Crazy SIL

alyshamarie007 · April 2014

So I know plenty of us have some nutty MILs...but I am wondering if anyone has a nutty SIL like I do. Basically, she is a SAHM who plays video games all day. She does not clean her house and begs my mom to babysit for her so she can have "video game dates" with my brother. She also expects my mom to clean her disgusting apartment during that time. My mom only agrees because she feels bad for her grandkids who get very little stimulation. SIL married my brother right out of highschool and has zero life experience yet she thinks she is THE EXPERT on all things. Honestly, if you are doctor, she will lecture you on medical things. Her famous phrase is "Well, not necessarily...."

Here are some gems:

When my mom recommended having both carseats rear facing because it was safer, she replied: "They like forward facing. If it's their time to go, then it's their time to go."

"I paid for my car $20,000 brand new, so it should still be worth that much!" (she bought it 5 years ago).

"The best presents for babies are disney dvds; it's so nice to have something to entertain them with."

When DH showed concern after she was giving my 9 month old nephew whole grapes to eat, she told him,"Oh, he's fine". 2 minutes later he was choking and she tipped him upside down and started beating on his back.

For Easter Sunday she suggested we skip the ham and make falafels.

Yeah, she also was offended when I chose my mom to care for DS when I returned to work and not her. Seriously.

chelseyestelle · April 2014

Oh my goodness. I feel so bad for her kids. That's awful stuff.

5speckledfrogs · April 2014

She sounds horrendous. Those poor children. And "their time to go" ?? That's love right there. Does her husband not say anything?

psychdoc12 · April 2014

First quote made me gasp out loud.

alyshamarie007 · April 2014

She says a lot of it when he's not around. Tbh...my brother is acadically a genius but has the common sense of a 10 year old, so he's not much help. My parents are livid with some of the stuff she does and says as am I.

germanpickle · April 2014

Holy shit. Time for an intervention.

Ajoyd · April 2014

My SIL is crazy. She's actually been pretty good lately, but she's done some real crazy ish in the past. She is my DH's sister. His parents do everything for her (they're wonderful people but total enablers) and she treats them like crap.

A few gems:

-we picked her up in Indiana on our way to Ohio for my bridal shower. She was drunk when we picked her up and asked us to stop every 15 minutes so she could go to the bathroom when really she wanted to smoke.

-she wasn't ready, as in nowhere near ready, to leave for Ohio with the ILs to attend my baby shower and get there on time. They left her in Indiana. She drove herself all the way there just so she could scowl at my MIL the whole time.

-She totaled MIL's car in a drunk driving accident. Luckily no one was hurt and her daughter was with my ILs.

Her ex husband is a hot ass mess too. I legit feel sorry for my niece.

deedee1017 · April 2014

My SIL walked into a room where my daughter was and asked "who's that?" She lives 20 minutes away at most.

alyshamarie007 · April 2014

germanpickle said:

Holy shit. Time for an intervention.

That's what I have been saying for months. We are trying to do it in a way where she doesn't get so offended that she cuts us off from the boys, since they would end up suffering for it. I am hoping we can get through to my brother, since she worships the ground he walks on and everything he says is golden.

Mmhodges07 · April 2014

I seriously hate her, and I want to adopt her children.

Amjoy25 · April 2014

Gah! My eyes got about as big as pancakes with the first gem. Um, no.

alyshamarie007 · April 2014

Amjoy25 said:

Gah! My eyes got about as big as pancakes with the first gem. Um, no.

Seriously, what does one say to that??? Especially when ones first reaction is not words, but a desire for action like a swift punch to the throat. I will say that she is not a completely horrible person, but is a rambling idiot who makes questionable choices and lives in a cloud. God forbid something ever does happens and she has to live with those words.

mancila60 · April 2014

I have2 winning SIL's, one is married to my brother and the other is married to H's brother. My brother's wife used to be pretty good and then family drama happened and it was like the stupid came out. She always wants to hold DS but never asks therefore she never holds him and it makes her mad. I'm not a mind reader! She also doesn't allow my niece around gay people because she doesn't want it to affect her! H's brother's wife thinks she knows all things baby because her little brother is 7. She has no kids and doesn't plan to have one for at least another 2 years. She says their house is too small for a baby because it only has 2 bedrooms. Oh and because she can't go 9 months without drinking that's just torture for her.

tashad18 · April 2014

To hell with a nice intervention-I think I would have went crazy lady on her by now. Especially after the "if it is their time" comment. Some people should not have kids.

