Should you "discipline" a 17 month old?

Re: Should you "discipline" a 17 month old?

• cedenton member

  April 2014

  Well, discipline means different things to different people. But, we've definitely, IMO, hit the stage where we need to back up our "no"s with action. Redirection doesn't always work, at least not with my kid. I start with No and try redirecting. If that doesn't work I say No again and warn him that he will go to time out. He knows exactly what I'm talking about. If he does it again, then he goes to time out for a couple of minutes.
  
  
  

  
  

  

  
  

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• minervacullen member

  April 2014

  If you yell at this age the child will become scared and possibly withdraw from the parent doing the yelling. Of course you should never yell, but as a mom of a first grader I can tell you it happens.
  
  I start with taking items away, like if DD throws her toy I take the toy for a bit. Time outs work when the child is ready, I will take several tries for them to get it. Maybe even months, but it's usually pretty effective. Try to be firm and loving when you do it. I say to DD "Milla is being a naughty girl, we need to be a good girl." Then I walk away. She mostly cries for a minute and then runs to me to hug me and tells me she's a good girl.
  
  In the situation you had, the monitor was within his reach, of course he's going to mess with it. He shouldn't be punished for doing what comes naturally. He didn't know, he probably has been eyeing it and knew it's get your attention. I'd tell him that's not for him and move it out if reach,

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• janinekrause member

  April 2014

  We started time outs around that age. Lots think it is too early, but with mine, she really understood it.

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• ss265 member

  April 2014

  Nicb13 said:

  At that age we started time out's for hitting only and when hitting was out of anger and on purpose. For something like throwing the monitor, I wouldn't have punished DS or disciplined him. Just told him no, we don't throw, etc or not let him have it in the first place, if possible. Time out's worked very well at that age for us.

  I completely agree. DH just got mad (he has a temper) and reacted out of anger. We will be having a chat tonight about this.
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• hilsy85 member

  April 2014

  I definitely think toddlers need discipline, it helps them learn rules and boundaries. I think my 17 month old is too young for time outs...I can't imagine them being effective for him. We do a firm no and a redirection/removal of him or the object from the situation, depending on what it is. 

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• ss265 member

  April 2014

  Thank you for all your input ladies!

  

  
  

  
  

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