Hi, I’m Leah. This is my first post; I just need a supportive outlet to get this off my chest. I’m worried that the comments I get will not be all that positive because of being at an economic disadvantage. But, here’s my story.
First,
Onward!
I was emancipated at 3 months old, my grandmother raised me, I was a ward-of-the-court and thus, given Medicaid, the only form of welfare I have ever utilized. My grandmother didn’t believe in doctors, only taking me to the health department for my school required shots. My periods were so bad that I went to the health department and they gave me BC pills. The side effects were worse than the mild to no relief I got from the now regular cycle they gave me that I went off the pills. I started going to a doctor in 2006 when I could no longer handle the pain I was in daily. I was told that the pain was all in my head, that my periods were bad because I had never stretched my lady parts with a newborn’s head and body expelling out of them, and that I may have endometrioses. Nothing was ever done about my lady parts. But lots of blood tests drug trials and x-rays for the pain problem that had no reason to be.
My college education and my part time employment slowed and then stopped. My unexplained pain problem led to frustration and depression, I let go of my dreams for my education and career goals, but never let go of the dream of becoming a mom. Even when my fiancé who I had been in a relationship with for a total of 7 years left me, because I didn’t get along with his newly widowed father’s girlfriend. I met my DH soon after that. He has been supportive of me and my struggle; I got an answer to the mystery pain, Fibromyalgia. And now I have a new doctor who is finally listening to me about my concerns with my lady parts. I am waiting on blood tests to figure out why I have had problems with Galactorrhea. I am worried that my health problems will continue to elude medical findings. I am hoping that my problems are just hypothyroidism and endometriosis that are easily treated. I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired.
This cycle I have been really good tracking my BBT, only recently got into the BBT habit. my temps hover between 96.8-97.3 with one freak 97.6 (on the day my doc says I ovulated, He said I should start my period on 4/20; calender says I should ovulate on 4/20.) I've also been using an OPK (Clear blue digital 20 test kit. last month I used Walgreen's brand 20 test kit and only got 2 negatives.) so far all negative.
This is the first time I have had to wait over a week for results on a blood test, and I really wish I didn't have to wait a whole month before surgery. Any advise on not going completely nuts?
Re: Waiting on so much...
I know finding the right board is difficult. In reading the intro posts, this one seemed to be the correct one. I will keep this up to date once the results are in. Baby dust.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
Took a look at the TTGP board and yeah, I like it hear better.
I am of the opinion that women have been having babies for thousands of years before the invention of baby gear, disposable diapers, cloth diaper toilet shower heads, formula, and processed baby food. Babies don't need to be expensive. and Adoption isn't always an option. DH makes good money, we do currently live with family (a sort of in-law apartment), but because of my other health issues I prefer it that way. Baby dust.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
let me put it this way, the raincoat has been off for a long time, just the timing or even ovulation half of this matter not happening. twice according to calender the timing was perfect. but no, hopes ended in disappointment with AF. DH is always worried about my depression when she comes to visit.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
PCOS | Anovulatory | Metformin + Letrozole
Married 7/15/12
Began TTC 3/2013
First appointment with RE 7/2013
8/2013 benched w/ cyst
9/2013 100mg clomid w/ menopur/cancelled due to 15+ foll.
10/2013 25 mg. clomid w/trigger shot/2 foll. canceled IUI
11/2013 benched w/cyst
12/2013 25 mg. clomid w/trigger shot and IUI 3 foll. BFN
1/2014 25 mg. clomid w/ trigger shot and IUI 2 foll. BFN
2/2014 took off-too emotionally drained
3/2014 25 mg. clomid w/ trigger shot and IUI 2 foll. BFN
4/2014 injectibles w/ trigger and prog. inserts 2 foll. BFP!!!
4/21/14 Beta #1 715 (18 dpo)
With DH's promotion he will finally get health coverage (long story), but because of our paperwork, I will not be included on it. I still have the "looked-down-upon" Medicaid and Medicare. But we will be financially well enough off to birth and raise our children. I've been looking at costs out-of-pocket for fertility drug treatments, and they seem to be within my means of my limited income, for now.
@BunnyBerry, My doctor predicted my ovulation while probing me with an ultrasound wand. He had little time or interest in looking at my current chart. (The appointment was supposed to be for a yearly pap and exam.)
As my BBT this chart is quiet a sight... (97.1,97.3,97.2,96.9,97.3,97.1,96.9,97.6,97.3,97.1,97.0,96.8,97.1,96.9,96.8,97.0) I had one good .5 spike but it didn't stay. my Clear Blue OPK are still negative as well.
Last cycle I started charting my BBT (I had been trying to make tracking my BBT a habit for months and only just reached success.) appearently, my temps late in my cycle are above 98, I just haven't seen that yet in this cycle.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
I hope this is helpful in your understanding of where I come from, I am no stranger to struggle and frustration, which seemingly has been my life; and now I have a good support team of family and a few good friends which I didn’t have 3 years ago. It is in this new struggle facing the black and white on what has been a hypothesis of IF for so long. For 8 years my doctors response to my wanting the answers about if I do or do not have endometriosis has been “just try” to get pregnant. So yes, I am new IF and close to getting solid answers to those questions. I am hoping that soon my cycle will no longer be such a miserable mystery, and that things can be brought under control for the best baby making outcome.
Thank you.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
ME: 34, Atypical PCOS (lean, no O without meds) + unexplained; DH: 33, mildly low motility
09/2012: Start TTC after stopping NuvaRing. No cycles seemed to occur.
01/2013 - 05/2013: Tried Provera to "jumpstart" cycles. No luck.
