January 2014 Moms

Ready yet...

For another little one? Or are you pregnant already? My DH and I want to have a big family (maybe 5) and we aren't getting any younger either (35 next month). We have a 28 month old and an 11 week old. Just wondering if anyone else was in the same boat or if u have experiences to share. I really want another but I'm feeling nervous about too many little ones and not spending enough time with each of them as they grow. I don't want to be selfish either cuz I loved being pregnant. Thanks in advance! I'm a lurker but looking to be more active so please don't judge!!

Re: Ready yet...

  • I don't think anyone will judge. The board is slow, any topic is welcomed lately.

    My husband and I just had the conversation tonight, since my first pp period seems to be winding down. We're going to NTNP (not try, not prevent) for a while. Probably a year or so. We had such a hard road to get pregnant in the first place and I am 36 -- so although it would definitely be difficult to have another one soon, we don't want to wait too long.
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  • I'm 36 now and as I'm not getting any younger we're not going to try and prevent it though we're not actually trying at the present moment. DS is our first and we'd really like for him to have a sibling. I go back to work in 9 days (tear!) so it'll be interesting how my "work/life balance" will be.
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  • We are not trying; I'm on BC again to prevent.  However, I actually wouldn't mind if I were to get pregnant again.  Maybe we will try for another again in a year or two.  We haven't officially decided if we are giving it another go but I think I am leaning toward yes.
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  • We are waiting until after my birthday next year, it's the big 30 and I would like to be able to drink that day, afterwards though we will be actively trying!
  • Oh hell no.
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  • We are going to try right away. It took us two years to get pregnant with DS, so we don't want to waste time. No sign of a PP period so far though, and not a lot iof ST happening right now. We are both exhausted, and ST is the least of out priorities.
  • Thinking of trying when dd is 18 months old.
    BFP #1 (7/13/12) MC (8/14) 9 weeks. D & C 8/17.
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  • I've always wanted a big family but due to health issues, we are trying to decide if we should try for a second one or not. If we do, it will likely be when DD is around 2.
  • We know we definitely want one more (at least,  dh wants 2 more) but we are are aiming for ttc next year after our 10 year anniversary in February.  I am ebf but not on bc. We are using condoms but are honestly not super careful. It would not break our hearts if we got pg a little sooner than we plan.  

      
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    BFP #2 01/18/13. EDD 09/10/13. Missed m/c 02/18/13. 
    BFP #3 5/1/13 My rainbow DS born 1/13/14
    BFP #4 11/11/15 spontaneous m/c 12/28/15
    BFP#5  Praying for another rainbow in February!

     
  • DH and I were just talking about this the other day. Honestly, the only thing keeping me from trying again is my weight. I still have 20 lbs to lose to get down to my pre-pregnancy weight (which honestly, is still a bit high for me so I'd like to lose more).

    Physically, for me, being pregnant wasn't that bad. Emotionally, I turned into a monster lol. I don't know how my husband put up with all my bitching and attitude. Labor was also pretty tolerable so I would have no issues.

    I'll might regret these words later, but right now, 2 under 2 doesn't seem like it would be the worst idea for us. After all, I already am an insomniac with the baby I have now. Bring on another newborn! lol

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  • I'm on the fence about a third. If we go for it, I don't think it will be until this LO is closer to 3. (3 under 3 or close to it- especially if I end up with 3 boys- would be more than I could handle!)

    I'm 30 and got pregnant both times quickly so we have time to decide.
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  • We are two and done. We were on the fence for 3 until I delivered this LO. I emotionally and physically can't do it again. I have anxiety and nightmares when I think about this delivery to the point to where I just start crying when I think about it.

