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Mama on a budget

Albertsgirl1982Albertsgirl1982 member
in September 2013 Moms
I was really happy to connect with a mama friend at baby yoga in the winter. We registered for baby swim together and text almost daily. She's totally my new best friend. The trouble is dh and I don't have a lot of money right now. I'm going back to school in the fall and still on mat leave so we are relying on dh's income. Plus we have to support family overseas. I've budgeted our mom-and-baby stuff so we are ok but....my new friend wants to do everything! She keeps finding really cool classes and inviting me but we can't afford it. So I am forced to decline. I feel so humiliated when I'm all excited about a class then have to back out and it's obviously about the money. Sometimes I stretch the truth and make an excuse because I don't want to sound cheap. I don't want her to think I don't like hanging out with her when I invent reasons why we can't come. How would you handle this situation?
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  • ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
    If she's that good of a friend she will understand. I would just tell her the truth. "I love the sound of all these cool ideas, but H and I are really trying to save some money, so I found XYZ cool free activity that looks like we could have fun doing"
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    All testing shows both H and I are perfectly normal. Baby Nacho had triploidy. 
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  • thedashthedash member
    The weather is getting so nice this time of year so there are tons of things to do for free with LO's! Just tell her that you only budgeted for the one class so you're not going to pay for any others but you really want to go check out X, Y, and Z free things next week. Look for library story time and check the website for your county and state park systems for some events.
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  • blondii428blondii428 member
    Yep just tell the truth, no point in beating around the bush and I am sure she will understand!

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  • Albertsgirl1982Albertsgirl1982 member
    Thanks Ladies! I guess I just need to stop feeling sorry for myself.  I will do as you say.

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  • Salemkitty13Salemkitty13 member
    It sounds like she is also excited about having made a new mommy friend. I think that if you tell her that y'all are on a budget so that you can be a SAHM she will understand. I also like the idea of finding a no cost event so you can then say "but would you like to do x". It is difficult when your budget doesn't match your friend's. Let us know how it goes.
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  • BurrberrymumBurrberrymum member
    I'm glad you found a great mommy friend! I think by beating around the bush, trying to come up with different reasons for not being able to do the things she's suggesting might make her think that you just don't want to do them with her, I'm sure like mentioned if she's an awesome person she'll understand where you're coming from! Goodluck!
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