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SIL says BFing is gross

Poppy523Poppy523 member
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My evil SIL is due a few days after me. Needless to say we do not get along. Anyways she called tonight all upset because her co worker gave her a hard time for deciding she is not going to breastfeed. I am a big proponent and still nurse DD and she knows that but I never push it on others. I have helped friends with keeping up their supply when they ask but I have had friends use formula and its fine, I dont really care. Anyways SIL told me she isn't going to nurse because it is super creepy and gross to make a baby suck your boob. I didnt give into her and told her this just is not a good conversation for us because I felt like she was looking for a fight. But Grrrr...I am fuming! Really?? Doesnt she realize boobs are made to feed babies?? Its gross that I use my boob for its intended purpose apparently. And even worse I do it in front of people!! The horror!!
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  • Poppy523Poppy523 member
    She's 28...lol older than me. But yes, has the personality of a PMSing 13 year old
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  • Drea926Drea926 member
    Lol. That's what it sounds like. Im sorry Poppy - try not to let her upset you!

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  • Drea926Drea926 member
    edited April 2014
    During my BFing struggles I tried to just pump. You know how long that lasted? Three days. 

    EPing is no joke.

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  • Poppy523Poppy523 member
    That's exactly what I said to her except I described it as hell. She said she is going to do it just for 2 months. After that there is no benefit to breast milk.
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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    Yeah, I'm in team "I can't with that crap." I mean, really. Give me a break. 



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    carriesu2003 said:
    Oh man, sit back relax and enjoy the show.  If she thinks breastfeeding is gross what will she think when she has to clean poop out of her daughter's vagina or gets peed on the first time.  Please, this girl is in for it.  Plus, anyone who thinks breastfeeding is gross or creepy has sexual issues.
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  • jdilorenzojdilorenzo member
    I just can't. I agree with the 13 year old mentality.
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  • Drea926Drea926 member
    kleigh926 said:
    I'm definitely not saying this is the case with your SIL, but I just have to throw this out there: I think sexual abuse can skew the way you think and feel about breastfeeding. I was molested by an uncle when I was a preteen. I was very uncomfortable with the thought and feeling of breastfeeding for a long time. I still am to an extent, which is why I'm not sure if I will be breastfeeding the next baby. I know logically that breasts are there to feed babies and that I shouldn't feel that way, but sometimes I still have a lot of trouble getting past it. Sorry, some of these comments about the mentality of a 13-year-old girl and having sexual issues are just rubbing me the wrong way. Maybe I do have sexual issues (well actually I know I do), but it's not any fault of mine and it's hard sometimes. That said, I would not be making ignorant comments about it being gross or creepy because I do logically know better.
    @kleigh926 I'm sorry if I said anything to make you feel bad. What happened to you was horrible. IMO, you have every right to feel the way you do and I for one would never judge you for any decision regarding breastfeeding. 

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  • kleigh926kleigh926 member
    @drea926, it's okay, I didn't take anything personally. I just think a lot of people forget about the possibility of sexual abuse affecting someone's feelings towards BF'ing.
    PCOS with long, irregular cycles
    First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013 
    BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014

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    kleigh926 said:

    @drea926, it's okay, I didn't take anything personally. I just think a lot of people forget about the possibility of sexual abuse affecting someone's feelings towards BF'ing.

    Yes! I hope we didnt say anything to affect you negatively. Im sorry if it sounded insensitive. SIL is just a very abrasive person and DH's mother is very opposed to breastfeeding so I think it has more to do with her and my MIL trying to get a rise out of me. SIL has her issues, but I think they are self inflicted. She constantly looks to offend people.
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