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long MIL vent

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So, my MIL is actually pretty nice but there are some things that she does that just gets on my nerves.  I think that I'm just more sensitive lately being pregnant, now a mom and oh so sleep deprived.

First of all, she always has to "one-up" people.  My IL's visited hours after my c/s...I was groggy, in pain and SO exhausted.  I had labored for over 27 hours before my emergency c/s.  My ILs said their obligatory hellos and asked how I was doing.  I was able to get out, "I'm tired but ok..." before she cut me off to talk about the 3 planned c/s she had.  MIL also has suggestions for everything, even if she knows nothing about the subject.  I'm EBF (she FF all 3 of her kids) and she was trying to convince me that 1) oversupply isn't a real problem and 2) I really should be careful with feeding on demand... "you don't want to be feeding him whenever he wants you know!"  Actually, I do want to feed LO whenever he's hungry.  Finally, she makes back-handed comments all the time.  "Oh wow, look at you go," as I ate a cake pop at my shower while 8 mos pregnant or "Oh, your face was twice this size the last time I saw you" when she visited one week PP.  Ugh, thanks??  I had to really bite my tongue this weekend.  The ILs asked how LO was; we were on the tail end of the 6th week growth spurt.  When we said that he spent the last week screaming and crying, FIL laughs and asks how bad can it be since LO is so little, how much can he scream while MIL smugly says that LO's always fine when she holds him.  Yeah, except that that's not true since LO cries for at least 45 mins whenever she does hold him and she refuses to hand him back!  The last time the ILs came over to help, they kept passing LO to each other as he cried.  I had to ask them 5 times to hand him over to me so I could feed him and soothe him!  So annoying.

Like I said, I know I'm slightly hormonal still so I just keep taking deep breaths....

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Re: long MIL vent

  • fish8412fish8412 member
    Ugh those comments are rude and unnecessary! I really don't think you are being hormonal. I would have been livid if they didn't give my baby back to me after asking multiple times. It is YOUR child. Since you are EBF you have a good excuse to get away from your in laws. Have you talked to your husband about how you feel?
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  • CruiseGirl28CruiseGirl28 member
    I've seen that ecard before, and I love it.

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  • SassyFlatsSassyFlats member
    edited April 2014
    Jennibeanjld said:

    @CHalePhoto‌ that's the most perfect ecard ever.

    agreed! I should print that and stick it on my fridge!

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    CruiseGirl28 said:
    I've seen that ecard before, and I love it.

    This. Also, your MIL sounds like a douche. Next time, walk over there, and TAKE your baby back. Physically put your hands on LO and wait for whoever to let go. YOUR BABY. not theirs. Yours.
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  • flclflcl member
    fish8412 I have talked to DH about it.  He's a really supportive partner but is pretty oblivious with other people's behaviors, let alone his P's behaviors.  

    B2B.2010 No, my ILs have always been they way they are with their comments.  My two SILs (one is MIL's own DD) says that she's judgmental and makes back-handed comments.  The funny thing is, she doesn't do it maliciously... it's just how she is.  

    CHalePhoto Totally agree... I'm definitely picking my battles.  If the ILs ignore my requests to hand my LO over or if they say or do something really offensive, either I, or DH will have to have a little discussion with them about their behavior.
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