Intro and questions about FET after success with IVF

ColleenS629 · April 2014

Hi Ladies,

Long intro, questions at the end. Feel free to skip to the bottom

I have been off the bump for quite a while, so here's my story. DH and I went off BC in Jan 09, got pregnant and lost the baby in the spring/ summer of '10, started IF tx in Dec '10, were unsuccessful with injectables + IUIs, and conceived our twin boys through IVF with ICSI. We had quite a few complications with the pregnancy: OHSS, SCH, irritable uterus, an echogenic focus found on Baby A's heart at our anatomy scan, hospitalization for the flu, growth discordance, and IUGR (Baby A). Our boys were born via c/s due to the growth discordance and IUGR at 36w5d in Nov 11. Baby B had to go to the NICU for cpap but Baby A was able to avoid the NICU. They both came home with us after 5 days in the hospital. At 5 months, we discovered that both boys have an x-linked hereditary, degenerative, eye disease, juvenile retinoschisis. The boys have kept us very busy, so we only started to feel ready to TTC again this January.

We met with our RE a month ago to discuss an FET. I had to quickly wean my boys, as they were still BFing, so we could redo our testing this cycle, and transfer next cycle. I've already redone my bloodwork and have my repeat saline sono this week. We have one frozen embryo to transfer. We participated in a PGD study for our IVF cycle. Although we were in the control group for our fresh transfer, our remaining embryos were tested before freezing so we know that the frozen embryo we have to transfer is a genetically normal girl.

We have absolutely 0 IF coverage this time around, OOP for all testing, meds, procedures- anything with my RE's name on it so this is our one shot and I am terrified. The first time around, of course we had the bigger fear that we might never be parents, but we had awesome IF coverage so we knew we could keep trying. This time, of course we don't have the fear of never being parents, but the pressure of spending all this money and only having one shot, is so scary for me. I am so afraid that it won't work, or that the embryo will implant but I will miscarry again.

So here are my questions:

1. Last time I listened to a podcast every day to relax myself throughout the cycle. I think I heard about it on the IF boards so I'm wondering if anyone remembers what I'm talking about. It was like a meditation/ hypnosis thing for IVF. I can't find it at the site I had bookmarked so I was wondering if anyone had a link for something similar.

2. If you've cycled again after having kids, do you think that having kids already affected your outcome? Meaning, last time, I came home from my ET and pretty much didn't move for days because I didn't want to jostle the embryos as silly as that probably sounds. I also dropped to PT teaching right before we cycled and school was out for the summer when I was 17 weeks so I was taking it very easy during my pregnancy. Obviously, I'm not going to be able to do that this time as a (mostly) SAHM (I teach two mornings a week at the local university but other than that, I am home alone with the boys while is out of the house 10 hours a day 5 days a week). My boys are big... probably close to 35 pounds each. I'm nervous about chasing after them and lifting them up and down so many times a day. I feel like that probably sound stupid but my cycle worked when I rested and I'm afraid it won't work if I don't.

3. Any advice or suggestions so that I can relax a little bit and stop freaking out?

Thanks

mdiblasi10 · April 2014

Welcome back! Your boys are adorable

Is this the meditation podcast thing you are talking about? I have heard about it from fellow bloggers: https://www.circlebloom.com

I did IUI's for our first and am now doing IVF for our second baby. It has been more difficult for me going through treatments than when I was childless, but it's hard to say if that is because IVF is more intense or because I have a toddler who needs me.

I hope your little girl is a fighter. Wishing you the best for your upcoming FET!

Dragonfly1226 · April 2014

Welcome! DS was a year old when we started TTC again. He was two and a half when K&A were born. I had a lot of the same fears about chasing around a (not so) little boy while cycling and during pregnancy. After my FET, DH took off the day of my transfer so I laid on the couch all day and night when we got home. The next day DH went to work. I tried to lay on the couch as much as possible while DS played inside. The day after that we were out and about as usual. We were at the playground, at sing along, at story time,... I ended up getting pregnant with twins so it was fine.

DS matured so much during my pregnancy. He became so much more independent. By the time that K&A were born, he was able to do so much more than he was when I first got pregnant. The same will happen with your boys. It is so amazing to watch him with his little sisters.

Good luck!!!

ColleenS629 · April 2014

Thank you both! My boys are 2.5 and they are pretty independent, unless I need them to be, of course (like if I'm not feeling well and just want to lay down)! They are still in cribs, so I have to lift them in and out for naps- nights/ morning DH could do, and we still have the kitchen gated off (never baby proofed it- hesitant to drill into all the cabinets because we want to sell soon) so I have to hold them when they want to help in the kitchen or to get them to/ from their booster seats. They can get in the car by themselves (unless we are leaving some place fun- then I have to carry them out to the car in duress), but I always pick them up to take them out of their car seats because they still RF and aren't in the middle (obviously since there's two of them!) and I don't want them to fall trying to climb down... things like that.

ColleenS629 · April 2014

mdiblasi10 said:

Welcome back! Your boys are adorable

Is this the meditation podcast thing you are talking about? I have heard about it from fellow bloggers: https://www.circlebloom.com

I did IUI's for our first and am now doing IVF for our second baby. It has been more difficult for me going through treatments than when I was childless, but it's hard to say if that is because IVF is more intense or because I have a toddler who needs me.

I hope your little girl is a fighter. Wishing you the best for your upcoming FET!

I didn't listen to this one yet but I remember the one I used being about twice as long. I will definitely check this one out, though. Thanks!

mccall0113 · April 2014

No advice. But good luck.

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