Do you want more children after this one?

lizok22 · April 2014

I came late to the game after some fertility and miscarrage trouble and now i want many children. Of course, i want to see how this one plays out first but my mind keeps wandering to how much more time do i have? how soon can i get pregnant again? Anyone else thinking ahead?

QOTR · April 2014

We went into this thinking that we'd only have one, but I wouldn't mind having two, for a couple of reasons:

Being older parents, I like the idea of my son having a sibling that can help him as we age and pass. I recently lost my mom and having my siblings to bounce tough decisions off of was so helpful. But hopefully, he will have a strong support system, even if he is an only child.

The second is for selfish reasons. I feel like I've worried and fretted through this entire pregnancy. It is probably a naive belief, but I think I might be able to relax and enjoy a subsequent pregnancy more.

My husband is an only child and has never missed having siblings. I hope our kiddo feels the same.

moroccojade · April 2014

Since my daughter is almost 7... I was almost ready to be done.

But we thought we'd see what happened. This is definitely our last pregnancy.

shaylagirl · April 2014

Part of me -kind- of wishes to do it again.

Except, I have a 16 year old of my own, and a SS with DH. 4 kids? DH said "Nope, not happening. I'm getting snipped after this."

I was a single mom for 14 years. I'm looking forward to experiencing motherhood with my husband. He's a great dad (actually, he tends to spoil SS), and it's the one thing he says he's good at in his life.

But, we're just going "One and Done".

He's already saying that people are going to think he's WeeNut's grandpa.

MommyAtty · April 2014

I had my first at 38. Pregnant with second, and first will be 22 mos when this one is born. I will be 40. This is it for us. I think 2 kids is perfect for us. We always thought we would only have one, but we so loved parenthood that we decided to do it again.

CiderWench · April 2014

I am on number four and always thought I wanted six. But, since my miscarriage, I've worried so much over this pregnancy that, even if my husband okayed it, I don't think I would do it again.

springbeduk2 · April 2014

I think I want one more, and hope that will be possible. Though let's see what I say after delivery! DH might even want 2 more ... though again, all this is easy to say when #1 isn't even here yet.

Klavanga74 · April 2014

We're done after this one. With a 10 and 12 year old also in the house, I think we will be busy enough, but I'm sure looking forward to this little one!

JilliansMoma · April 2014

My DH and I are done after this baby! I was leaning towards being done after DD#3 but my hubby really wanted ons more and God surprised us with this miracle! Now we need to figure out what to do with with our 4 frozen embroys.

MCH77 · April 2014

If I was younger and had married rich, I think I'd be open to having more.

Right now I'm pg with #2. I really want DS to have a sibling. Im 99% sure we will be done after this one.

nikkiuk · April 2014

My daughter is 21 next week, my son is 16 so, yeah, no doubt whatsoever that I am done after this little surprise! Plus, I'll be getting a tubal ligation when I have my C-Section to make absolutely sure too.

Krisd6 · April 2014

I would love to!

MrsDL · April 2014

This is our last, 2 is the right number for us. I had my first at 36 and will be almost 40 when this one comes. They'll be about 3.5 years apart, I initially planned for a closer age difference but just couldn't do it, it was a rough first year with DS. That said, I still wish I wouldn't have waited so long. My sister and I are less than 1 year apart - if you want another one right away - go for it. In hindsight you're never perfectly ready for 1 or 2 or more or 2 under a 2, twins, etc. but time is precious and you find a way to make it work.

smile24k · April 2014

I always thought I wanted at least two, but now I'm not sure. Very excited about being pregnant, but there is also a lot of stress with not knowing how things are going in between doc appointments. I wouldn't rule it out, but just not sure. If we decide not to have another child, I would consider adoption.

potterybygrace · April 2014

I was hoping for twins so we would be one and done, but just one child this time. I definitely want a 2nd, because the single children I deal with tend to be selfish with attention and don't know how to share. Also 2nd time I won't be quite as indulgent with the sweets during pregnancy!

Jennys9 · April 2014

I'm in the same situation of being delayed by infertility & early miscarriage. I had my heart set on several children, and even though I am grateful just to be pregnant after four years of trying, I can't help but think about how much time before we try for another. It took me two years to be able to plan my wedding as we waited for my husband to graduated since he went back to school. Then we saved money, and then 1 year of trying on our own, followed by 3 years of IF.

I had no idea at 29 when I got engaged I would end up being 37 when my first child was born.

I hope hope hope we can have more.

brittanyb76 · April 2014

I started pretty early (19) and ENDED pretty late! (38) This is my fourth and definitely my LAST!! My youngest is already 13. I also have an 18 and a 16 year old. I wasn't planning to have any more. But, yay! Another baby girl, I think. I can't wait to meet her!!!

mccall0113 · April 2014

I was thinking the same today. I would love more. Took us 4 ivf cycles. But we have 4 embryos left

Jennoskcaj · April 2014

Jennys9 said:

I'm in the same situation of being delayed by infertility & early miscarriage. I had my heart set on several children, and even though I am grateful just to be pregnant after four years of trying, I can't help but think about how much time before we try for another. It took me two years to be able to plan my wedding as we waited for my husband to graduated since he went back to school. Then we saved money, and then 1 year of trying on our own, followed by 3 years of IF.
I had no idea at 29 when I got engaged I would end up being 37 when my first child was born.
I hope hope hope we can have more.

I have a similar situation. Wound up taking us almost 4 years once we started TTC due to DH having kidney transplants which resulted in male factor infertility. Not only did the health issues delay our wedding plans, but then also wound up delaying our ability to conceive by several years. I'm 39 and expecting our first, but we have 6 frozen embryos so we're planning to try again very soon after DD is born (hopefully within 6 months).

MrsL2B · April 2014

I was surprised when I suddenly wanted one, so I will be really surprised if I ever want a second!

harmonicbabe26 · April 2014

Nope. This one is #2 and it def took my H A LOT of convincing to try for it. I was quite happy with just one but he was acting like it would be the end of the world to just have one. Oh well.

TUGOsQueen · April 2014

This is my fourth and I'm having a hats tine committing to having a tubal during my rcs.
If I was to have another, it would be soon after this one. I worry most about my husband's age with all these young children and 5 c/s.
I wish I was more decisive

olenkapdx · April 2014

Just had my first at 38, via IVF. SO and I have talked about one more, but we definitely have our hands full (and are VERY happy!) with just the one for now! It would also mean returning to IVF, which means banking some serious cash. Not sure if we'll be able to hack that, but we'll see. Where there's a will...

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