I really hate people trying to tell me when I should be OK leaving LO overnight. There's a weekend bachelorette party happening in August two hours away and I'm getting a total guilt trip because I'm unsure if I'll be ready to be gone for two days when B is 6 months old. Just because it's POSSIBLE doesn't mean I'd WANT to!
@AriaAmante143 Don't feel guilty either way! Do what you are comfortable with. I would be super pissed if people told me when I should start leaving LO overnight. I'm guessing these people don't have children?
My mom is here. She never shuts up. Running commentary about everything, or some random story she's told half a dozen times. She just can't be still and/or quiet. I'm trying to be nice, but she's driving me BSC. And she'll be here til Sunday. I would say "at least she is cooking" but she talks all through that as well. And then talks about what/how she cooked while we are trying to eat.
And right after she leaves, my FIL will come here. It's hard enough to do everything I need without houseguests, but with my FIL here, I"ll be exiled to my bedroom to pump (and attempt tortuous BFing), rather than being in the living room where everything is.
I just want some alone downtime in my whole house. Even if it's just me and Matthew.
@CHalePhoto me too!! Everyone talking about their 4-6 hr stretches makes me stabby! I am lucky to get 3 once in a while!!
People keep telling me to potty train my oldest, but how am I supposed to effectively potty train when I spend more then half my day stuck on a couch with a babe on my boob! If my toddler says he has to go he probably won't wait until E is done eating!
End of the monther complaint here— But reading everyone's plans for working out and getting back to pre-pregnancy goals is making me feel sorry for myself. I feel like the majority of posters are nearing their 6 week checkup and are functioning as regular humans again. ...whereas yesterday I tried going without any pain medication and wound up bedridden at 6:30 pm.
Basically I'm just jealous others are having an easier recovery than me.
Our church goes to a local nursing home every Sunday afternoon to do a mini service. We go in groups so that we only have to do it once a month. DH and I have decided that once LO gets his shots we will take him rather than have his mom watch him like she does the other grandchild. I don't see an issue with this as whenever there is a sickness going around, they post a note about it so that young children won't be exposed. Plus, he'll be staying in his car seat and I'm all about taking him places and not avoiding places to protect him. Also, DHs grandmother lives there, so we want to take LO to introduce him to her. Anyway.... Mil was over yesterday and said, "it's y'all's turn to go to the nursing home in a couple of weeks so plan to leave Levi with me." I said, "it's ok, he's coming with us". She said, "no he's not. This is where I say no. It's too dirty, he's staying with me". I'm sorry, when did my child become your child? Thank goodness DH stepped in and said, "it's not your choice. Just bc you don't like it, doesn't mean me don't" or I would've gone all hormonal on her. She shut up then but was super pissy the rest of her visit. Does she seriously think she gets to say no to what we decide whenever she chooses???
I want to know why the hospital can't enter our info for the birth certificate correctly and then we have to wait a few months to get the corrected one. They messed up DD1's too. This go round, they put I was born in India instead of Indiana...
Also, why do we have to pay for the birth certificate? Shouldn't we get 1 for free with the ridiculous cost of childbirth?
Most of my friends live far away. The ones I consider my closest friends are about an hour and a half to two hours away. They live closer to eachother, so naturally they do things together. I'm not saying I need to be invited to everything they do....but I swear they just forget about me since I'm far away....and it makes me sad.
No real point to this except to bitch about it. DH doesn't get it, so he's no help.
I missed out on an awesome weekend with wonderful weather because I've been really sick. I'm still not feeling great today ugh!
Also I attempted so many times to get DD to sleep on her own last night so I could rest and she only went once for three hours. This morning she woke every hour! Arg!
Oh a third one. DH keeps counting down until we can have sex. He's been pressuring me for weeks. I'm just not ready yet, but he thinks this weekend is go time.
DH has been staying up late a couple of nights recently. Thursday he went for beer & wings for a buddy's birthday and didn't get home til after midnight. Saturday I went to bed early (9:30-ish) with the twins and he stayed up watching crap on tv until after 1:00, then the babies had a rough night and were up crying between 3:30 and 5:30. Now DH has epilepsy and is triggered by lack of sleep.
Yesterday I went upstairs to have a quick shower and left him with the kids. I knew he was tired, but asked him how he was doing and he said 'fine'. When I went up he was cuddling Rhys on the couch. When I came back, he was kind of glaze-y and acting weird, and was sitting ON RHYS' FEET on the couch. DS1 says 'daddy was making funny noises and shaking a lot on the couch. Well, fuck.
