cpw: MOTN duties

Mommy1stTimer · April 2014

Curious if I'm doing this MOTN thing totally wrong. Now that are babes are getting older, how do MOTN duties play out in your household?

[Deleted User] · April 2014

I do it all.

opheliainwaders · April 2014

We're working on slowly eliminating some of her nighttime feedings, so right now DS is in charge of any wakeups between bedtime and midnight. In a few weeks, he'll also be in charge of any from 2-6am (she definitely eats between 12-2, and still needs it - the other wakeups are more "check-ins" where she doesn't really eat, just kind of says hi for a minute). On weekends, we switch off, so each of us gets to sleep in one morning. We all get up around 7/7:30 on weekdays.

bobcee · April 2014

Depends on when he wakes up. If he has recently eaten and I know he doesn't want to nurse, H will go in and rock him until he goes back to bed. Often H will go in for a bit no matter what to see if he will settle down without nursing, but obviously if he wants to nurse, it's all me.

macncheese0712 · April 2014

We both get up. I feed LO if he's hungry, DH pats him back to sleep. We're working on eliminating nursing to sleep.

danigirl7181 · April 2014

DS wakes up twice a night now, usually. I take one wake, DH takes the other. DS is teething and was up every 30-45 minutes last night, it was horrible, DH and I were both up since we brought DS into bed with us.

shara3333 · April 2014

I SAH so I felt like I should do all the night stuff during he week. And I was nursing so I did weekends too. DS STTN most nights and I'm no longer nursing, so DH does one weekend night/morning. It's usually not a bottle until morning, but we do get some wake ups here and there from teething and/or nightmares to handle MOTN.

bridge2005 · April 2014

100% me and always has been. I EBF and stay home. DH works so I don't mind.

MRads · April 2014

The only time I asked for help is when I was puking while Ben was wailing.

saphires · April 2014

SS - MH has been working out of town since January. When out of town it's 100% me Monday-Thursday he gets Friday-Sunday. When he is working in town we take turns.

fieldpetal · April 2014

I try to do most nights since I get to SAH and DH works a ton. DH wants to help more, but he takes off his cochlear implant at night so he only wakes up if I get him up. Most of the time I let him sleep.

Since the 9 month sleep regression he's been taking the early morning shifts, like 5-7 on weekdays and 5-9 on weekends. I think he's really enjoying it. And now LO will go to sleep for both of us.

valstulas · April 2014

I chose SS. I would consider myself doing 100% since I do 100% when I am at home. If I didn't work overnights I would do 100% of all nights. And when I come home from work Finn spends most of the day with me.

Melissa0926432 · April 2014

DH gets up every time she wakes up and tries to give her a paci in hopes that she falls back to sleep. This only works like 10% of the time. Then I go in and feed her and DH stays up with me and helps me move her back to the crib as soon as she is in deep enough sleep to move. (if you aren't super careful in getting her back in the crib she immediately wakes and cries so I need the help)

jennipalmer · April 2014

Well 50% of time DH is gone and I nurse (or human paci) so it is all me. But when my DH is here he tries to help when he can.

JTA2426 · April 2014

The twins usually STTN but in the event they don't, it's all me.

bumpuser794640 · April 2014

He usually STTN, but DH did most of the wake-ups when they happened.

queenbone · April 2014

I voted N/A because she rarely wakes up in the middle of the night. But if she does he gets up to change the diaper and then brings the baby to me to nurse in bed. Then we leave the baby in bed with us for the remainder of the night because we are lazy. This has been our routine with each baby.

gutsymama · April 2014

50/50 - Since no feedings are involved we pretty much take turns with each wakeup, except when DH occasionally sleeps too hard to hear him crying (or Ivy beeping).

But he makes up for those times by taking more than his share of time rocking Luke MOTN when he occasionally won't sleep in his crib (hasn't happened in a few weeks). DH has no problem sleeping sitting up in the chair, and I can't really sleep there. I felt bad about that for awhile until he admitted that more often than not he's just too impatient to get Luke back into his crib

When diaper changes were really rough we usually did those together MOTN. And we pretty much always handle big pukes together.

emandia · April 2014

He was doing weekends for me until he starting sleeping right through it. Sooo I've been doing them all since then. Annoying. He sleeps like a fucking rock.

