Monday Morning Vents

cecilyandgautam · April 2014

Don't you wish we had Easter Monday in the States? Vent away!

MamaAllison · April 2014

Not really a vent but this is my last week of maternity leave! So conflicted about not wanting to leave baby but excited to get back to work!

ss265 · April 2014

Had a stressful commute this morning and I don't really feel that I was productive over the weekend. No meals planned for the week - hoping to get some ideas from the meal plan Monday thread!

jf198400 · April 2014

I'm only 8 weeks pregnant and I already look pregnant. I look the same as the girls on fb who are 6 months pregnant.

WBMom · April 2014

I wish we had Easter Monday in the States. It is supposed to be a beautiful day here and I am stuck at work. Blah.

ss265 · April 2014

jf198400 said:

I'm only 8 weeks pregnant and I already look pregnant. I look the same as the girls on fb who are 6 months pregnant.

@jfl98400, if it helps, I was in the same boat! Started wearing maternity clothes at 5 weeks. However, I am now 16 weeks and I feel like the bump is the same size as it was at maybe 8 or 9 weeks.

jf198400 · April 2014

ss265 said:

jf198400 said:

I'm only 8 weeks pregnant and I already look pregnant. I look the same as the girls on fb who are 6 months pregnant.

@jfl98400, if it helps, I was in the same boat! Started wearing maternity clothes at 5 weeks. However, I am now 16 weeks and I feel like the bump is the same size as it was at maybe 8 or 9 weeks.

Thanks, that makes me feel better. I started wearing maternity pants at 6 weeks. This is my 3rd baby and I decided I might as well be comfortable.

jobiann · April 2014

I so wish I had off today, between all the holiday celebrations and preparing for the celebrations I had zero ME time...I'd love to be sitting around in my PJ's all day today without DH or DS home. Love them, but I'm in need of Mommy Time!

molisar · April 2014

I can hardly stand it when you have a get-together and people show up late. I will always give anyone with small children a pass. But the people I am whining about either have no children or are empty-nesters. There is no reason to be constantly late after I slave away at a meal and it sits and gets cold. I think I'm just going to tell them to come an hour earlier so that they actually make it on time.

MommaP12 · April 2014

This weekend was so jam packed with events for easter, a birthday party, etc. that I totally want a do over and now have to wait 5 days for that. Boooooo!

Also, if I don't know my closing date on our new house by EOD today, I'm going to lose it. Been living with my parents for one week and I'm already out of my mind and tired of the stress. We should know it today give we closed on our condo last Thursday and these crappy sellers wanted to ensure we were completely closed (homeless) before giving us a date.

Virgo17 · April 2014

We had a great, but busy weekend. I feel like I had no time to prep for the week. When I don't have my Sunday evening, I feel all out of sorts.

emberlee3 · April 2014

I was about to type a bunch of vents. Then I ate a cookie, and I forgot them all.

mae0111 · April 2014

Here's one about my weekend - my family forgot to tell me about their Easter celebration. Same thing happened at Christmas Eve, even when I pointed out that we had nowhere to go. When I pointed it out, things got ugly and Christmas was ruined for everyone. So this time I kept my mouth shut and made other plans. My mom called me at 10 am yesterday, going on about everything she cooked, and I told her we had other plans because no one called us. She tried to turn it around, and it replied, "Well, after Christmas, I wasn't asking anyone anything." Aaaaaand they're all pissed at me again. Super.

dglvrk2 · April 2014

Mine....I had a late afternoon meeting and didn't get home until 7:30. I walk into a completely trashed house (our hour is the tiny San Francisco type....there's very little room for anything) and two hungry children. I'm fine with the hungry kids, but Dd1 had ALL of her clothes out of her dresser. Books were scattered everywhere and DH's stuff is mixed in with the toddler piles. Grrrrrrrr.....

cecilyandgautam · April 2014

mae0111 said:

Here's one about my weekend - my family forgot to tell me about their Easter celebration. Same thing happened at Christmas Eve, even when I pointed out that we had nowhere to go. When I pointed it out, things got ugly and Christmas was ruined for everyone. So this time I kept my mouth shut and made other plans. My mom called me at 10 am yesterday, going on about everything she cooked, and I told her we had other plans because no one called us. She tried to turn it around, and it replied, "Well, after Christmas, I wasn't asking anyone anything." Aaaaaand they're all pissed at me again. Super.

