I got irrationally angry at my H last night. My dad was admitted back to the ICU yesterday. So I send an email and text to H about it around 2ish when I found out. No response to either. And when I got home, nothing. Didn't say a word to me about it (or anything else for that matter). I kind of blew up on him. And he still doesn't understand why I got so mad.
So...remember a few weeks ago when I said I was going to get my first pedi since last August? Yeah- I ran out of time and didn't do it. Today is the day, I swear. God help the poor technician who has to deal with my gnarly dogs.
I got irrationally angry at my H last night. My dad was admitted back to the ICU yesterday. So I send an email and text to H about it around 2ish when I found out. No response to either. And when I got home, nothing. Didn't say a word to me about it (or anything else for that matter). I kind of blew up on him. And he still doesn't understand why I got so mad.
I'd be furious, too. Sorry about your dad, Kate. I hope he gets better soon!
I kinda regret joining the Facebook group. It is very active and I can't keep up, it would require a greater time commitment than I have. I will probably get kicked out for lack of participation.
I had to travel for work this week. On the flight back, when there was a woman and her baby in the seat next to mine. Inside I was like noooooooooooooooo!!! ... I just want to take a nap. I felt bad for feeling that way but she was really good and didn't fuss too much.
I feel like I just wasted like ten minutes of my life reading the call out post on the May 14 board about the money stealing mod. It is horrible. But. Yo. This is the internet. Yet one more reason I feel so hesitant to share very much personal information. Sad but I actually didn't end up shocked that it happened.
I just read it too. I think that these women are more interested in posting their opinions and rants than they are about actually feeling bad for the original woman who lost her child. I can't believe I wasted my time reading that shit.
@Kate_C - I don't think that's irrational. He's being insensitive. Would you EVER do that to him, were the roles reversed ? No.
Mine: We have Easter plans with my family on Sunday and then retirement party for my dad on Weds. We also need to try to find a time this weekend to see DH's family. My mom emailed this morning to beg me to find time this weekend to go see my grandparents -- who are admittedly having a hard time as they are in their late 90s and can't leave due to health issues, and they are lonely. And I've been a less-than-active granddaughter lately. And I DO feel bad about that, and I DO want to see them.
But I also really am annyoed with my mom for laying a guilt trip on me about this RIGHT NOW. I just spent a ton of time and energy finding a sitter for weds because we JUSt found out about my dad's retirement dinner... we are screwing up LO's nap schedule on Sunday to work around everybody's church schedule.. and I just really need at least a few unscheduled hours this weekend.
On top of that -- this is #2 -- DH's co-worker came down with pinkeye and pneumonia yesterday. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrreat. DH thinks his eyes itch and he's getting a cold. So help me God if he has these things, I will lose my shit. And if he doesn't - tha'ts great, but if he's too sick to participate in the functions this weekend and next week, I will internally lose my shit, because I NEED AND WANT MY HUSBAND AT THIS STUFF.
(of course if he's sick he's sick and I'd never let on to my frustration, he can't help it, but I iwll be mad at the universe!)
@phill027 - I think your feelings are all totally normal. Having kids while trying to keep up a big law job is really hard. But you can do it with proper support. And second pregnancies are often less exciting. It isn't all new this time so some of the glow has worn off. You'll love this LO just as much as the first - don't worry. Hope you have a nice trip and some time to regroup and recharge!
I feel like I just wasted like ten minutes of my life reading the call out post on the May 14 board about the money stealing mod. It is horrible. But. Yo. This is the internet. Yet one more reason I feel so hesitant to share very much personal information. Sad but I actually didn't end up shocked that it happened.
@Kate_C, I would totally lose my shizz too. You have every right to be ticked.
My FFFC is kinda lame: I didn't participate in the gift exchange because I am paranoid that other people won't like my presents and then be forced to pretend they did just to be polite. That says way more about me than the recipient, but there you have it.
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.
