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Handling her hormones!
trisholiosboi
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My wife is 18 weeks today. I've noticed in the last 4-5 days, my wife has been extremely hormonal! She's had a fairly "easy" pregnancy so far, so it was surprising that she just emotionally and verbally unloaded on me. She said things about me not doing around the house like cleaning the kitchen before I went to work (I leave at 6am!!) and not paying attention to our 2 foster children (7 months and 2 years old),etc. How do you guys handle the mood swings and not get emotionally broken down by your wives/partners insults?
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Re: Handling her hormones!
My wife will realize she's being psychotic and just say she needs to be left alone until she is in a better mood. So I go wander around the local gun store or if it's really bad I drive to cabellas.
Her body is changing and she might need to talk to someone (family or friend that's been there) to help her understand how to cope with what she is going through.
I like the drive to Cabella's idea and will have to remember that. The closest Cabella's to me is 190 miles one way
I mentioned this to my wife and she said to be less annoying.
By the way, I do the kitchen before I go to work and I only leave a little bit after you do. That's something that can be done pretty easily. We don't even have a dishwasher.
saying to just deal with it? I feel that just because she's pregnant, that doesn't give her a license to berate me and treat me,like shit! Her sister is pregnant also, and they have each other, don't make the punching bag!
You're not going to wake anyone up if you're quiet about it. Babies sleep hard.
We can't give you any magic words to fix it. About all you can do is deal with it. Ignore the comments and treat your wife the way you would any other day. Her body is doing some crazy things that we don't understand so just do your best.
For the record, my wife is on her second pregnancy right now and she hasn't once shown signs of hormones. It's crazy, I sometimes even try to provoke her and I never get a reaction.
Good luck, I hope things get better for you.
Lurking lady...
As someone who has a very hard time controlling her emotions when PMSing, this is something I fear. Before I take my progesterone I apologize to C in advance for the things I'll say and do. I turn into something of a monster and I know when I cross the line - and usually I'll buy dinner and a card to say I'm sorry because hormones aren't a reason to be a bitch.
Just try to remind yourself that this isn't her. It's a version of her and she'll get through it. When she's in a good mood though, you should remind her of how much you do and how hard you're working to support her and ask her to try to think before she lashes out at you. Sometimes she won't be able to help it - but other times she should be able to hold her tongue long enough and just say "I'm sorry, but I need some space right now" and walk away.
That's what I do when I feel a case of crazy progesterone-induced anger coming on. I know what it is. I can feel it boiling up in me and I hate it. I have a feeling I'm going to be a bear when I'm pregnant but it's something we're both going to have to deal with.
In any case, while you definitely don't deserve to be treated poorly, try to remember that this isn't the person you married doing this to you. It's the pregnant version
try tuning her out. C will just say "I know this is your hormones talking" and that usually shuts me up.
Hang in there!!