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Telling teenage siblings about baby (Sorry not trying to crash your party)

mhooks23mhooks23 member
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First I want to say that I am totally sorry for crashing the "wonders of a new baby" talk (no sarcasm intended), but I need some help.  I am 29 weeks pregnant and we are getting ready to tell my kids and SO's kids.  Together our kids are 12 & 10 me and he has 17 & 9. SO's teenager was not happy when we mentioned having a child 2 years ago.  That ended up not happening but needless to say we have waited so long now that we aren't giving them very much notice.  We really need to tell them

I am super worried that he is going to be upset about it.  Their relationship is strained at best already and I don't want this to be the straw that breaks the camels back so to speak. Does anyone have any experience or any advice for this.  I think the other kids will be super happy, although I realize they may not be and I think that it is okay for them to feel however they feel.  I am just worried about completely losing SO's teen since the relationship is so rocky already.

Thank you in advance for letting me gain advice and hi-jack you board for one important post. <3

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  • mhooks23mhooks23 member

    I started out my pregnancy overweight so it has been pretty easy to hide it.  It is getting more noticable now though so we have to tell.  I rarely see the teenager because he makes excuses to not come over, I don't I have even seen him for more than a minute or two per month since new years.  We have not bough anything for baby yet so there are no signs of an impending birth in our house only the fact that my bump is finally starting to grow out now so that I am starting to resemble the house.

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  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    You need to tell them. And you need to be prepared for them to be pissed you haven't before now. That's really not fair to them, no matter how little you see them.


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  • LoriLee14LoriLee14 member

    tell them. don't expect happiness. Maybe your husband can take them out to dinner and tell them himself so that they don't have to worry about your feelings and give them time to process the info.

     

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  • Katherine8908Katherine8908 member
    Not to be a downer and i hope your situation is different but From the point of view similar to the teenager .. I was 19 when my dad had gotten remarried and had a baby with his new wife him 50 her 40 we already had a strained relationship and this made it worse i was very upset by it and I became more distant the more he tried to get me involved I only just recently started to " fix" our relationship 5 years later because I just had a baby of my own and he should know his grandfather
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