12/2013- 01/2014: Clomid 50mg - no big follies, stepped to 100mg; One mature follie, Ovidrel (HCG trigger), IUI #1 completed - BFN
02/2014: Clomid 100mg; One mature follie, Ovidrel trigger, IUI #2 completed, Crinone - BFN
03/2014: Clomid 100mg - no big follies on 1st round, 2nd round prescribed; One mature follie, Ovidrel, IUI #3 completed, Crinone - BFN
04/2014-05/2014: Letrozole 5mg + Ovidrel HG to prep for IUI #4 switched to TI, Crinone - BFN
05/2014-06/2014: Letrozole 5mg; one mature follie, Ovidrel, IUI #4.1 completed, Crinone - BFN
07/2014-08/2014: Letrozole 5mg; one mature follie, Ovidrel, IUI #5 completed, Crinone - BFN
09/2014-10/2014: IVF Prep - Insurance requires IUI #6; Letrozole 5mg - no big follies 1st round, 2nd round prescribed; IUI #6, Crinone - BFN
11/2014: "Break" - Letrozole 5mg to cycle before prepping for IVF - successfully O'ed, but BFN
12/2014: Extending 'break' one more Letrozole-only TI cycle for mental health break - BFN
01/2015-02/2015: Prep for IVF - BCP then Gonal-F, Ganirelex, Novarel trigger; ER scheduled 2/11!
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4cf919
PAIF/SAIF Welcome.
Me 34 Him 33
May 2014 - Break cycle to repeat saline sonogram and re-group. Travel to Kauai 5/7-5/12 (Yay!!)
@Calindi, Thank you. I have heard from therapists in the past that they are amazed that I am doing so well, like they expected someone who has been abused for so long (age 3 to 17 ½) to be more mentally messed up. The fact that the term “welfare queen” exists is because of those few who ruin it for the rest of us. I completely agree with you that the financial standing or lack of has little to no right in the affairs of parenthood.
@EastBayBride508, Thank you. My pasted doctors were not so keen at listening to me. So I turned to the internet, Pinterest, and I am currently reading “What To Expect When You’re Expecting” (though am not even expecting yet.) I like to be educated and well informed. It is both a blessing and a curse in that right. My mind often is the only part of me that works on a regular basis, Fibro Fog aside. Lately the fibromyalgia pain hasn’t been very bad, just the fatigue lingers. I try to avoid anything that will send me into a flare. My new doctor is listening to me, but said I was exhausting because I unloaded years of pent up questions on him at once. He wants me to see my therapist, who I find utterly useless, but if that will keep him compliant then fine. I have mild bipolar and integrated DID, I am not on any medication for my conditions which is what has him so worried. Yet, DH is worried about the pain and fatigue of my physical condition. I understand their concerns, and am in a good place with the support I need around me to be successful.
I used to keep all my baby-subject pins on Pinsterest in a secret board. I was very happy when they took the limit of secret boards off, I have so many on the subject now it's crazy.
Baby Dust
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
***EVERYONE WELCOME***
@tptbabe, I had called my Doctor on Friday to see if the results were in, and no, not yet. He is testing for Galactorrhea. My right breast has been lactating on its own since December 2010. I had a chemical pregnancy a year or so before that. The 2 tests are Thyroid PNL(TSH, Free T4) and Prolactin. I have Laparoscopy to check for endometriosis on May 19th. Hoping between now and then we can get to the bottom of my thyroid function since my temps are really low, I am always cold. And my Fibro gets all the blame for any pain, weakness, or chronic fatigue. My low blood pressure gets the blame for my dizzy and fainting spells.
Funny you mention moles, had a cancer scare in high school because 3 moles on my back had colored halos around them. I’ve had a number of blistery sunburns growing up. I then learned to stay out of the sun as much as possible.
This cycle is becoming more and more odd. I don’t normally have a problem with pimples, but this week my forehead exploded, and my right ovary has hurt since seeing the doc just over a week ago.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
***EVERYONE WELCOME***
Best Case is hypothyroidism and ednometriosis, worst is premature ovarian failure or having a luteal phase that's too short.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
Thank you. It may not seem like it, but I am very shy, and you all make me feel very welcome here, best of baby dust to all of you. to all of us.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
***EVERYONE WELCOME***
Sorry I have been away from my computer. I have an update on my blood tests. The thyroid and prolactin tests came back normal. I don’t remember the number, but they are using the old standard. However, 4 other tests that my Dr thought he had ordered on the 11th hadn’t been, so I had to get those done today. All but one were said to be ready within an hour, the last I have to wait up to 5 days. These were LH, FSH, androgen, and one other that the name escapes me. Here’s hoping for good news. Thank you for your concern, I will keep you all updated.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
THYROID PNL(TSH, FREE T4)
FREE T4: .8 Range: .6-1.6ng/dL
TSH: .80 Range: .34-5.6 uIU/mL
TESTOSTERONE
58 Range: 6-75ng/dL
PROLACTIN
6.8 Range: 3.3-19.6ng/dL
LUTEINIZING HORMONE
15.7 No Range mIU/mL
FOLLICLE STIM. HORMONE
4.5 No Range mIU/mL
DHEA-SULFATE
289 Range: 65-380ug/dL
I can't make hide nor tail of it. Dr and I are moving ahead with surgery next month. Still hoping for good news.
baby dust.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
CD 12; THYROID PNL & PROLACTIN
CD 23; TESTOSTERONE, LH, FSH, & DHEA-SULFATE
My appointment was on CD 12, but not all of the labs were in the computer when I went to get my blood drawn at the hospital across the street from my GYN’s office.
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009
DH: 9/1986
Together 1/2011
Chemical pregnancy: 8/2009