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lovelittlebean · April 2014

Hello! My DS is 6mo. I know in my heart I am OAD, and I am terrified of getting KU again. I hate when people tell me to wait a year or two and I will change my mind. It makes me feel bad for not wanting a sibling for my son. My brother and I are 8 years apart, and even though I love him so much, being an only child was pretty good. I think DS will be fine. H is on the fence, but i have been honest with him about my feelings. He also thinks I might change my mind. I'm usually a lurker, but I feel compelled to join this board to learn more about the OAD lifestyle and talk to other OAD parents so I can stop feeling guilty.

bloverde · April 2014

Hi there! No need to feel guilty. There's no guarantee that siblings will even get along, let alone be lifetime BFFs. Also, studies have shown that statistically older children excel academically because you have more time to focus on them. Think of a lifetime of your undivided attention instead of just 2-3 years before the next one comes along!

Chapter79 · April 2014

Your son is cuuuute! Welcome!

Helenahhandbasket · April 2014

Hi and welcome!

KS02CS08 · April 2014

Welcome! Don't feel guilty about the sibling thing. I was OAD since birth and people kept saying oh you will change you mind and haven't yet and not planning on it.

JackoftheBox · April 2014

Welcome!!

KatieB19 · April 2014

Welcome

eyenigh · April 2014

Welcome! For me, the more time I spend with my son, the more I'd never want to divide that time with another kid. I always tell people I'd never even want to love another kid like I love him.