So now I don't feel like I can trust DH to tell me when he's feeling like a seizure is coming on (he has early symptoms so knows way ahead if one) and I'm pissed off that he put the kids in jeopardy like that! I'm not sure if he was still holding Rhys when it happened, but he could have dropped the baby, ended up on top of him, smothered him in the couch or a bunch of other awful things! And he knows he needs to get sleep but isn't making the effort to get to bed at a smart time!!
Mostly I'm mad at myself. I should have noticed the signs and made sure Rhys was somewhere else when I went upstairs. Epic mom fail ( *sorry for the novel*
Try not to stress what could have happened and be thankful for what didn't. Can you talk with your H about being realistic about his triggers and early symptoms?
Thanks! We talked a bit yesterday but he was a little 'off' all day. He's supposed to be seeing his neurologist to get his meds adjusted but we're waiting to hear back from the referral. We'll definitely be having a talk after work tonight.
End of the monther complaint here— But reading everyone's plans for working out and getting back to pre-pregnancy goals is making me feel sorry for myself. I feel like the majority of posters are nearing their 6 week checkup and are functioning as regular humans again. ...whereas yesterday I tried going without any pain medication and wound up bedridden at 6:30 pm.
Basically I'm just jealous others are having an easier recovery than me.
I totally understand! I started the Getting In Shape thread and will be 6 weeks pp this weekend but was sicker than I have ever been in my life with mastitis for 2.5 weeks and was on prescription strength Advil around the clock for 2 weeks. It totally sucked and ruined my early weeks with a newborn. I felt seriously sorry for myself but I did eventually recover and you will too!
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I don't get a real break anymore. When DD is down for a nap, DS is up and fussy. When he's finally sleeping, DD is up. I'm always caring for at least one kid. And then DH comes home and asks why I'm so grumpy.
The six week growth spurt can suck it. LO wakes up every two-three hours to eat (was getting a five hour stretch from 11-4 previously) and my boobs feel SO HEAVY and SO FULL!!
I want to EP. BFing isn't fun anymore.
I'm right there with you. LO is still sleeping pretty decently at night, but needs to eat every hour on the hour during the day. People keep telling me it gets easier after this growth spurt, I'm hanging on for the light at the end of the tunnel.
I just got home from grocery shopping and LO cried the majority of the time I was there. When my baby is screaming bloody murder, does it look like I want to stop, to show her off, and chat? Honestly! At least 4 people asked me how old she was while she was screaming. One woman also asked if she was hungry and the cashier asked if it was nap time. I was very close to saying, "If I knew why she was crying, don't you think I would do something about it?" Fuck!! I just wanted to hurry up and get home, not stand around and shoot the shit! X(
I have one more. My LO cries and fusses almost all the time until she's eating or sleeping. It's very frustrating. I don't know if she's always gassy, she's colicky, or if she just wants to drive me crazy. I don't know what to do!
I just want my unicorn baby back!!!! I'm really hoping this is just the three week growth spurt that everyone was talking about. But the very slight sleeping/napping schedule she had is out the window now and I got about 3 hours of sleep broken up last night...blah...
@AriaAmante143 Don't feel guilty either way! Do what you are comfortable with. I would be super pissed if people told me when I should start leaving LO overnight. I'm guessing these people don't have children?
I find people who most often are mad i won't leave my baby overnight or even with them for any amount of time so I can go somewhere are either child less or haven't had a child in their home for many years (aka my mil) I can't even count the number of times since she found out we were expecting the mil has said to us Maybe we should take a vacation and go to some other state and she will watch our baby!! Yah ok I'm not going to go to Texas to visit dh's cousin we never talk to just so you can have my baby?!? Gah!!
Ah! DH and I are planning a vaca for next April, so she'll be a year. I'm so excited for our first family vaca. My MIL wants us to leave the baby with her. Not happening.
I have one more. My LO cries and fusses almost all the time until she's eating or sleeping. It's very frustrating. I don't know if she's always gassy, she's colicky, or if she just wants to drive me crazy. I don't know what to do!
How old is LO?
She's 5 weeks today. She's been discontent like this since she was 3 weeks. Most times holding her doesn't even make it better. Thoughts?
Eta: it's also the worst in the evening. She cries and fusses throughout the day but starting around 8pm until she finally falls asleep for the night, it's almost constant.
I am starving all the time now for some reason. And I just realized that I have to schedule my 2 hour glucose test for Wednesday, because my 6w appointment is Thursday.