    I'm open to adopting if we eventually decide we want another LO, but right now we are very happy and totally in love with our 2 kiddos.
  • We are done. I'm happy with two! I would of been happy with one, we tried for 3 years before getting pregnant with Julianna. The month we decided to stop trying (last year) we found out I was pregnant. It worked out in such a way, we think it was meant to be.
  • My ob told me to avoid getting pregnant for at least a year because of having a preemie. I don't know if my body or mind could handle another one for a while even though I loved being pregnant. We're looking to wait at least 2 years
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    I think that we only want two and we are still pretty young so we've got some time. We probably won't start trying until DD is about 2.


  • I'm back on BC because we want our LO's to be about two years apart.  I have to say though, I have been thinking about our next one. I keep thinking I hope it's a girl.
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  • I can't get pregnant again until I can put this baby down for a few minutes. ;) otherwise, hope to wait a few years but not too long. Abby took three years (and fertility treatments) so I don't want to wait too long to try. Dh won't discuss it right now until we are atleast STTN.

    I'm 33 DH is 36 
    Married 6/27/2009 Together since 10/22/2005
    TTC since 8/2010 (off BCP since 8/2009) 
    Unexplained Infertility
    8/2011, 1/2012, 3/2012 IUI #1-3 BFN 
    6/2012 IVF#1 BFN, 8/2012 IVF#2 FET BFN, 11/2012 IVF#3 BFP
    12/10/2012 U/S #1 6w4d - heartbeat  EDD 8/1/13 
    12/26/2012 U/S #2 8w6d - No more heartbeat, MMC; D&C; Chromosome testing normal; male :( RPL testing normal 
    4/3/2013 DX Asherman's Syndrome caused by D&C, hysteroscopy done
    June 2013 IVF #4 planned 
    5/12/2013 SURPRISE BFP! Natural cycle 
    7/11/2013 Panorama results Normal!!! Team Pink, partial previa moved up in 2nd tri9/5/13 (19w) AS scan shows short cervix, 2.5 cm 9/19 (21w)  Cervix is worse 1.87cm, bed rest 10/26 & 10/27 steroid shots 12/19 (35w) DX: SGA Baby went from 57% percentile to 18th percentile in 6 weeks. Weekly BPP and NST until she is here. 1/17/18 Growth scan puts Abby below 10th percent in size, low amniotic fluid, and less movement. Time to induce!
    1/18/14 2:11am Abigial Morgan is here! 5lbs 14oz and 18 inches of pure cuteness!!!

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  • Congrats @MissMeegs‌ ?!

    I would be okay with another pregnancy anytime. DH agrees do we are ntnp. Although if I didn't know any better I'd say DH is trying...that or trying to get as much ST in as possible before it happens and I lose interest again. Haha

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    bfp#3- 9/26/14. EDD: 5/7/15. no heartbeat found @ 1st u/s, natural mc 10/23/14. "Little Bug"

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  • Congrats @MissMeegs‌ -scary but exciting! Happy it didn't take a long time at least.

    I'm 33 DH is 36 
    Married 6/27/2009 Together since 10/22/2005
    TTC since 8/2010 (off BCP since 8/2009) 
    Unexplained Infertility
    8/2011, 1/2012, 3/2012 IUI #1-3 BFN 
    6/2012 IVF#1 BFN, 8/2012 IVF#2 FET BFN, 11/2012 IVF#3 BFP
    12/10/2012 U/S #1 6w4d - heartbeat  EDD 8/1/13 
    12/26/2012 U/S #2 8w6d - No more heartbeat, MMC; D&C; Chromosome testing normal; male :( RPL testing normal 
    4/3/2013 DX Asherman's Syndrome caused by D&C, hysteroscopy done
    June 2013 IVF #4 planned 
    5/12/2013 SURPRISE BFP! Natural cycle 
    7/11/2013 Panorama results Normal!!! Team Pink, partial previa moved up in 2nd tri9/5/13 (19w) AS scan shows short cervix, 2.5 cm 9/19 (21w)  Cervix is worse 1.87cm, bed rest 10/26 & 10/27 steroid shots 12/19 (35w) DX: SGA Baby went from 57% percentile to 18th percentile in 6 weeks. Weekly BPP and NST until she is here. 1/17/18 Growth scan puts Abby below 10th percent in size, low amniotic fluid, and less movement. Time to induce!
    1/18/14 2:11am Abigial Morgan is here! 5lbs 14oz and 18 inches of pure cuteness!!!

