Re-Intro.

Mommalawyer · April 2014

Re-intro. Hopefully I do this correctly this time. Sincerest apologies to anyone I offended prior to, I have no excuses except I've been enlightened. I've had some time to lurk, reflect, reconsider, rethink, learn some lessons, and actually go through a medicated cycle. I'm 38 (next week). DH is 35. I have a 6 year old daughter from previous relationship. She is my world. DH has 2 boys from prior marriage, they are 6 and 3. We don't get to see them as much as we would like. We got a puppy last week, she's a Boston Terrier. DD (since it was a birthday gift for her) named her Lulu. Since I can't get pregnant, she's my dog child. We've been TTC since about June 2013. WE have MFI. WE have MFI because DH loved me enough to have a vasectomy reversal. That was done in late January 2013. As a result, WE have a normal, but low normal count. WE have a normal, but low normal motility. I've learned that regardless, it's our infertility, not solely his. His doc said our chances of conceiving are most optimal within the first 18 months. I have no known issues, aside from being stubborn and having diarrhea of the mouth. We started seeing an RE in January 2014. I was extremely naive when starting this process and the rigid decisions I made prior to an actual cycle, I've completely back tracked. I thought I could just "beat" our infertility and we would be successful on our first IUI. (Laugh hysterically, cause I'm laughing with you) Not so. My first IUI was a bust. I was on injects. 75iu of follistim. I over stimmed and ended up with a moderate case of OHSS. It sucked. Royally. But I'd do it again. Cause I want a baby. I want a baby with my husband, no other expectations or boxes checked. Baby. Our post wash count was 8 million. I had 2 eggs for sure, possibly 5 eggs. Our count went down from prior SAs, but our motility went up. I'm willing to do another IUI or two, but am very seriously considering doing IVF. I don't know how the hell we'd pay for it, but if you really truly want something, you do everything to make it happen. Having gone through a medicated cycle, I have experienced every emotion on the planet. Perhaps a bit of humility. I now know what it's really like to be on this road we are all on. I hope to be a supportive member of this board & join you all in this journey if you'd have me. I have a feeling that IVF is going to be in my future & the procedure sounds so scary to me, so I'm all ears for anyone's experiences and anecdotes regarding the subject.

P.S. My vice is shoes. Expensive shoes. Caveat, I will NOT pay full price. I get the thrill by finding them at some ridiculously low, low price. Or I don't buy them. (Except when I got married. That was my "splurge.")

sailorgal · April 2014

Welcome. Hope you don't spend long here.

P.S. were was your wedding (was just looking at your beautiful wedding profile pic)

Momarazzi007 · April 2014

I am sorry to hear about the IUI. I know it took a lot to come back and post this. I respect that and your new open view. I just went through my second fresh cycle (5th overall including FETs l) and would be happy to answer any questions I can help with.

Mommalawyer · April 2014

Thank you @sailorgal‌... DH is military and we live in San Diego so we got some screaming deals on venues that were "on base." We ended up randomly finding a place that was right on the water for about 1/4 of the price that other public vendors charged. And the food wasn't half bad either!

Mommalawyer · April 2014

Thank you @Momarazzi‌! It's shocking to me how much I didn't know or really understand. That coupled with being a bit too honest bit me in the arse. We are going to be talking to RE as soon as the dot gets here & discuss whether we do another IUI or start talking about IVF (which my current RE doesn't do, so I'd have to switch). So I may come at you with a bunch of questions, once we figure out the game plan. I know it's more invasive than IUI. So I'm worried about pain/uncomfortable factor (and if this is even a legit concern) and overstimming (and it's that is a legit concern). I'm tackling understanding fresh and frozen transfers as of yesterday. Knowledge is power, right?

annibes · April 2014

Welcome back- I'm sorry about your IUI. It really sucks to feel good about something and then have your own body say, "eh. No."

Momarazzi007 · April 2014

I was a risk for overstim too, but you'll find lots of monitoring goes a long way! Let us know how appt goes!

Mommalawyer · April 2014

Agreed @annibes‌. Nothing like your body teaming up IF to put you in your place.... @Momarazzi‌ - judging from what I've read over the last couple months, I'd suspect that RE would suggest another IUI or two, so I'll heed to what he says. Plus, I just breached the subject matter with DH and he was obviously confused and looked at me like I was nuts over my "hey, I think we need to start thinking about IVF." Supportive, just really confused since I changed the game on him.... Currently waiting for phone call from RE as the dot showed up today. Atleast I didn't have to wait a week or two after the BFN for her to appear.

Momarazzi007 · April 2014

It can be hard for guys having to take the severest route when it is MFI. My hub was kind of in denial like "we can't even try IUI?!?!" It took another few months to warm up to it where as I think if it had been FFI he would have wanted to move forward quicker. He even insisted on trying a year on our own before going back to IVF. And at that point we still had one frozen left. I hope you get some good news from RE, but in mean time it is good to get him thinking of other options moving forward. We all need time to come to terms with this stuff.

AprilDrew04 · April 2014

Welcome back, sounds like you've had a heck of a month. I would say that trying another cycle or two of IUI might be worth a try. Your SA numbers sound decent, obviously not great, but good enough for an actual shot with IUI. Just keep educating yourself and hopefully you won't need all the IVF knowledge you acquire.

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