@kate_c So sorry... thoughts and prayers for you. And not irrational at all.
My confession - my best friend's son's birthday party is tomorrow so Rhys and I went shopping at Carter's. I bought a 2-pack of outfits, cut the tags off, and am giving one to my friend's baby... and keeping one for Rhys!
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But I DID get other stuff for her son, too! Our guys are one day apart :-)
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
I know this is going to sound terrible but I get annoyed around the holidays because of our plans. My DH only has his mom and his brother lives across the states and never comes home for them. I have both of my parents, two sisters and their husbands, my brother and my 2 nieces and 2 nephews. I feel like I always get the short end of the stick with spending time with my family because his mom is "by herself". He won't ever let her spend a holiday "alone"- she lives within 5 miles of two of her brothers and one of her sisters so could easily make plans with them for the day. So my nieces and nephews have a big egg hunt at my parents and it sucks we have to miss out... yet again for another holiday. Oh and we live less than 10 minutes from his mom and see her at least once a week already. It's annoying. I love his mom and she is great and I wouldn't want her to truly be alone but she has family nearby and has lived here all her life and has tons of friends and is very active in church.
I know this is going to sound terrible but I get annoyed around the holidays because of our plans. My DH only has his mom and his brother lives across the states and never comes home for them. I have both of my parents, two sisters and their husbands, my brother and my 2 nieces and 2 nephews. I feel like I always get the short end of the stick with spending time with my family because his mom is "by herself". He won't ever let her spend a holiday "alone"- she lives within 5 miles of two of her brothers and one of her sisters so could easily make plans with them for the day. So my nieces and nephews have a big egg hunt at my parents and it sucks we have to miss out... yet again for another holiday. Oh and we live less than 10 minutes from his mom and see her at least once a week already. It's annoying. I love his mom and she is great and I wouldn't want her to truly be alone but she has family nearby and has lived here all her life and has tons of friends and is very active in church.
Could your MIL join in with your family, the more the merrier style? My mom is alone too, and she's not entirely happy about having to compromise sometimes, but she's come around and always enjoys herself.
I got irrationally angry at my H last night. My dad was admitted back to the ICU yesterday. So I send an email and text to H about it around 2ish when I found out. No response to either. And when I got home, nothing. Didn't say a word to me about it (or anything else for that matter). I kind of blew up on him. And he still doesn't understand why I got so mad.
Like everyone else has said, you weren't being irrational at all. I'd be so disappointed and mad. Hope your dad's condition improves and he is out of ICU soon.
Thanks all. My dad is going to have a defibrillator implanted - probably in process of having it done now. Hoping that will fix his decreased heart rate and associated complications. Figured the first round was too easy!
Did everyone abandon this thread to go read the other drama? lol
Hang in there @phill027. It's ok to feel that way and second pregnancy/baby does bring on a whole lot of new feelings and emotions. Be kind to yourself
Thanks all. My dad is going to have a defibrillator implanted - probably in process of having it done now. Hoping that will fix his decreased heart rate and associated complications. Figured the first round was too easy!
Kate my dad has worked in this industry for years -- if you have any questions or concerns let me know. Good luck.
Did everyone abandon this thread to go read the other drama? lol Hang in there @phill027. It's ok to feel that way and second pregnancy/baby does bring on a whole lot of new feelings and emotions. Be kind to yourself
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Me too! I just went down the rabbit hole for about 2 hours.
@Kate_C - not irrational in the slightest. I would kill DH.
My confession - I have not done a damn thing for Easter for my LO. Nothing for a basket. Her eater dress happens to be a bday present for a couple weeks ago.....I'm just not remotely interested and could care less, and I am the type of person who has made a big deal about every holiday for LO this far.
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up." TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012 IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized! ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597 12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
@Kate_C - not irrational in the slightest. I would kill DH.
My confession - I have not done a damn thing for Easter for my LO. Nothing for a basket. Her eater dress happens to be a bday present for a couple weeks ago.....I'm just not remotely interested and could care less, and I am the type of person who has made a big deal about every holiday for LO this far.