That sucks big time, but I think you handled it well. If flagging that you were left in the dark caused drama last time, good call on just making other plans this time when you saw the same situation coming on. I hope you enjoyed your Easter with your immediate family. Hopefully for the next family function, you'll be more in the loop though - odd that they forget to invite you but assume you'll be ready to join in with less than 24 hours notice.

mae0111 · April 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

mae0111 said:

Here's one about my weekend - my family forgot to tell me about their Easter celebration. Same thing happened at Christmas Eve, even when I pointed out that we had nowhere to go. When I pointed it out, things got ugly and Christmas was ruined for everyone. So this time I kept my mouth shut and made other plans. My mom called me at 10 am yesterday, going on about everything she cooked, and I told her we had other plans because no one called us. She tried to turn it around, and it replied, "Well, after Christmas, I wasn't asking anyone anything." Aaaaaand they're all pissed at me again. Super.

That sucks big time, but I think you handled it well. If flagging that you were left in the dark caused drama last time, good call on just making other plans this time when you saw the same situation coming on. I hope you enjoyed your Easter with your immediate family. Hopefully for the next family function, you'll be more in the loop though - odd that they forget to invite you but assume you'll be ready to join in with less than 24 hours notice.

Thank you. We had a really nice day - egg hunt, long family walk, nice dinner out.

I know my family thinks I'm causing unnecessary drama. They feel that I just should have *known* what was happening, where to go, what time, etc. But it's different every year. Sometimes my sister hosts, sometimes my mom, sometimes we go out. Since my sister "forgot" to invite me for Christmas Eve, and then was angry that I declined when my mom TOLD her to invite me, so she and her family didn't show up to Christmas. 3 adults, 2 teenagers, 2 kids, tons of food wasted. I was NOT going to call and find out she "forgot" to invite me again.

I'm sure it was innocent. I'm not angry with them for forgetting. I am a little annoyed that they feel they have any right to be mad at me for not coming, though...

cecilyandgautam · April 2014

Can I have a Wednesday morning vent?

What is with the weird behavior the general public exhibits toward pregnant women? I'm just hitting the 3rd trimester and look pretty pregnant and I had forgotten all the weird stuff people do and say around a woman who's clearly pregnant. Just treat me like a normal person please! I mean, sure most people are well intentioned. I don't love answering "when are you due?" or hearing "any day now!" a dozen times a day, but that's not really what I'm complaining about. There's this odd subset of people who seem to have some sort of hostility towards a pregnant woman out in public - like this guy who barked at me this morning "are you going to sit?" gesturing at his seat. The metro was speeding along and I couldn't swap with him without letting go of the pole, risking falling, etc, so I said maybe we could switch at the next stop. He looked really annoyed and said "so, you're not going to sit?" as in, I'm not going to switch right this second, so I just said it's alright and declined so I could end the unfriendly exchange. He spent the rest of the trip glaring at me. WTF? You're not obligated to offer your seat and if you do, you shouldn't be all annoyed about it. You're not doing me any favors.

Also, it's not super helpful to jump in front of me, reach across me, and swing the door open in my face. I've tripped over three people this week who are dangerously eager to open the door for me. Okay, they probably mean well too, but come on! I'm not disabled, I can open my own door, and it's a lot safer for me to do it myself than to trip over you as you run all over me, cut me off, and get in my way.

I'm just a person. Let me walk in peace and leave me alone please.

mae0111 · April 2014

ooh... my turn... I can't tolerate it when people ask me for advice/help on a project, and then argue with me about why my advice is wrong.

