Saw my MIL yesterday, first time since my DH told her we lost our baby. I hadn't received a card or flowers or anything from her so I figured she was waiting until we saw her this weekend. Nothing. Just a hug and comments about how this affects her too. Really? I understand it's a loss for her too, but physically and emotionally I am the one going through the hardest loss. Even DH made a comment on our way home last night that he was surprised she didn't at least give me a card. Oh, and to top it off, her hobby is card making!
BFP: 3/9/2014 EDD: 11/11/2014 MMC: 4/10/2014 D&C: 4/11/2014
Re: MIL vent
I've learned that people just do what they THINK you want or need and it's rarely what you really want or need. Some people think it will hurt more to bring something up so they act like nothing happened to try to make things feel normal, others make it about themselves as an attempt to relate, and then there are those that try to point out all the "silver linings" before you're ready to count them (the "at least..." comments like "at least you can get pregnant"). Although it still hurts, I try to remind myself that people usually mean well and if they haven't experienced it usually have no clue how to act or what to say after a m/c. That said, I'm sorry her actions upset you, even if it wasn't intentionally. Unfortunately I'm sure a lot of us can relate to that kind of disappointment.
BFP #1: 12/05/2012; EDD 08/09/2013; MC 01/2013 (missed, D&C)
BFP #2: 12/19/2013; EDD 08/25/2014; MC 01/2014 (natural)
I would definitely steer clear of her on Mother's Day. No need to put yourself in a potential hurtful situation. Maybe plan a nice day for you and your husband.