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No kids at wedding, but what about babies?

Sep5BrideSep5Bride member
edited April 2014 in January 2013 Moms
Hi ladies,

I asked your opinions a few months ago about two close friends' weddings this summer where they are not inviting kids. You all convinced me that it was a normal thing to do, and may even be more fun without having to worry about DD at the wedding. So, I'm totally fine with that, but I'm wondering, how do you think the "no kids" rule applies to infants? Two of our close friends have each just had babies, and they will be 3 and 4 months at the time of the weddings, and nursing. The new moms are concerned about leaving their babies for that long, and one of them will need to travel about 2 hours to the weddings. I tried to kind of feel out the situation with the brides, and got the impression that they don't want the babies there. What are your thoughts? Is this unreasonable? One of the friends is even a (new) pediatrician, and very openly pro-breastfeeding, but she just seems kind of clueless about what that really means.

Thanks for being a sounding board again. It helps to talk things through here sometimes rather than just sticking my nose in where it doesn't belong. :)


Btw, I realize this may be an issue for a FF baby at that age too, didn't mean to be exclusive!

 

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Re: No kids at wedding, but what about babies?

  • AshleyDehavenAshleyDehaven member
    I wouldn't go. There is no way i would have left DS for that long at that age, nursing or not. Hell even now, i have never left him that long, but at this age i would at least consider it. Toddlers and kids are one thing, i can see that though i still think it's pretty selfish of the couple. I get it. Infants are another thing entirely. That's just me though.
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  • lulamagoolulamagoo member
    We went to a wedding when DS was 3 months old.  I was nursing. My mom flew into town to take care of DS so my husband and I could enjoy the day and evening.  I ended up driving home between the ceremony and reception to nurse and bring my mom dinner.  It worked out really well.  
    If the wedding is no kids, it means no kids.  Don't put the bride or groom in an awkward position by asking them to make an exception.
     ( It was a kid friendly wedding, but IMO, weddings are not events for infants.  They might make noise during the ceremony and they can take attention away from the bride and groom.  Weddings are about the people getting married.  Yes they are about friends and family, but mostly they are about the bride and groom)

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  • this decaf lifethis decaf life member
    We went to a wedding when DD was young, I have a hard time remembering how old but probably 16 weeks. I was EBF then and it was probably one of the first times I'd ever pumped. My parents stayed at a hotel just down the street with DD and came down with her to pick me up because I didn't stay too late at the wedding. I had a great time without her there.
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