DH has been working on a project for the neighborhood that is specific to his work area of expertise. He's really smart, but tends to lapse into engineering speak very easily. I can't help with a lot of the analysis, but I can help him to translate - that's my strength. But he's arguing with me about EVERYTHING. We need people to buy in to this idea, and there is a financial investment required to better the neighborhood. People glaze over when he gets going, but he refuses to change anything.

SO STOP ASKING FOR MY ADVICE!!!!!

cecilyandgautam · April 2014

Since you all are so accommodating, my second vent of the day: I'm currently on a short term assignment that comes with more visibility but longer hours & the work is kinda boring. Anyway, I did this because I was asked to by rather senior people in my org, my boss agreed to foster more visibility for my home office and have me be an ambassador of sorts since our little unit otherwise gets kind of ignored. Well, I haven't been loving my short term assignment lately but it's almost over, so have been putting on a good face and trying to make the most of it - ran into my boss today who claims she had no idea my assignment was going to be this long, she never agreed to this, etc etc etc.

Um, wow. I specifically remember having conversations about the length of the assignment, so I know this isn't the first she's hearing of it. More importantly, this was not my call *at all* - I was asked, I ran it by the boss before saying I'd be potentially interested, and then people several levels above me sorted out the rest of the details in meetings I was not invited to. This is not the first time my boss has proclaimed she's never agreed to something that I witnessed her agree to, and she have a signed document as such. So, now I feel weird. I definitely did not trick her or even want to be on this assignment for this long. In fact, I'd love to have my old hours back early. It's her lapse in memory and there's documentation to prove it, but now I need to go back and gently remind her where she can find the documents to refresh her memory and what the process would be if she wants to cut the deal short. I've seen her explode at others before claiming she'd never agree to something that I know she did agree to, and it's somewhat unsettling. Sure, everyone has their quirks, but this is just kind of weird. Thankfully I have documentation this time, and I wouldn't mind if she went back on her word on this one, but that won't always be the case, right? Sort of scary.

WBMom · April 2014

I need a Wednesday vent; I have had the stomach flu since Monday. Feeling better today and am able to work from home. My coworker is going to make me go insane: she complains more about how much work she has to do and can never get it done. 2 people on this call have offered to assist her but no, she never accepts it and my manager never forces her to give up her work to someone else. Instead I have to listen to her spend more time complaining about lack of time instead of working more efficiently and stop complaining. (ok - vent over)

ss265 · April 2014

cecilyandgautam said:

Since you all are so accommodating, my second vent of the day: I'm currently on a short term assignment that comes with more visibility but longer hours & the work is kinda boring. Anyway, I did this because I was asked to by rather senior people in my org, my boss agreed to foster more visibility for my home office and have me be an ambassador of sorts since our little unit otherwise gets kind of ignored. Well, I haven't been loving my short term assignment lately but it's almost over, so have been putting on a good face and trying to make the most of it - ran into my boss today who claims she had no idea my assignment was going to be this long, she never agreed to this, etc etc etc.

Um, wow. I specifically remember having conversations about the length of the assignment, so I know this isn't the first she's hearing of it. More importantly, this was not my call *at all* - I was asked, I ran it by the boss before saying I'd be potentially interested, and then people several levels above me sorted out the rest of the details in meetings I was not invited to. This is not the first time my boss has proclaimed she's never agreed to something that I witnessed her agree to, and she have a signed document as such. So, now I feel weird. I definitely did not trick her or even want to be on this assignment for this long. In fact, I'd love to have my old hours back early. It's her lapse in memory and there's documentation to prove it, but now I need to go back and gently remind her where she can find the documents to refresh her memory and what the process would be if she wants to cut the deal short. I've seen her explode at others before claiming she'd never agree to something that I know she did agree to, and it's somewhat unsettling. Sure, everyone has their quirks, but this is just kind of weird. Thankfully I have documentation this time, and I wouldn't mind if she went back on her word on this one, but that won't always be the case, right? Sort of scary.

Wow. Well at least you have documentation this time but it sounds like a crazy situation.

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