response is the company playing dumb. I would respond to them with something along the lines of:
"I'm sorry that you found my email confusing. To clarify, please instruct your employees to cease contacting me as I am no longer under contract to work for your organization.
Thank you."
As you had already sent your email, I didn't say anything, but my email to them would have been more direct - like "I used to work for ABC company. XXX was my last day as an employee. However, in the past month, various employees have started contacting me via phone, email and Linked in asking for advice and information on X projects. Some of the communication is rude and unprofessional. I want this communication to end, immediately.
The employees in question are (list them). Here is an example of an email I received (provide a copy of the email".
Regardless - I like pips09 response. Not knowing exactly what you said - I would also consider giving names and (if you didn't already) examples of what they are saying to you.
And hell- I might even throw in "I am beginning to feel harassed". Buzz word. Might get HR to wake up.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Pips I basically copied your response verbatim.
No word back.
I'm just LIVID that these people are so entitled, that they feel their company's SOOOO awesome, that I should want to bend over backwards to just work for free. Seriously, it looks like they're reaching out a year after the fact, to rub my contract termination in my face.
My friend is telling me I should give BAD advice free... <evil laugh>
K3am - the bit about giving bad advice was a joke, hence the fake Evil Laugh html tag at the end.
I'm such a leper in this community anyway, for no apparent reason. That's part of the reason I have such a long commute.
From what little insight you gave here, this company just doesn't sound normal. While you won't always get along w/ everyone, while there is always workplace drama- for the fact that multiple people are now reaching out to you after a year AND bringing up old drama - they simply aren't normal.
Don't invest any more time or emotion on this whack-job of a former workplace of yours!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Thanks, but the problem in this area is that people see newcomers as owing the community something, like we have to justify our right to have moved here. What pisses me off is that they see themselves as ENTITLED to get my assistance for free, just because I moved to THEIR community. Where it looks like they've badmouthed me so much, I was unable to find a job within an hour's drive of my home, and it pays me what I made 9 years ago.
I don't see myself REMOTELY as having "won".