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  • Congrats @MissMeegs‌!

    We are NTNP too. I am EBF-ing. It wouldn't be awful if I found I out I was pregnant right now, but would prefer to wait a few more months to see the + HPT.
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    BFP #4 4/30/13, baby girl born med-free Jan. 2014

    BFP #3 9/24/12, Missed m/c at 9w1d (baby measured 8w5d)

    BFP #2 9/23/10, healthy baby girl born med-free June 2011

    BFP #1 5/21/10, Missed m/c at 10w4d (baby measured 8wks), D&C 6/29/10
     
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    Congrats @MissMeegs!

    I'm getting Nexplanon inserted soon [I should probably call my OB again to make sure that I can get it], so no babies around here for a little while. H says he doesn't want any more, but I want one more in a couple of years...so I'm hoping that once we're settled in one place and Mia is a little older, H will be game for one more baby. I'm 28, so I feel like I have some time...but I'm more worried about the age difference between JJ and any other siblings he has after Mia [they're already 5 years apart].
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  • We will probably start trying again when DS is around 2.  He's such a fussy baby, we really can't even begin to think about any more until he is older!
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  • Wow, congrats @MissMeegs‌ !! Awesomely scary and wonderful news!

    I suppose we are NTNP because I refuse to take the pill (long icky history) and we make game time decisions about condoms/pull&pray. I want a little space in between each kiddo but DH wants 'em back to back to back (to back, to back...etc. Crazy man), so we're leaving it up to the powers that be for now!

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  • We are NTNP. I want another one so it can be two and that's it. I want them to get pregnant before my 30s, because it's harder on your body the older you are, I think. I'm 29 now. Later on in the year, we will start actively trying. I think I would be pretty happy being pregnant again.

    Congrats miss megs!

     

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  • Congrats @MissMeegs‌! We will start trying again after DD turns 1.
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  • How exciting @MissMeegs!

    We are no where near ready for another.  At least 2-3 years before trying again for us. 
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  • We will likely start trying 6-7 months from now.
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  • No, I am definitely not ready for another! I want to soak up this time with DD for a while, and then I'd like to take a break from pregnancy and breastfeeding to have my body to myself for a few months before trying to get pregnant again (I hope to continue BFing until at least 12 months if we can). 
    We want 2 or 3 total, but plan to wait til DD is at least 1 before we start discussing baby number 2. We'll probably try for our next baby next spring or summer.
  • We are two and done. We were on the fence for 3 until I delivered this LO. I emotionally and physically can't do it again. I have anxiety and nightmares when I think about this delivery to the point to where I just start crying when I think about it. I'm open to adopting if we eventually decide we want another LO, but right now we are very happy and totally in love with our 2 kiddos.
    Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience - good for you for knowing your limits and taking care of your emotional/mental health as well as your physical health!
  • my husband isn't sure if he wants more because he says he's so happy with these two but if we decide to it will be when the twins are around 1.5. Right now we're basically just using the pull out method so if I was to get pregnant we would just go with it but the chances are low because I'm EBF and it took meds for me to get pregnant last time anyway.

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  • I definitely want another! Thinking we will wait until Hudson is 18 mos before trying. Maybe even a little longer.


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  • DH and I both turn 35 in jan/feb. So I don't want to wait to long but would like to enjoy this summer and especially next without breastfeeding/pumping and getting a break from being tied down. Also not worrying about morning sickness being tired etc. I am on the mini pill now and would go off by the end of August next year. So DH and will be 36 with baby #2 and babies would be a little over 2 years apart.
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