Also, filling out the application to sit for the bar is excruciating. It is like twenty pages long. I'm surprised they don't need my mailman's social security number.
1) I'm discharged. Allison is not, we are waiting on one last test that should have been back an hour ago. I want to dress her and take pics because I refuse to take them while she is hooked up to five million wires.
2) I had a breast reduction 10 years ago, and thankfully, my milk is coming in. However, I haven't been able to feed on demand because she is in the nicu and my recovery was so fucked up. The LC is concerned because she's lost 8% of her initial weight in 5 days and while she latches well most of the time, she gets lazy and has to be nudged along, even though she will do anywhere from 14 to 35 minutes per boob. Lady - let me freaking feed on demand for a week!!! I will gladly sit there and feed her as much as he wants but please face me a chance before we have to supplement!!!
3) people in the hospital need fucking sensitivity training. Stop telling me that I'll be with her soon. I have been separated from my baby and I want her now. You bet your ass I have been crying - stop taking my baby away from me!!! I know it looks like I am a serious candidate for PPD, but why don't you give me a week where you DON'T take my sweet baby girl away from me and we will reevaluate then!!
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me. You made my wedding day complete.
The six week growth spurt can suck it. LO wakes up every two-three hours to eat (was getting a five hour stretch from 11-4 previously) and my boobs feel SO HEAVY and SO FULL!!
I want to EP. BFing isn't fun anymore.
I'm right there with you. LO is still sleeping pretty decently at night, but needs to eat every hour on the hour during the day. People keep telling me it gets easier after this growth spurt, I'm hanging on for the light at the end of the tunnel.
LO just hit her fifth week and started eating every hour or so. For only like 10 minutes. Ugh. Haven't gotten lunch today yet. It's awaiting for me in the kitchen.
DH and I decided that we didn't want to make the 4+ hour drive to Easter on Sunday so we invited our immediate family here for a small get together. My sister just called and told me that she invited my aunt, uncle and two cousins who are married and have two kids each. WTF? Who does that?
I'm so tired of breast feeding, bottle feeding, and pumping. If my supply doesn't increase so that I'm able to EBF I think I'm gonna have to FF. So far I'm taking fenugreek, drinking mothers milk tea, and eating lots and lots of oatmeal and I'm still having to give LO around 2 oz of formula at each feeding (we still wake LO every 3 hours at 4 weeks old because he had blood sugar problems and was only 5#6 oz at birth). I really want this to work but I just don't see it happening.
End of the monther complaint here—
But reading everyone's plans for working out and getting back to pre-pregnancy goals is making me feel sorry for myself. I feel like the majority of posters are nearing their 6 week checkup and are functioning as regular humans again. ...whereas yesterday I tried going without any pain medication and wound up bedridden at 6:30 pm.
Basically I'm just jealous others are having an easier recovery than me.
I feel the same way. I took LO for a walk today and since I am just shy of 3 weeks PP, I walked super slow and didn't go far. It was exhausting.
@saisongbird It's normal for EBF babies to lose up to 10% of body weight so I'm not sure why the LC is pushing supplementation. There are times it is definitely needed (my DS1 lost 30% of his body weight after birth, and took 3 weeks to get back to birth weight) but as long as she's having a good number of wet/poopy diapers and isn't still losing I'd do what you feel is right!
@saisongbird my LO lost 8% of her weight in the first few days and my pedi wasn't concerned at all. Since she's BF they said that they expect to see up to 10% and don't supplement til after 10%.
@saisongbird I had the same experience with respect to the baby's weight. I agree with PPs that there is not a real concern until it hits 10% – that is what I was told. When my baby was reaching 10%, they wanted to push formula feeding, and I said no. He never actually hit 10%, and he was back to his birthweight within a week of birth. You have to do what feels right for you and your baby. If they are still giving you options, it's ok to say no.
@saisongbird We had the same issue with weight loss. The hospital got nervous when he hit 9%. At his first ped appt he was down 11%, but the doctor wasn't worried because my milk had just come in the day before. Sure enough, he had a weight check four days later and he had put on 7.5oz. You're right on this one, stick to your guns!
My sweet LO would not cooperate at all during her newborn pictures today. This girl is normally a good sleeper around 4pm so we scheduled for 4:30... Yeah, not today. I am mostly bummed because I wanted to give my mom something with a photo for her birthday on Sunday and now that we had to reschedule I don't see it happening.
@Anneplusone I am struggling too. I am an awful person when I'm tired, I just can't seem to help feeling desperate and restless, not to mention angry. This was before I had a crying baby sucking my nipples raw! I told DH earlier that every nap I take is a patience nap, because if I don't get one, my patience is nonexistent.
