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One week on/one off schedule

emme022emme022 member
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Hi,
So a little background first. LO is 3 and we have been doing a 2-2-3 schedule since she was about 19 months old. With that each parent gets 2 weeks of vacation.

So now BM has mentioned she wants to switch to week on/off and get rid of all vacations so my question is, does anyone else do week on/off? How old is LO and how does it work? Do you still do vacations? Thanks
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  • cole2144cole2144 member
    We are on the same schedule as you but I would not want to get rid of vacation if we ever switch to week on/week off schedule.
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  • SueBearSueBear member
    I would be hesitant to have no vacations.  Based on the kids' schedules and the costs of vacations, we have had vacations that go Weds - Weds.  Or you might want to rent a place for two weeks instead of staying in a hotel.  Or you may have family getting together on a week that is not yours.



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  • emme022emme022 member
    We also would not want to give up vacations and it is a little annoying she is even bringing this up now since we already requested one of our vacation weeks over a month ago.  I do get why she was saying no vacations, since technically it could work out to having LO for 3 weeks in a row.  One idea we thought of is each parent getting two 4 day increments to add on to the beginning or end of one of their weeks but who knows.  

    At the moment LO is doing really well with the current schedule which is another reason we wouldn't want to switch.  We have already talked about possibly switching to week on/off when she is closer to starting school but that won't be until Sept 2016 so awhile still.  The reason we would even consider it now is totally selfish, but basically it would help SO get a better job since right now he has to do pickup/drop off 3 days a week at 9am which rules out a lot of jobs.  

    I think we will probably stick with the schedule as it is now though, who knows if BM will actually even write it up or just drop it, but I don't think I'm comfortable agreeing to big changes with BM without a lawyer because she's proven she can't always be trusted.  Wanted to see how it works for other people though so thanks for all the info :)
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  • hhatton2hhatton2 member
    We do one week on and one week off with my stepson. He's 3. We have been on this for about a year and a half now. We do vacations, but they aren't court ordered. We just try to work together on them as much as we can. 
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  • akflutterbyakflutterby member
    We do week on/week off and our kids are much older (17 & 11 now) and it's been difficult the whole time (going on 7yrs). The kids just get used to one house and it's time to go to the other. It also REALLY affected our family vacation (we got married in Hawaii and had to go to court to get the kids for the full ten days - with flight times we only would've had them for four) and it was a nightmare to go through.
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  • Alyssa7012Alyssa7012 member
    We have been doing week switches for 3 years now with mine. She is 6 next month and has had no issues with it. She is used to me as her father and i started dating when she was 13months old and are now married. We dont do vacations? I mean, we go on vacation, but we just plan it out and she goes with us. But, that being said, there is no custody agreement in place. We just talk to each other and trade off if we need to switch something. The weekend we got married was her weekend with her mother, but mothers day is her weekend with us so we just switch and call it even. She spends mothers day with her mother and fathers day with her father regardless of whos time it is, and we split holidays every other year. It works for us.
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  • Abenedict2011Abenedict2011 member
    Each of my step children have different BM so we have 2 different agreements.

    With SD (9yo) we do school year M-F with us and switch every other weekend, but then during the summer we do week on/off with Sunday evening switches at 7pm. BM gets the first week after school is out. This worked out well for us last summer and we just planned our vacation around our week on and made verbal agreements to adjust a few days here an there to allow SD to participate in as many family activities as possible.

    With SS (13yo) we don't have a current official court document (last one was when he was 2 yo), but we do Monday after school until Friday after school w/ BM then with our family Friday thru Monday. We do that as a base but are very flexible w/ BM about switches throughout the year. There is no set limit on vacations.
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  • emme022emme022 member
    This has all been helpful.  I think one of our biggest concerns at the moment is that BM has threatened in the past to call and claim SO kidnapped LO when they have agreed to a time exchange, has lied about family events because she wanted LO and didn't want to have to give up any of her time to have her etc.  And now she brought this up and has expected it to start happening within a week, but refuses to put anything in an email or in writing at all.  We just don't feel like we can trust her, since she has never been willing to compromise on anything, and her insisting she wants nothing written about it anywhere seems a little shady to me.  
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