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DH is being a major pain in the ass over me being overdue

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I am 40w1d.  DS was early and DH has been so antsy for this baby to come.  I had false labor Monday evening which landed me in L&D - they even thought I would be back later that night but everything came to a screeching halt and now here we are 2 days later.  At a Dr's appt today I had made no more progress than I had a week ago.  Meanwhile, I am nursing a horrible cold so if baby doesn't come for a couple (or few) more days I am fine with that.  I can't imagine being up for delivering right now and then caring for a newborn anyway. 

So at today's appt the Dr scheduled me for an induction Monday morning at 5 am.  The reason they scheduled me so early is because sometimes when you get scheduled later in the day, they end up getting too booked with walk-in deliveries and they don't have rooms for scheduled inductions.  The dr doesn't want me to end up being one of those people that gets turned away.

So I call DH to tell him and he says "I'd rather have to wake up in the middle of the night because you go into labor than to set an alarm to leave for the hospital at 4 am."  And "we have got to have this baby before then."  Then he starts chanting "have the baby" over and over again, like that's going to put me into labor.  Then he says "is the doctor sure you haven't made any progress?"

Finally I say "no one wants this baby out more than I do but there is really nothing we can do.  She'll come when she's ready".  So he keeps chanting "have the baby, have the baby" and I just lost it.  I mean seriously, STFU.  We have no control over this whatsoever.  I know waiting is not easy, but I am the one carrying around an 8-lb watermelon and peeing in my pants every time i sneeze or cough, which is about 100 times a day. 

He is definitely a planner, and in his job he lives off of schedules, so he saw my EDD kind of like a deadline, and neither of us ever thought we would go past it since DS was early.  But seriously, at least now there is a definite end in sight and it is five fucking days away. 

Finally he left me alone but I am still so annoyed.  And if he tries to talk me into having eviction sex tonight I will kick him in the balls.

 

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Re: DH is being a major pain in the ass over me being overdue

  • RrrrrachelRrrrrachel member
    That reaction would really stress me out!
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  • RrrrrachelRrrrrachel member
    I went nine days last due with my daughter. Nine.
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @Serenia - if he keeps it up I just might.

    @ColleenSwerb - it was definitely the chanting that pushed me over the edge.

     

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  • deidremariadeidremaria member
    Yea I'm not usually one to hit people but I'd probably hit my bf if he did that. My bf has been so supportive of my lack of patience.
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  • pbandjmompbandjmom member
    Maybe he was trying to lighten the mood?
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  • ambarnett1ambarnett1 member
    Serenla said:

    ...I wouldn't blame you if you actually TP'd him.

    Agreed.

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  • Brigie029Brigie029 member
    Hugs
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  • haziedazehaziedaze member
    DH and I had a serious talk a few days ago about being in the right mindset. He's been convinced this baby would come as soon as I was off meds/bedrest and when I would say things like, "well he might stay put until May" he'd be like, "there's no way." We talked about how unhelpful that was and how he was just stressing me out. He's changed his tune some since. Hoping you can get your DH to see your perspective and figure out how to support you!
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  • maelicmaelic member
    I just went ten days over. I would have murdered my husband and not one single jury in the country would have convicted me. Entirely justifiable.
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    I do need to talk to him. I get that he is anxious but this certainly doesn't help nor will it change anything. And really I much better off NOT giving birth while I am sick so it's a good thing she has not come yet.

     

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  • deidremariadeidremaria member
    *sparky* said:

    I do need to talk to him. I get that he is anxious but this certainly doesn't help nor will it change anything. And really I much better off NOT giving birth while I am sick so it's a good thing she has not come yet.

    Plus you're only one day past your EDD. It's not that serious
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  • MamaFantasticMamaFantastic member
    *sparky* said:
    I do need to talk to him. I get that he is anxious but this certainly doesn't help nor will it change anything. And really I much better off NOT giving birth while I am sick so it's a good thing she has not come yet.
    so, so true!  i had a miserable cold when i delivered and it was awful to have to blow my nose every 5 minutes while i was trying to nurse a sleeping newborn.  and sleeping?  it was insult to injury to try to sleep with a stuffed up nose in the precious few minutes i was given between nursing sessions.  you do NOT want to deliver with a cold!
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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    @deidremaria - I know. I think he is less frustrated that I have not delivered yet vs. the idea that it will be another six days. I know six days is still really no big deal but I think for him this feels like an eternity.

    @MamaFantastic‌ - ugh. That sounds awful and is exactly why I am fine with her not coming yet. Sorry you had to go through that.

     

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  • deidremariadeidremaria member
    *sparky* said:

    @deidremaria - I know. I think he is less frustrated that I have not delivered yet vs. the idea that it will be another six days. I know six days is still really no big deal but I think for him this feels like an eternity.

    @MamaFantastic‌ - ugh. That sounds awful and is exactly why I am fine with her not coming yet. Sorry you had to go through that.

    So he should imagine how you must feel. You're the one carrying the baby. I'm sure you'll get that across to him
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  • HNRomanceHNRomance member
    the chanting would have sent me into a whole new, special, murderous level of fury. good luck with that. Hang in there! I'm just getting over a nasty bronchitis/cold bug and I totally understand since I would like to be able to breathe during labor.
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