Something fun: FFFC...anyone??

ronniesgirl1981 · April 2014

How about some Flame Free Friday Confessions??

No food confessions...we all ate something gross this week!! Unless it's like really, really gross!!

Let's hear them!!

ronniesgirl1981 · April 2014

I'll go first. I'm married to a teacher and totally resent that he gets a spring break. I feel like I'm the one who needs a "break" right now, not him.

It makes me act like a rotten, little kid. I'm not proud.

ronniesgirl1981 · April 2014

@calindi I take full responsibility. @NariaDreaming We might need you on standby!!

Also, I get it. You want him to want to. FWIW, I'm pretty sure we haven't had sex since I started my BCP prep on 2/22.

Pintobean39 · April 2014

I'm so glad I finally triggered. I'm tired of having sex. My husband wanted to again this morning but I got up and popped in the Endometrin so we can't now. That may or may not been on purpose. Sex hurts way to much, when he mentioned turkey Baster as a joke, I was really thinking that had to be a good idea.

Aeml1985 · April 2014

It's 8am, im having a rum and coke......

theholmanherd · April 2014

Hmm...

My FFFC is often lay in bed for over an hour after I wake up so I can mess around on TB. To be fair, my H gets up super early so I have no need to get up that early but I can't fall back to sleep.

theholmanherd · April 2014

Rumbera28 said:

theholmanherd said:

Hmm...

My FFFC is often lay in bed for over an hour after I wake up so I can mess around on TB. To be fair, my H gets up super early so I have no need to get up that early but I can't fall back to sleep.

I thought we all did that :-D

Haha I'm glad I'm not alone. My H thinks I'm weird for just laying in bed on my phone.

athlete010688 · April 2014

FINEdoubleLINE said:

I manage our finances. My husband doesn't even look at our bank accounts. I have everything organized in our lock box in case something happens to me. I tell him we have a lot less money then we do. If I told him the truth, he would want to spend it. He is blissfully unaware.

Yep, I do this too! I make it seem like we're out of money for the month. Now granted, with what he's had to spend on his car...it's been true the past couple of months (minus the fact we still have a small savings account)

Sami14vb · April 2014

I'm not sure.

ronniesgirl1981 · April 2014

@Sami14vb This hearts my heart. You are both so much more than your reproductive capabilities.

Sami14vb · April 2014

@FINEdoubleLINE I thought the purpose of a confessional was to tell something that you would normally never say to anyone in a non-judgmental setting. I would never lie to my spouse about money, yet I didn't comment on anyone's post judgementally because I know that is the point of a confessional. I am feeling judged by you...

ronniesgirl1981 · April 2014

@Sami14vb and @FINEedoubleLINE I just wanted to thank you both for your mature responses.

Twinkie0612 · April 2014

@sami14vb I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I think IF can make us question our life choices.

I also recommend seeing a counselor (if you can one that specializes in IF, if not one that specializes in loss counselor is another good choice), they are really great at helping you sort out the source of your feelings. I have been seeing one since IVF #3 failed and it is just so helpful to have someone that understands the feelings associated around infertility.

Twinkie0612 · April 2014

My FFFC is that I have been a complete horn dog recently. Since we have decided to move on to donor embryos, our sex life has taken off. We have way more sex than we ever had, even more than when we were TTC on our own. We had sex last night and this morning and will probably have sex again tonight since my period should be starting tomorrow. DH even turned down sex a week ago and that never happens. I might be wearing the poor guy out.

theholmanherd · April 2014

Twinkie0612 said:

My FFFC is that I have been a complete horn dog recently. Since we have decided to move on to donor embryos, our sex life has taken off. We have way more sex than we ever had, even more than when we were TTC on our own. We had sex last night and this morning and will probably have sex again tonight since my period should be starting tomorrow. DH even turned down sex a week ago and that never happens. I might be wearing the poor guy out.

This is my biggest PMS symptom. I get so sex-crazed right before AF. It's like clockwork LOL. My poor DH is usually exhausted from work (construction) so he's not always in the mood. I can usually persuade him though

Twinkie0612 · April 2014

@calindi We rarely had "unscheduled" sex during our treatment cycles and when we did DH had to pretty much beg because I was never in the mood. I think a lot of it has to do with just being freed from the pressure of cycling, we've both let go of the expectations that sex might lead to a baby. I don't think I realized how much stress our relationship has been under the last year and the toll it has taken. We've just hit our groove and it's been nice.

I am getting ready to start my donor embryo cycle, so we'll see if this continues.

Twinkie0612 · April 2014

calindi said:

Oh, speaking of unusual fertility drug experiences, I have lost weight while medicated. Like noticeably so (I don't own a scale so I can't tell you in numbers and pounds). And my skin is better than it has been in years.

I am jealous. I gained around 40lbs between my three IVF cycles, but I think part of it was the steroids I was on. I never had an issue with my skin during cycles though.

hope2bmom83 · April 2014

My FFFC is that I am super jealous of @twinkie0612 and her sex life! J/k... sort of!
My DH is super tame in that area. He is completely content with once a week, twice maybe. I've worked very hard to get us on the same page. We now have incredible sex, but only 1/4 as much as I wish. I'm still working on that one!

theholmanherd · April 2014

TMI warning LOL

Another FFFC: I love sex and have it as often as H will allow, but I've only orgasmed maybe 10 times in my life (all but one have been with my H). I just can't get my mind to relax long enough. Don't get me wrong, my H is hot and I love him so much and sex is so fun, but I've definitely had to learn to just do without. I've been told if I don't focus on it, maybe it will happen. It's fun to try, anyway

It sucks to think I might be one of those women that just can't O, but I can live with it.

