UO Thursday

llybeck · April 2014

Let's do it.

llybeck · April 2014

I didn't used to think this was a UO but I think it is, I love the Easter bunny and don't see how it's creepy at all. DD loved getting her pictures with him too, she was clinging to his fur when I picked her up!

I also don't like The Big Bang Theory. Scratch that, I HATE The Big Bang Theory.

I hate the whole "princess" theme and think it's gotten totally out of hand, I had to refrain from slapping SO when he called DD princess the other day.

As much as I hate it and I hate spending money, I think a lot of things should be paid for regarding weddings. I don't think everyone NEEDS to do this but I feel compelled to, for example, I'm paying for our moms and all my bridesmaids and attendants hair and makeup and I wish I could pay for their dresses but they won't let me. I also think it's important to really put an effort into giving them something special as a thank you, especially when they are coming from hours away and have to pay for a hotel and gas and all that. I totally agree that you can do a wedding on a budget but there are only so many places you can cut corners, I feel better knowing I am giving our wedding party and guests the best I can afford.

Salemkitty13 · April 2014

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

I always think I wish my baby would crawl. I'm worried he won't.

But I also understand the sentiment of not being ready yet. I know I haven't baby proofed enough. That statement above just sounds AW to me though.

Salemkitty13 · April 2014

Oh @jdoud77‌ no no no I meant the statement look at them crawl hug me. If I saw that on my general FB feed I might think the person was being AW. Not you. I love you

ETA if I saw this on a baby group I wouldn't think it was AW. I think FB baby groups are designed for this so we don't get on IRL people nerves.

Salemkitty13 · April 2014

I think The bump on my iPad sucks since the update. I hope this is not a UO.

database6 · April 2014

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

I am so happy that my LO is learning new things, and I def encourage and praise her, but my insides, while happy, are still a little sad that the time is flying by so fast. I guess it is just bittersweet, really bittersweet.

bermybabe68 · April 2014

I overpump. First, it's pisses my a-hole supervisor off as well as a B of a coworker. I LOVE that it grinds their gears and I wholy intent to pump for a lot longer than the 1 year mark I had set for myself. Seconldly I also do it because of all the calories it burns. The engorgement doesn't bother me

Zoly1103 · April 2014

I did not cry at the World's Toughest job video. In fact I kind of rolled my eyes. I might have a cold, dead heart. That said, my mom was of course awesome and I love/d her very much.

bermybabe68 · April 2014

@lindszachary‌ I live in Bermuda. There's no laws here regarding it, nor is there a policy at my job about it. However my company supports breastfeeding and would let let me carry on for however long I want to. My supervisor would be up against HR and the union. I know he wouldn't even try. Btw (thread jack, sorry), how's it going now that you're at home? Are you feeling better about things? My blood still boils thinking about your supervisor and her lack of compassion.

kennazebrowsky · April 2014

I do not like seafood at all. It smells fishy. I could never eat crab or lobster because it looks like you're eating an alien

But I love to go fishing. We have a boat and go all the time but we do not catch and release in grease.

I'm not sure if this is a UO or confession ... Maybe both because a lot of people at fish

HBirdie · April 2014

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

Why would this make you stabby? I said something similar when Caleb started pulling himself up in his crib and I had to lower the mattress. Of course I'm super excited that he's crawling and standing and doing new things. It's amazing, and he's my baby and I'm proud. But I'm not allowed to be sad that my baby is growing up?

HBirdie · April 2014

lindszachary said:

HBirdie said:

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

Why would this make you stabby? I said something similar when Caleb started pulling himself up in his crib and I had to lower the mattress. Of course I'm super excited that he's crawling and standing and doing new things. It's amazing, and he's my baby and I'm proud. But I'm not allowed to be sad that my baby is growing up?