A patience nap I like that term I had one of those today. I fed changed and had Colton all kinds of happy than I handed him over to H and than went into my bedroom and took a 2 hour nap. Omg best I have slept since Colton was born!
@Anneplusone I am struggling too. I am an awful person when I'm tired, I just can't seem to help feeling desperate and restless, not to mention angry. This was before I had a crying baby sucking my nipples raw! I told DH earlier that every nap I take is a patience nap, because if I don't get one, my patience is nonexistent.
This is the way I am too. The only way I manage to get a reasonable amount of sleep is to sleep until noon-1:00pm every day. I'm a super light sleeper, and I'm also getting pissy about the people whining about 4 hour stretches not being long enough. We've had a handful of stretches that long, we even got 5 hrs. For ONE night the first week at home. The majority of the time it's 1-2 or 2-3 hrs. And I'm 5 wks in right now! I still have 9 weeks before I go back to work, and I pray that it will even out and she will start sleeping through the night by then!
My bitch is about insurance. MH's company was purchased on 3/1 and Aubrey was born on 3/9. Since then we have gotten "explanation of benefits" letters from the ins. Co. Stating every claim for when I was in the hosp. For the baby and I was denied, and we've gotten bills from the hospital and the pedi's ofc for well baby visits. The insurance co is saying it was b/c they didn't receive some letter back from me asking if I had any other insurance. Hello geniuses, if I was on his plan before, why wouldn't I have signed up for this plan or have another? So despite the fact that mh called the ins. Co last Friday to confirm they had my response to that stupid letter, they required an additional call tonight to tell their dumbasses to actually reprocess all the denied claims. I seriously loathe health insurance. Dumb fucks.
I'm also tired of seeing posters on here complaining about only 3 hour stretches. If we get one a night I call that a good night!!
ETA I don't call very many nights good.
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I'm late to the party today but I just logged my 5th consecutive hour of BFing after 24 hours of no sleep and LO keeps getting pissed that there's no milk in my boobs.
LOs growth spurt, or first leap just kicked in to full gear. I've been awake since 230a yesterday and when he slept for 2 hours this evening I thought 'I'll just stay awake so I can fall asleep when he goes down for the night'...big mistake.
This shit just happened to me pretty much. At what point is it safer for LO to sleep in bed with me than for me to try to stay awake for five days straight? Cause that's where I'm headed...
This has been going on for over a week. LO woke up a 3:30 to eat. After 3 hours of nursing, burping, changing, rocking, walking rounds around the house with a screaming baby, , I had a breakdown and woke up DH to help me. He's now giving her a bottle in the other room, and I can hear him muttering about how tired he's going to be at work today. I quit. I seriously quit.
I am feeling a little relieved that maybe the full moon was the culprit because baby girl was so fussy last night. She was just a crabby patty from 7:30pm until like 8:15am this morning. Nothing was making her less fussy! Now she is dead asleep... Today has to be a little more cheerful!
Re: Monday B-fest
@AriaAmante143 Don't feel guilty either way! Do what you are comfortable with. I would be super pissed if people told me when I should start leaving LO overnight. I'm guessing these people don't have children?
People keep telling me to potty train my oldest, but how am I supposed to effectively potty train when I spend more then half my day stuck on a couch with a babe on my boob! If my toddler says he has to go he probably won't wait until E is done eating!
But reading everyone's plans for working out and getting back to pre-pregnancy goals is making me feel sorry for myself. I feel like the majority of posters are nearing their 6 week checkup and are functioning as regular humans again. ...whereas yesterday I tried going without any pain medication and wound up bedridden at 6:30 pm.
Basically I'm just jealous others are having an easier recovery than me.
Does she seriously think she gets to say no to what we decide whenever she chooses???
Also, why do we have to pay for the birth certificate? Shouldn't we get 1 for free with the ridiculous cost of childbirth?
Most of my friends live far away. The ones I consider my closest friends are about an hour and a half to two hours away. They live closer to eachother, so naturally they do things together. I'm not saying I need to be invited to everything they do....but I swear they just forget about me since I'm far away....and it makes me sad.
No real point to this except to bitch about it. DH doesn't get it, so he's no help.
Also I attempted so many times to get DD to sleep on her own last night so I could rest and she only went once for three hours. This morning she woke every hour! Arg!
Oh a third one. DH keeps counting down until we can have sex. He's been pressuring me for weeks. I'm just not ready yet, but he thinks this weekend is go time.
