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Clothing gift in wrong size
notreallyirish
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If someone buys you clothing in the wrong size do you tell them or just deal with it on your own?
I may have posted about this in a randoms a while back, but I was curious what you all think. I feel like my MIL is having a passive aggressive war on me. She always buys me a small. I wear an XL. Anyone with eyes can tell its the wrong size. She's always like, "Tell me if it's the wrong size and I can exchange it." I generally just donate the clothes because 1. I don't necessarily like them anyway. 2. She buys places I can't easily get to in order to exchange them myself.
3. I somehow feel like it might be rude of me to ask her to exchange them. And mainly 4. I feel like she is just waiting for me to say, "Hey, I just realized I'm fat." What say you?
I may have posted about this in a randoms a while back, but I was curious what you all think. I feel like my MIL is having a passive aggressive war on me. She always buys me a small. I wear an XL. Anyone with eyes can tell its the wrong size. She's always like, "Tell me if it's the wrong size and I can exchange it." I generally just donate the clothes because 1. I don't necessarily like them anyway. 2. She buys places I can't easily get to in order to exchange them myself.
3. I somehow feel like it might be rude of me to ask her to exchange them. And mainly 4. I feel like she is just waiting for me to say, "Hey, I just realized I'm fat." What say you?
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Re: Clothing gift in wrong size
Mil doesn't really buy me clothes, usually gift cards, but she buys the kids stuff all the time. It's generally the correct size but sometimes I just don't need any more clothes for the current season, so I have no problem exchanging. She always gives a gift receipt though so it's easy.
Dh's family is very anti gift receipt. Not just for me, but for the kids too. It's annoying. How hard is it to include a gift receipt? I think it's awkward to have to go to someone and ask for a receipt.
As for the very obvious size issue, I would have dh give her your real size on the next holiday.
~Mama to two daughters and baby #3 coming soon~
Just come out with it! It sounds like it's a frequent enough thing that "I hereby through the power of The Bump give you permission to use a little snark" to say "Hey, this is the wrong size, I know these clothes are spendy, but they're always the wrong size and can I either get a gift receipt in the future or just a gift card to purchase something that'll fit and is more my style." (notice - not a ???, but a ".")... I'd rather have someone be honest with me when there's an issue than ignore confronting it. Granted, I don't buy clothes unless it's for kids and I'm always aware of the family's lifestyle and preferences before I do it because it was annoying as heck the first years of DD's life to constantly get gifted hand-me-down clothes that didn't fit and WERE NOT even close to fitting our lifestyle... When I finally confronted it, the issues pretty much resolved themselves...
She offers to exchange if its the wrong size.
If its clothes for me, they are usually NMS and not my size.
The stuff she buys for DH is often not HIS style.
And what she buys for DSs she usually buys sizes equivalent to their current age, which is too small for both of them.
I've asked her to not buy me clothes, but a gift card instead. She still buys the kids clothes.
She offers to exchange if its wrong. I quit asking for mine to be exchanged because it just gets exchanged for uglier clothes.
The kids' stuff just takes 3 months to get it.
She often misplaces things. She also never gives gift receipts, I'm not sure if it's because of the losing things issue or if she just *has* to know if something is being returned. She likes to guilt family members into doing what she wants them to do, and I'm getting sick and tired of it! (She cries at the drop of a hat to get my FIL and DH to do her bidding. I'm so over it.)
I guess I'd have DH tell her your size and/or before the gifting occasions launch into some monologue about how I just have sooo many clothes, I need a bigger closet, etc. Maybe she'll take the hint?
@dmurrie reminded me,... MIL 'misplaces' stuff ALL.THE.TIME!!!!
She just gave me several pairs of pants and shirts that she bought before Christmas (on clearance) for DS1. It barely fits him now, and will be packed up in a couple weeks because it will be too small.
She expects he will wear 24 month clothing this fall, but he's wearing it now.
So,... He will get lots of stuff too small for his birthday and Christmas. Sigh....
Last Christmas she bought me size S. I was still a L then, am maybe a M now, and will probably never be a S. I don't know what to do with the clothes. They have gift receipts attached, but it's a lot of work to get to the store with kids to exchange/return.
I think my mil just genuinely thinks I'm smaller than I am. And I have a feeling she doesn't want to hurt my feelings by buying something too big.
I guess I'd either ask her to exchange them once or just donate.
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