QUOTE FAIL

I think what she meant was when people complain about what their baby is learning to do because mobile= more work for mom. Complaining and being sad that LO is growing up are two completely different things. ----------------------

But her specific example was someone saying "please hug me." You wouldn't say that because you're annoyed that you have to do more work, you're saying it because you feel sentimental and sad.

bermybabe68 · April 2014

I just thought of a real UO. I did not like the newborn stage at all. I'm 'one and done' because of it. If I could have a baby that came into this world at 4-5 months old then I'd reconsider and maaaaaaybe have a second child.

bermybabe68 · April 2014

@lindszachary‌ So glad it all worked out and you're happy!

Salemkitty13 · April 2014

I don't like stone wash jeans. When I see someone wearing them I always wonder if they just found a box of their old clothes and it's wash day or something. Then I remember that they are trendy. :-?

michelle7482 · April 2014

lindszachary said:

HBirdie said:

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

Why would this make you stabby? I said something similar when Caleb started pulling himself up in his crib and I had to lower the mattress. Of course I'm super excited that he's crawling and standing and doing new things. It's amazing, and he's my baby and I'm proud. But I'm not allowed to be sad that my baby is growing up?

QUOTE FAIL

I think what she meant was when people complain about what their baby is learning to do because mobile= more work for mom. Complaining and being sad that LO is growing up are two completely different things.
I agree with this. That's what I thought she meant too. A combo and complaining and being an AW.

JLMcWeeney · April 2014

kennazebrowsky said:
I do not like seafood at all. It smells fishy. I could never eat crab or lobster because it looks like you're eating an alien

But I love to go fishing. We have a boat and go all the time but we do not catch and release in grease.

I'm not sure if this is a UO or confession ... Maybe both because a lot of people at fish

My husband says he thinks crabs look like sea spiders. Lol He is disgusted by them and never eats them either.

eyris · April 2014

bermybabe68 said:

I just thought of a real UO. I did not like the newborn stage at all. I'm 'one and done' because of it. If I could have a baby that came into this world at 4-5 months old then I'd reconsider and maaaaaaybe have a second child.

I'm with you. We always thought we'd have two, but right now we've decided E is assumed to be an only child until we decide otherwise.

The first 2-3 months were probably the hardest of my life. I love my son and I have to say everyday is better and better, but I am not cut out for newborns.

elm005 · April 2014

I love seafood! Especially crab legs!

My UO is that I HATE Saturday Night Live. I can't. I just can't...

kennazebrowsky · April 2014

Salemkitty13 said:
I don't like stone wash jeans. When I see someone wearing them I always wonder if they just found a box of their old clothes and it's wash day or something. Then I remember that they are trendy. :-?

I pray this is not a UO stone washed jeans are U G L Y you ain't got no alibi you ugly

llybeck · April 2014

HBirdie said:

lindszachary said:

HBirdie said:

jdoud77 said:

I think people should be happy and praise their babies for their ability to crawl and being mobile instead of the, "Look at them crawl....please hug me." These milestones should be celebrated, not dreaded. It makes me stabby.

Why would this make you stabby? I said something similar when Caleb started pulling himself up in his crib and I had to lower the mattress. Of course I'm super excited that he's crawling and standing and doing new things. It's amazing, and he's my baby and I'm proud. But I'm not allowed to be sad that my baby is growing up?

QUOTE FAIL

I think what she meant was when people complain about what their baby is learning to do because mobile= more work for mom. Complaining and being sad that LO is growing up are two completely different things.
----------------------

But her specific example was someone saying "please hug me." You wouldn't say that because you're annoyed that you have to do more work, you're saying it because you feel sentimental and sad.

I totally get what @jdoud77 is saying and I think it depends on who says it. My future SIL says things like this and she's not being sentimental at all, she's whining that she has to watch her kids which she rarely does. When she found out our DD was crawling she said, "that's way too young, I feel sorry for you, you're going to have to watch her now." I think a lot of people have this mentality and it's really sad, I've rarely heard someone say something like that where they actually meant it in a sentimental way.