Ditto and ditto. J has a cute outfit my mom gave him for his birthday and that's it. HE's too little, and I don't want him to have candy, and we weren't that big into easter presents when I was growing up. Seems like just another over-commercialized holiday (says the retailer...)
@Kate_C - not irrational in the slightest. I would kill DH.
My confession - I have not done a damn thing for Easter for my LO. Nothing for a basket. Her eater dress happens to be a bday present for a couple weeks ago.....I'm just not remotely interested and could care less, and I am the type of person who has made a big deal about every holiday for LO this far.
I don't really think Easter is fun until they can do an actual egg/basket hunt. At least that's my justification. We bought the kids a small toy each. And mostly just because I felt guilty getting nothing.
Thanks all. My dad is going to have a defibrillator implanted - probably in process of having it done now. Hoping that will fix his decreased heart rate and associated complications. Figured the first round was too easy!
Kate my dad has worked in this industry for years -- if you have any questions or concerns let me know. Good luck.
If he works for St. Jude, they'll be getting back my dad's 1979 issue aortic valve in the near future. It apparently lasted far longer than predicted before requiring replacement. Good MN engineering I guess! ICD placement went well so his heart is now beating at a normal rate. Woohoo!
Thanks all. My dad is going to have a defibrillator implanted - probably in process of having it done now. Hoping that will fix his decreased heart rate and associated complications. Figured the first round was too easy!
Kate my dad has worked in this industry for years -- if you have any questions or concerns let me know. Good luck.
If he works for St. Jude, they'll be getting back my dad's 1979 issue aortic valve in the near future. It apparently lasted far longer than predicted before requiring replacement. Good MN engineering I guess! ICD placement went well so his heart is now beating at a normal rate. Woohoo!
I kinda regret joining the Facebook group. It is very active and I can't keep up, it would require a greater time commitment than I have. I will probably get kicked out for lack of participation.
Haha. I will admit that I had to hide it from my newsfeed because there were just too many posts. I try to click over a couple times a week to see what's happening/participate.
I kinda regret joining the Facebook group. It is very active and I can't keep up, it would require a greater time commitment than I have. I will probably get kicked out for lack of participation.
Haha. I will admit that I had to hide it from my newsfeed because there were just too many posts. I try to click over a couple times a week to see what's happening/participate.
yes! Me too. And now I can't keep up with who anyone is. If everyone could use their same name and sig pic as their fb pic then I'd be fine!
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Re: FFFC?
BFP #2: 11-7-14, CP (BFN: 11-13-14)
BFP #3: 3/24/15 EDD: 12/5/15
But I also really am annyoed with my mom for laying a guilt trip on me about this RIGHT NOW. I just spent a ton of time and energy finding a sitter for weds because we JUSt found out about my dad's retirement dinner... we are screwing up LO's nap schedule on Sunday to work around everybody's church schedule.. and I just really need at least a few unscheduled hours this weekend.
My FFFC is kinda lame: I didn't participate in the gift exchange because I am paranoid that other people won't like my presents and then be forced to pretend they did just to be polite. That says way more about me than the recipient, but there you have it.
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016
Like everyone else has said, you weren't being irrational at all. I'd be so disappointed and mad. Hope your dad's condition improves and he is out of ICU soon.
My confession - I have not done a damn thing for Easter for my LO. Nothing for a basket. Her eater dress happens to be a bday present for a couple weeks ago.....I'm just not remotely interested and could care less, and I am the type of person who has made a big deal about every holiday for LO this far.
"I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th
Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!
Molly Mildred born 03/31/13
TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast
Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"
Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN
Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle
Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized
1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!
Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015
yes! Me too. And now I can't keep up with who anyone is. If everyone could use their same name and sig pic as their fb pic then I'd be fine!
Um, no. Vampire romance, witches, wizards, werewolves....