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STM + Moms -- Am I being naive?

*sparky**sparky* member
in April 2014 Moms

We have a DS who is 8.  He has to be dropped off at and picked up from school every day.  My dad is going to help us the first few days while I am in the hospital - he will stay here, get DS to and from school, etc.  The first few days home will be an adjustment and my dad (and friends) will continue to help get DS to and from school.  But after the first week or so I was thinking I could handle it.  DH is not taking more than a couple of days off and due to his work schedule he can't help with either, so it is all on me.

There is a carpool line so I don't even have to get the baby out of the car if I don't want to.  My dad was thinking I would need him to do this for a few weeks.  But I really want to start getting out and I also don't want DS to think I have just ditched him altogether for his little sister.  Not to mention DS has evening sports that I need to get him to also twice a week so I have got to figure out how to manage with two kids anyway.

So WDYT - that is reasonable, right?  Or am I being naïve to think that after the first week I should be okay to handle this?

 

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Re: STM + Moms -- Am I being naive?

  • *sparky**sparky* member

    That is a good idea - he is open to helping as long as I need him to, so we could certainly split things up.  And there are also friends and neighbors who can help out - more so in the afternoon than morning though. 

    I am trying to be very sensitive to "being there" for DS after the baby arrives, since he has been our only for so long, but obviously don't want to push it too far.

     

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  • AshleypixieAshleypixie member
    I'd take all the help that's offered. It's sweet that your dad is willing to do that for you. The first week may be harder than you think it'll be and the second week may be only slightly better. See how you feel but don't push yourself. It may not seem fair to make DS feel like you're ditching him but it's not going to scar him for life if you take care of yourself for a short time, and you can make it up to him in other ways.
     






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  • RrrrrachelRrrrrachel member
    If you have to do it you'll get it done. But if he wants to help let him help!
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  • ksulliksulli member
    I think it'll be fine- he's 8, it's not like he needs physical assistance to get dressed in the mornings, so it'll just be a matter of brushing your hair, helping him with breakfast, and putting shoes on while managing an infant. I got myself, my 2yo and my infant out the door every day this week for the 2yo to go to school and I was 2w pp this past Monday.
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  • selina1113selina1113 member
    Can you decide after baby is here? I would see how you feel & keep your dad on stand by if possible. I have a 10 yo son also who plays baseball & I will have to get him to practice & games myself, but evenings feel easier than mornings after a rough night.
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