Burrberrymum · April 2014

I know I'm a day late but my UO is that I hate seeing so many people put "full time mommy" on their facebooks as a career.. It drives me nuts. It's not a career, it is most definitely hard work, harder than a lot of jobs but it is not a career even if you are a stay at home mom like myself.

Burrberrymum · April 2014

twolittlewheels said:

lindszachary said:

Burrberrymum said:
I know I'm a day late but my UO is that I hate seeing so many people put "full time mommy" on their facebooks as a career.. It drives me nuts. It's not a career, it is most definitely hard work, harder than a lot of jobs but it is not a career even if you are a stay at home mom like myself.
I hate that as well. To me it seems like they are trying to rub it in the face of working moms that they get to stay at home.
I seriously doubt that the majority of SAHMs are trying to rub anything in WMs face.

I don't see it as a 'let's rub it in their face' kind of way either but where I live so many people are on social assistance and I see the whole "full time mommy" thing an excuse to abuse the system and keep getting government money to stay home. I mean it's amazing to be able to stay home if you can afford it and we get a full year of paid maternity leave here too so I think that's why it drives me so nuts.

I'm all for social assistance helping those in need but it's not meant for those who just plain and simply WANT to stay home with their babies and don't want to work and on top of that putting that as your CAREER? I don't get it and it's definitely something I side eye.

mrsmoxie · April 2014

Burrberrymum said:

twolittlewheels said:

lindszachary said:

Burrberrymum said:
I know I'm a day late but my UO is that I hate seeing so many people put "full time mommy" on their facebooks as a career.. It drives me nuts. It's not a career, it is most definitely hard work, harder than a lot of jobs but it is not a career even if you are a stay at home mom like myself.
I hate that as well. To me it seems like they are trying to rub it in the face of working moms that they get to stay at home.
I seriously doubt that the majority of SAHMs are trying to rub anything in WMs face.
I don't see it as a 'let's rub it in their face' kind of way either but where I live so many people are on social assistance and I see the whole "full time mommy" thing an excuse to abuse the system and keep getting government money to stay home. I mean it's amazing to be able to stay home if you can afford it and we get a full year of paid maternity leave here too so I think that's why it drives me so nuts.

I'm all for social assistance helping those in need but it's not meant for those who just plain and simply WANT to stay home with their babies and don't want to work and on top of that putting that as your CAREER? I don't get it and it's definitely something I side eye.

I'm a SAHM because 1, I choose to be and 2, it's better for us financially instead of paying for daycare. Oh, and I don't live off the system... I find your statement kinda ridiculous.

ETA: and I do consider it a career. I'm going to be a SAHM for a very long time. So... It's a career. One that I enjoy, btw.

Burrberrymum · April 2014

twolittlewheels said:

Burrberrymum said:

twolittlewheels said:

lindszachary said:

Burrberrymum said:
I know I'm a day late but my UO is that I hate seeing so many people put "full time mommy" on their facebooks as a career.. It drives me nuts. It's not a career, it is most definitely hard work, harder than a lot of jobs but it is not a career even if you are a stay at home mom like myself.
I hate that as well. To me it seems like they are trying to rub it in the face of working moms that they get to stay at home.
I seriously doubt that the majority of SAHMs are trying to rub anything in WMs face.
I don't see it as a 'let's rub it in their face' kind of way either but where I live so many people are on social assistance and I see the whole "full time mommy" thing an excuse to abuse the system and keep getting government money to stay home. I mean it's amazing to be able to stay home if you can afford it and we get a full year of paid maternity leave here too so I think that's why it drives me so nuts.

I'm all for social assistance helping those in need but it's not meant for those who just plain and simply WANT to stay home with their babies and don't want to work and on top of that putting that as your CAREER? I don't get it and it's definitely something I side eye.
It's Facebook, not a resume. It's just not something I can get worked up about.

But the fact that you think that moms stay home to "abuse the system" on the other hand....

Where I live it's like a small ghetto retirement city and this is the norm here, to go to welfare and that's a fine way of life for more than half of our community.