Pink724 · April 2014

For the true MOTN wakings, it's me because I have the boobies.

For any wakeups before around 11 (which usually happen due to nightmares or just being unsettled, etc.), DH will go in and sing/rock with her. I don't count those as MOTN bc DH hasn't even gone to bed by then.

merc5411 · April 2014

Iand LoveandYou said:

Mamasighs said:

bridge2005 said:
100% me and always has been. I EBF and stay home. DH works so I don't mind.
Same, except sometimes I mind.

Same, except I really mind. I do the wake-ups and get up with the baby. I just get burnt out. An ounce of help would be appreciated, but I guess it's the price I pay to sah. I am grateful to be a sahm, and I wouldn't want it any other way, but everyone needs a break now and then.

Me too. I'm happy I get to stay at home but mama needs a break once in a while, especially since dh travels so much.

LauraB1016 · April 2014

Just me myself and I here. I was going to say once in a blue moon but I didn't think DH doing 2 MOTN feedings in 8 monthes qualified him. Sorry babe…

coco2787 · April 2014

Boobs are the only thing he requires MOTN so it's always me. But if that wasn't working for some reason H would help if needed.

summerchild · April 2014

It's me 100% of the time, I work part-time 2 days in the office and the rest at nights when LO sleeps. DH gets up and takes care of LO in the mornings before work to give me a few extra hours so that helps.

cwhitloc · April 2014

Mamasighs said:

Iand LoveandYou said:

Mamasighs said:

bridge2005 said:
100% me and always has been. I EBF and stay home. DH works so I don't mind.
Same, except sometimes I mind.

Same, except I really mind. I do the wake-ups and get up with the baby. I just get burnt out. An ounce of help would be appreciated, but I guess it's the price I pay to sah. I am grateful to be a sahm, and I wouldn't want it any other way, but everyone needs a break now and then.

Yeah I'm irritable and burned out. Since she has never taken a paci or bottle there's not much H can do. She vastly prefers me for everything, day or night. This time goes by fast, which is good and bad.

I have the same problem plus a 3 yr old who wakes up at 6am on the dot. No sleeping in on weekends nothing. DD2 does not sleep through the night. She's down to one MOTN feeding, but DH gets up at 5AM and hits snooze after letting the alarm go off for a long time. I can count the number of times i've slept more than 5 hrs straight in the past 9 months on my hand.

notaffected1 · April 2014

It's me at night for two reasons. Mainly because my husband works until 1 in the morning and has to take over when I leave at 6:30am. So he has to get sleep somehow.

Secondly, he just sucks at it. LOL he has tried on his nights off to take over, but he doesn't understand the concept of "quiet, minimal interaction" he treats it like a day feeding and then can never get him back down. I've tried to explain the concept. It doesn't work

Stina2012 · April 2014

Riley pushes DH away when she's hungry and just sits there with a grumpy face until the boobs arrive. It's hysterical.

He does absolutely take early weekend wake ups which really helps.

lancomechica · April 2014

Husband now does 95% since stopping bf

flkong · April 2014

She STTN 99.9% of the time. When she has gotten up, I do motn duty bc DH gets up fir work early. When I'm working, he does it.

heatherbrownm · April 2014

I do all MOTN wake ups, because she just wants the boob. I don't mind at all. I like cuddling with her and half the time I don't even remember waking up. DH and I take turns sleeping in on our days off though.

amandarins · April 2014

I do the overnight (1-2 feedings) and DH gets up with DS in the morning and I sleep in till whenever. It's a pretty sweet deal

hollandmama · April 2014

DH wants to help but after I came back to work LO's anxiety issues grew stronger than ever and now he only wants me! It's so frustrating because for the first 6 months of his life, he was fine with daddy and now he screams bloody murder when it's not me who picks him up first... I hope it's a phase but it has been like this for almost 4 months now...

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