Love/hate relationship with your SO recently? How to deal??

izzetoot · April 2014

I know its the hormonies but... everything my DH does annoys me right now. Everything. The loud way he breathes, drinks, eats. Tries to make me feel better when i'm upset for no reason, is super negative and bitches about work and life, or doesn't agree with me (instantly) on anything. I want to punch him but then also cry when he leaves for work. OMG when is this going to go away... How are you ladies coping with the love/hate relationship with your SO? Please tell me Im not alone in this one... I want my partner in crime back. And then go away, but come back again.

elsa1688 · April 2014

You are definitely not alone. I'm so irritable all the time and DF can't do much right. I miss him when he's at work but when he's home, I get really irritated with everything he does.

PressLove · April 2014

You're not alone! DH drives me crazy, but I know that it's mostly me. I try to think about all the ladies who are going through this alone or are separated from their SO. In the end, I do love him. Therefore, I try to spend time alone and give him projects for LO that don't involve me.

HTH

JNYLP · April 2014

elsa1688 said:
You are definitely not alone. I'm so irritable all the time and DF can't do much right. I miss him when he's at work but when he's home, I get really irritated with everything he does.

Elsa1688 I think I accidentally flagged you when I went to press the back arrow on my phone! Idk how to remove it!!! I'm sorry!

Help!!!

elsa1688 · April 2014

JNYLP said:

elsa1688 said:
You are definitely not alone. I'm so irritable all the time and DF can't do much right. I miss him when he's at work but when he's home, I get really irritated with everything he does.
Elsa1688 I think I accidentally flagged you when I went to press the back arrow on my phone! Idk how to remove it!!! I'm sorry!

Help!!!

Just "love it"

caitb413 · April 2014

Ugh, I totally feel you! I cannot stand when DH eats anything- noises must be amplified while we're pregnant. But I've noticed it's not just DH, it's also the noises from the dog licking his lips or whatever else he goes to town on. I try to keep the tv on or turn on the radio to drown out the noises. For everything else, I force myself to bite my tongue. It just wouldn't be worth bitching about since he technically isn't doing anything wrong. I just remind myself that we love each other and hopefully this will pass soon!

izzetoot · April 2014

@CDK211 that pretty much sums up most of our conversations

This is our first and I feel bad for him, I know he's stressed too. It's hard to think about how anyone else is feelings while being so concentrated on how miserable I feel. I should seek help for him, as suggested, thats what BIL and Dads are for right?!?!

@caltb413 thats hilarious! Ive officially kicked my dog out of our bed bc she licks, scratches, moves, snores, anything!! But I love her to pieces too!!

I love my husband, I love my dog, I love my husband, I love my dog...

LyndseylovesHugh · April 2014

caitb413 said:
Ugh, I totally feel you! I cannot stand when DH eats anything- noises must be amplified while we're pregnant. But I've noticed it's not just DH, it's also the noises from the dog licking his lips or whatever else he goes to town on. I try to keep the tv on or turn on the radio to drown out the noises. For everything else, I force myself to bite my tongue. It just wouldn't be worth bitching about since he technically isn't doing anything wrong. I just remind myself that we love each other and hopefully this will pass soon!

OMG, it bugs the crap out of me when my dog licks his lips. Poor guy, he doesn't understand, but I seriously want to scream!

My H is in the Army and is gone at the moment (for training, not deployed) so he's not currently bugging me, but I remember little things bugging the crap out of me when I was pregnant with DD. I would just try and take a deep breath before reacting, most of the things that were bothering me were not a big deal so I didn't want to lash out (easier said than done).

CrysW08 · April 2014

I have the same issues with mine driving me up the wall, especially on the weekends when we're together ALL day. I just bite my tongue a lot & know that's it's my perception of his actions & not his actions that are bothering me.

elsa1688 · April 2014

@saltypearl‌ Big hugs

it is easy to complain but I am very grateful for my man. I can't imagine what you are going through.

Ashes92813 · April 2014

This!!!! This is exactly how I feel. I did have a major meltdown with him on Thursday. I lost it because he insisted on driving an hour away on his day off to get his car fixed by the same people who keep breaking it. He slept in and then was running late and left me to take care of all the dogs and the house and trash before I left for work!

I left him a raging voicemail and he turned around and came back to take the trash out and help with the dogs. We argued then came to a compromise and all is good.

yellowbird219 said:
Same situation here. The other day I finally just sat him down and explained. I said, "DH I love you, but there is some crazy shizz happening in me right now and I feel like I'm going insane. I want you to hold me and I want to punch you at the same time. It's not anything you're doing, it's just me. Please just have patience with me." He thought it was hilarious.

babygabe614 · April 2014

My DH makes me nuts right now, too. Granted he can drive me crazy at times whether I'm pregnant or not, but it's definitely more frequent now. His crude jokes are no longer funny, his driving sends me into a rage-tastic tailspin, and the little messes he makes that I can normally overlook or clean up after without getting upset are sending me up a wall. I hate it. A lot of times he can tell I am just overwhelmed and tries to hug me and apologizes profusely even when he doesn't know what he's apologizing for (which of course upsets me even more because, "It's not a real apology if you don't know why you're saying it!!") but he is trying his best to work through these episodes with me. I never knew how out of whack my emotions would be during pregnancy but I am thankful that I have a forgiving - although currently simultaneously annoying and infuriating - husband to help me through it.

CherSomething · April 2014

Mine is one of the few people who doesn't drive me nuts, actually. Everyone else is making me feel crazy.

SchoolPsychSteph · April 2014

@saltypearl‌ (hugs). That is all. Steph was here.

Katieluc106 · April 2014

Was this something that only happens in pregnancy?

misscarter87 · April 2014

Same here!!!

Julie&Micah · April 2014

You are definitely not alone. I'm an emotional basket case with zero ability to control any emotions directed at DH. It does get better once the hormones regulate a bit!

ChristineBaker23 · April 2014

Reading these are making me pissed at my hubby. But at the same time I miss him cause he's at work. Lol.

astalyons said:
DH is getting on my nerves. I'm 32 weeks and have a RCS at 39 weeks scheduled. We have NOTHING done in the nursery. It was an office/playroom. I've moved all the toys from there to ds's room, cleaned the closet, done everything that I can do. I need the desk moved so I can clean the carpets, scrub the walls, and decorate. For the second weekend in a row he has worked outside in the yard instead of doing what I have asked him to do several times. If I could move it myself I would but it is going to take two men to move it. Grrrr!! Hurry up so I can stop stressing about the nursery! We only have 7 weeks left!
Ok, rant over.

This is our number one type of argument. I ask him to do something - even make a list! With only three simple tasks on it! - and he just completely ignores it and does something else. My list is usually things I need him to do because I physically can't right now and I come home to find he has done everything I could have done myself but nothing I asked him to do! Ugg! He thinks he's helping me by doing my chore list for me I think, but it just makes me nuts because I am still waiting on him to do the stuff I asked him to do. It usually results in yelling and crying about being fat. He just kind of takes it and then we make up later when I feel bad about it. Just make sure your hubby understands you don't mean to be a basket case with him but you just can't help it. Kind of like you can't help eating entire family packages of Oreos in two days by yourself. He'll still love you

nmw10 · April 2014

Same boat! Can't help it he tries to get me in a good mood and I only get more irritated lol I stair at him when he eats I get frustrated if he drinks to fast. And I get pissed off when he snores lol I haven't been in the greatest mood last couple days. Yet when he's at work I want him go be home. And he comes home I want him to leave lol

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