Edited to fix. It is their not there! I hate when I type without thinking and don't proofread!

Ycu2013 · April 2014

Holy crap.

Ycu2013 · April 2014

Wow. I strongly believe that everyone should have to pass a test in order to have children. Crazy.

ncase2 · April 2014

alyshamarie007 - I would seriously be considering kidnapping your nephews.

My SIL isn't necessarily crazy, she's just completely self-absorbed. She had a baby right out of HS and got married when she was 19. That marriage imploded because she decided to be a SAHM but has no self-control or common sense when it comes to money (and she has an AS in accounting). I actually really liked her ex, he was super nice and worked like a dog to give her what she wanted, but I think one day he just couldn't deal with it anymore.

So, she moved in with my ILs, who tried to help her but she has the thickest head in the world and she refuses to listen to them and continues to f up her life, taking my poor niece along. They finally told her she has to shape up or ship out, and she chose to leave.

She then spent a few years partying, drinking, spending money she doesn't have and then making my poor MIL buy all my neice's clothes, shoes, etc, all while complaining and doing the "woa is me" pity party to anyone that would listen. She also stopped talking to DH because he makes money, budgets accordingly and we could afford to have nice things and take vacations. She also made it clear at every family function we went to that she thought he was spoiled, that he could help her out financially but he wouldn't, and made no pretense of liking me at all because I backed him up on not helping her out.

Now she's remarried, and while the guy is nice enough, he's pretty uneducated and listens like a lap dog to everything she says. They still go out almost every weekend, are constantly going to pro baseball games, concerts, etc. all while complaining they have no money and can't afford to buy a house.

Most of this would not bother me at all if my poor niece wasn't dragged into it. The girl has no friends, is severely obese (she wears a size 14 in women's clothes, and she's 10). She has horrible eating habits, hates school (SIL constantly talks about how stupid her teachers are, and how school is dumb, etc. right in front of her, so this isn't a surprise), and just looks unkept in general. My SIL acts like she is the biggest drag of her life, refuses to let her sign up for any after-school activities because it would interfere with her life, and is just in general as maternal as a snake.

Oh, and they just recently found out that her reading and math levels are so far below standard that she needs to be moved into a separate program, and my SIL is refusing to acknowledge this fact and is throwing a fit. She also refuses to get any kind of tutor or additional school help for her. It breaks my heart.

=((

shelley1002 · April 2014

My brother's wife is crazy. We've tried to get psych consults on her when she was hospitalized but psych never got down there fast enough to see her before she left.

Just a little background on her before the story begins. She was beaten growing up (or so she says), pregnant at 17, kicked out of her mother's house at 18 with kid in tow, high school drop out. Found out at age 21 or 23 that the man she was raised to believe was her father was actually her stepfather and has no idea who her real father is. House was full of drugs and alcohol. At least this is what she had told us.

She got my brother to drop out of high school because there is no point in graduating from a school that teaches useless things.

My brother has lost several jobs because of her calling him constantly for every little thing. She claims she has terrible fears of being alone but lived for a couple years just fine on her own (with her daughter of course).

My brother went away for basic training and she was told to stop calling by his drill sargeant. So she called saying that my nephew (their son) had been molested by her uncle. He hadn't, he had a diaper rash on his butt and it was a way for her to talk to my brother.

Her daughter was maybe 7 at the time (she just turned 18) and had been stuck in the small apartment in the projects for days because of rain. So was so full of energy she was a bit on the loud and wild side. I went to visit and she was sitting on the floor eating lunch, put her plate down, and started jumping up and down while telling me a story. She almost jumped on the plate. SIL saw this and said to her (I will never forget this) "Stop jumping or I will break your fucking legs." I couldn't believe it. I took my niece to the movies to get her out of that house for a bit.

My brother, SIL, and niece were in a car accident. Brother was okay, just whiplash. Neice had a bruise on her belly from the seatbelt and her big belt buckle but she was fine. SIL had a broken hip and needed 3 screws to put it back together. After the surgery she was in her room swearing at the nurses and doctors and telling them they were dumb and didn't know anything. They sedated her to shut her up.

hartsl01 · April 2014

Wow.. I think SIL's are worse than MIL's. I don't know how some of you do it! I feel so bad for their poor children!

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