I'm a stay at home mom, I'm not on social assistance though, and I'm planning on going back to work when my maternity leave is up, and if I don't go back to work right away it's my boyfriend that will be paying our rent / everything else because he can afford it. That being said, that's not how the majority of people here live. It's a sad sad town and there's sooo much fraud going on like couples have kids, get baby bonus ( everybody gets 500$ for each baby that you have) and on top of that they both cheat welfare and say they're single. Now this is where I hate the full time mom career thing It just annoys me but sooo many people think that's an okay way of life when they are fully capable of getting a job, if they can't afford daycare the government pays for it through subsidy so there's NO reason for this. I'm not talking about specific people either but I know a good hand full that do this and Ofcourse their career is full time mom. I know it's just Facebook and not a job application but to be honest I used the check everyone's Facebook before I would hire them. That's why I see this as a UO, this is something that is popular among many people, and I just can't get past it.

Burrberrymum · April 2014

Zembits said:
Burrberrymum , why are you pro-government subsidized daycare but anti-assistance? Seems like the stay at home mothers you're referring to would probably get assistance either way - I don't blame them for wanting to stay home with their kids!

I don't blame anyone for wanting to stay home with their kids either, I'm staying home until September myself so I'm all for being home with baby. I just don't get why everyone needs to call this their career. It is not a career. I am not anti assistance. If you NEED help paying your rent/ groceries and are going through a temporary rough patch that's what assistance is for, but they want you to look for work or a better paying job while on assistance. If you're gonna use the system because you don't FEEL like working that's not ok. If you don't FEEL like working because you think it's best to stay home, that's obviously okay so long as you can afford that. But regardless, your career isn't being a full time mom, Maybe it's a silly UO just gets me everytime.

CDMay2006 · April 2014

(Too hard to quote from my phone)
I look at sahm as a job because it defines how we divide our parenting and home responsibilities. I am in charge of all patenting and household stuff while dh is at work and we split up the evenings and weekends. In our family it is a (temporary) career change, with my financial contribution bring what we save on daycare and living frugally (cooking from scratch, buying in bulk/sales, buying used, etc.).

redfallon · April 2014

I have mine listed as "Mom at Casa de [Lastname]" I put it that way because that's what I do now and I think it's cute. I don't understand what you're getting so worked up about. If someone wants to put that in the job field in FB who gives a shit? As PP said, it's FB, not a resume. Seems a petty thing to get worked up about.

Burrberrymum · April 2014

redfallon said:
I have mine listed as "Mom at Casa de [Lastname]" I put it that way because that's what I do now and I think it's cute. I don't understand what you're getting so worked up about. If someone wants to put that in the job field in FB who gives a shit? As PP said, it's FB, not a resume. Seems a petty thing to get worked up about.

It is super silly to care about, which is I guess why it's a UO. I probably wouldn't care at all if the majority of the moms on my Facebook page that had that were home all the time(to an extent obviously it's healthy to go out alone) and not out at the bar every weekend like most of them are.

Eta: It's obviously where I come from, I'm a lot younger than most moms on here as well so my perspective is on moms that 18-23 if that even makes a difference.

redfallon · April 2014

That's very sad of them to do that. I'm glad I left that age range a while ago

ravenclaw1 · April 2014

redfallon said:
That's very sad of them to do that. I'm glad I left that age range a while ago

Uh, yea. 30's are better.

JLMcWeeney · April 2014

It must be where you guys are from or something because I have never ever thought someone putting SAHM as their career is someone trying to throw it in a working mom's face. Especially not the "majority in that age range".
I'm in that age range and I love it. The girls my age and younger that stay home are super nice and I wouldn't even know they were SAHMs if they didn't have that has their career. I like when people have that on FB. it encourages me to talk to those moms more since we both stay home and can get together during the day and relate to each other in ways specific to SAHMs.
I would just delete someone if they were being an AW about money in any way. Someone bragging about spending their husband's money isn't someone I would keep on my newsfeed.

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