Twinkie0612 · April 2014

Rumbera28 said:

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TMI warning LOL

Another FFFC: I love sex and have it as often as H will allow, but I've only orgasmed maybe 10 times in my life (all but one have been with my H). I just can't get my mind to relax long enough. Don't get me wrong, my H is hot and I love him so much and sex is so fun, but I've definitely had to learn to just do without. I've been told if I don't focus on it, maybe it will happen. It's fun to try, anyway It sucks to think I might be one of those women that just can't O, but I can live with it.
TMI I second the vibrator and hell I'm tempted to buy one for you! I O every single time bc if it's not happening for me, we will bring "Precious" into the mix. Yes, we named it. My recommendation is the hitachi magic wand, use it during BD and try not to go deaf from the explosion.

Yes, definitely get a vibrator! I recommend a good bullet vibrator. It's small and easy to incorporate during sex. We have an entire arsenal of toys, at all levels of kink. A good vibe can take you from great sex to mindblowing sex.

CandaceC1020 · April 2014

NariaDreaming said:

FFFC #2- I have the same hall pass arrangement as @calindi does with her DH and I've taken advantage of it

I couldn't do this or let my husband do this. I'll admit it, I'm a psycho bitch. I'm not good with separating feelings and sex. And if my husband cheated, I would kill the bitch that slept with my husband and then I'd castrate my husband and let him bleed to death.

theholmanherd · April 2014

Twinkie0612 said:

Rumbera28 said:

I
TMI warning LOL

Another FFFC: I love sex and have it as often as H will allow, but I've only orgasmed maybe 10 times in my life (all but one have been with my H). I just can't get my mind to relax long enough. Don't get me wrong, my H is hot and I love him so much and sex is so fun, but I've definitely had to learn to just do without. I've been told if I don't focus on it, maybe it will happen. It's fun to try, anyway It sucks to think I might be one of those women that just can't O, but I can live with it.
TMI I second the vibrator and hell I'm tempted to buy one for you! I O every single time bc if it's not happening for me, we will bring "Precious" into the mix. Yes, we named it. My recommendation is the hitachi magic wand, use it during BD and try not to go deaf from the explosion.

Yes, definitely get a vibrator! I recommend a good bullet vibrator. It's small and easy to incorporate during sex. We have an entire arsenal of toys, at all levels of kink. A good vibe can take you from great sex to mindblowing sex.

I've considered it, but DH is a little sensitive about it. His ex was dependent on it and I think he thought it was his fault. Nevermind the fact that she was a cheating whore, but whatever. ANYWAY, I might do it eventually, I just (another FFFC) never got into masturbation. I don't care if other people do it, but I've never been interested in it. Maybe I'm just weird....we do enjoy kinky stuff and role playing. So much TMI!

theholmanherd · April 2014

Hoping4LO said:

This is a fun post! I got a porpoise vibrater when I was 26 and it was the first o I ever had without a man to help. I also have never had an o from oral sex. You could line up a bunch of men to try it on me and I'm convinced no one could ever make it happen!

HAHA! If I had been eating when I read this, it would have gone all over my screen

ktupiak · April 2014

I definitely agree with a vibrator ideas...I've had won the entire time me and DH have been together the odd part is though I went with him and his mother when I bought it, the odd part was it was actually his mom's idea to stop that day it's all just weird...lol. he wanted to make sure I didn't get one that was bigger than him...lol.

the other thing I have is something nobody knows but one day I was a little excited at home and it was before we had "BOB" and I needed some help so I kinda grabed the end of the swiffer...DH never let me live that one down. we were watching the newlywed show one day and they asked who would have been the last person who has sex with your wife before you did now my husband is my first so he started cracking up and said I have to stay swiffer and I punched him...lol

Lillovebug79 · April 2014

I like this thread!!
So I have to work Friday, Saturday, Sunday all 12 hour shifts, which I absolutely hate! It only happens once a month but I dread it. I think what I hate most is knowing DH is home relaxing or doing whatever he wants while I'm busting my butt. Today, he left work at noon to go golfing which made me angry. He absolutely deserved the break but I was so jealous that I called him twice for no good reason while I knew he was playing. Tomorrow I have a list of things for him to do while I'm at work. Not really fair because he doesn't do that to me and I'm being a B**** and I know it! I even said under my breath that I can't wait until his weekends are like mine (when I'm working, I'm a NICU nurse) feeding babies, changing diapers, and barely having time to pee or eat lunch!!

BunnyBerry · April 2014

Since I'm gained weight / changed shape from Crohn's and steroids, I can really have a preggo-type belly if I'm not careful with clothes. Well I spent a day wandering around a city in Europe by myself last month, wearing a long stretchy skirt and fitted tee. I relaxed my belly right out, and walked around all day with a tiny bit of a waddle and even rested my hand on my belly a couple times. No one seemed to notice or care (don't even know if it was convincing or if I just looked chubby) but it was a fun, anonymous fantasy for me!!

Also, since this has turned into a sex-confessions thread, I also still feel guilty for taking matters into my own hands a couple times during the fertile window even though I read that it can harm the sperm waiting in my body through the contractions and different pH. The hormones at O time just really get me going!

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