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Now DH has epilepsy and is triggered by lack of sleep.
Yesterday I went upstairs to have a quick shower and left him with the kids. I knew he was tired, but asked him how he was doing and he said 'fine'. When I went up he was cuddling Rhys on the couch. When I came back, he was kind of glaze-y and acting weird, and was sitting ON RHYS' FEET on the couch. DS1 says 'daddy was making funny noises and shaking a lot on the couch. Well, fuck.
So now I don't feel like I can trust DH to tell me when he's feeling like a seizure is coming on (he has early symptoms so knows way ahead if one) and I'm pissed off that he put the kids in jeopardy like that! I'm not sure if he was still holding Rhys when it happened, but he could have dropped the baby, ended up on top of him, smothered him in the couch or a bunch of other awful things! And he knows he needs to get sleep but isn't making the effort to get to bed at a smart time!!
Mostly I'm mad at myself. I should have noticed the signs and made sure Rhys was somewhere else when I went upstairs. Epic mom fail
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She's 5 weeks today. She's been discontent like this since she was 3 weeks. Most times holding her doesn't even make it better. Thoughts?
Eta: it's also the worst in the evening. She cries and fusses throughout the day but starting around 8pm until she finally falls asleep for the night, it's almost constant.
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1) I'm discharged. Allison is not, we are waiting on one last test that should have been back an hour ago. I want to dress her and take pics because I refuse to take them while she is hooked up to five million wires.
2) I had a breast reduction 10 years ago, and thankfully, my milk is coming in. However, I haven't been able to feed on demand because she is in the nicu and my recovery was so fucked up. The LC is concerned because she's lost 8% of her initial weight in 5 days and while she latches well most of the time, she gets lazy and has to be nudged along, even though she will do anywhere from 14 to 35 minutes per boob. Lady - let me freaking feed on demand for a week!!! I will gladly sit there and feed her as much as he wants but please face me a chance before we have to supplement!!!
3) people in the hospital need fucking sensitivity training. Stop telling me that I'll be with her soon. I have been separated from my baby and I want her now. You bet your ass I have been crying - stop taking my baby away from me!!! I know it looks like I am a serious candidate for PPD, but why don't you give me a week where you DON'T take my sweet baby girl away from me and we will reevaluate then!!
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I'm so tired of breast feeding, bottle feeding, and pumping. If my supply doesn't increase so that I'm able to EBF I think I'm gonna have to FF. So far I'm taking fenugreek, drinking mothers milk tea, and eating lots and lots of oatmeal and I'm still having to give LO around 2 oz of formula at each feeding (we still wake LO every 3 hours at 4 weeks old because he had blood sugar problems and was only 5#6 oz at birth). I really want this to work but I just don't see it happening.
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I feel the same way. I took LO for a walk today and since I am just shy of 3 weeks PP, I walked super slow and didn't go far. It was exhausting.
I hope it gets better for you!!
A patience nap I like that term
This is the way I am too. The only way I manage to get a reasonable amount of sleep is to sleep until noon-1:00pm every day. I'm a super light sleeper, and I'm also getting pissy about the people whining about 4 hour stretches not being long enough. We've had a handful of stretches that long, we even got 5 hrs. For ONE night the first week at home. The majority of the time it's 1-2 or 2-3 hrs. And I'm 5 wks in right now! I still have 9 weeks before I go back to work, and I pray that it will even out and she will start sleeping through the night by then! My bitch is about insurance. MH's company was purchased on 3/1 and Aubrey was born on 3/9. Since then we have gotten "explanation of benefits" letters from the ins. Co. Stating every claim for when I was in the hosp. For the baby and I was denied, and we've gotten bills from the hospital and the pedi's ofc for well baby visits. The insurance co is saying it was b/c they didn't receive some letter back from me asking if I had any other insurance. Hello geniuses, if I was on his plan before, why wouldn't I have signed up for this plan or have another? So despite the fact that mh called the ins. Co last Friday to confirm they had my response to that stupid letter, they required an additional call tonight to tell their dumbasses to actually reprocess all the denied claims. I seriously loathe health insurance. Dumb fucks.
ETA I don't call very many nights good.
This has been going on for over a week. LO woke up a 3:30 to eat. After 3 hours of nursing, burping, changing, rocking, walking rounds around the house with a screaming baby, , I had a breakdown and woke up DH to help me. He's now giving her a bottle in the other room, and I can hear him muttering about how tired he's going to be at work today. I quit. I seriously quit.