Gender reveal vs shower

2babymama · April 2014

For our second we decided to do a gender reveal with optional gifting. Because a second shower seemed weird and we had NOTHING left. Also my hubby was unable to attend the ultrasound. So I didn't find out until the party, so we would still find out together. And my grandmother, two months after the party, is still making rude comments about how stupid it was. Really it worked for us. It was small and fun, I guess I shouldn't have invited her

Helenahhandbasket · April 2014

OK. Not sure what you mean by "we had nothing left"

Gifts are always optional for non gift giving events (like a "gender" reveal).

Helenahhandbasket · April 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

2babymama said:

For our second we decided to do a gender reveal with optional gifting. Because a second shower seemed weird and we had NOTHING left. Also my hubby was unable to attend the ultrasound. So I didn't find out until the party, so we would still find out together. And my grandmother, two months after the party, is still making rude comments about how stupid it was. Really it worked for us. It was small and fun, I guess I shouldn't have invited her

Also, QFP

I always forget to do that.

VOR · April 2014

So, FINALLY someone invited to one of these spoke up. See, not everyone "thinks it's a great idea!". Grandma is just being bold enough to say something.

And LOL at "optional gifting" and having nothing left. Yes, YOU deciding to have a kid makes it everyone elses responsibility to buy you stuff.

VOR · April 2014

Idani said:

It kind of makes me giggle that Grandma is still commenting two months later about her dislike of it.. But I don't understand this post.

I actually suspect that it's MUD. Stupid post w/ a couple triggers in it that people get up in arms over.

paintedtulips · April 2014

Already going to see I am going to be in disagreement with many people on gender reveal parties!

At OP, I think your party sounds lovely, and your grandmother needs to just get with current trends!

I think overall gender reveal parties are much more fun than baby showers! Although, they serve completely different purposes. Gender reveal parties are much more casual parties (optional gifting is a good way to go, some people will probably bring gifts even if you say no gifts) where people can watch the parents find out what they are having, while partaking in fun games. With all of my friends' babies we loved matching up old wives tales with their symptoms, or guessing if it would be boy or girl. Three had gender reveal parties, and they were a blast! Plus, they had great pictures from them! Gender reveal parties are just plain FUN!

Baby showers are more of a formal attire in my book. Formal dinner, or tea, presents, a celebration of the mother, hosted by close family or friends. If a baby shower is the equivalent to a bridal shower, then I feel like the gender reveal party would be the bachelorette party. Therefore, you need both, since they are so different.

And to whoever said, "it's not the responsibility of your friends and family to provide for your child. That's on you." Yes, I think that is obvious. That said, its them wanting to "celebrate" the baby by bringing a gift. Honestly, people who don't bring gifts to baby showers (I said baby showers, not gender reveals) are just rude.

Also, the whole gender versus sex, yes we all know the difference, but you all don't have to be so PC. That is just stupid. I will call it a gender reveal party until my dying day.

Lastly, most of you are just so plain rude! If you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all.

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VOR · April 2014

Oh god. Now we're moving into "needing" both events? Hell. Where have we gone that we feel OUR life events are "oh so important" that it involves multiple parties???

ArgyleBride · April 2014

I wish you guys would calm the hell down. Gender reveals might be a bit much, but if you keep it small, to people you know are interested, harm done is pretty much zero. As long as the icky stereotypes (Football player or cheerleader!) and other rudenesses ("gifts optional") are avoided, who cares. Kindly climb off the hyperbole bandwagon (kids-these-days, twat-as-understatement, really now?).

I hope everyone remembers that, although GR parties are tacky, grandma whining about it blows that trnasgression out of the water, rudeness wise.

VOR · April 2014

ArgyleBride said:

I wish you guys would calm the hell down. Gender reveals might be a bit much, but if you keep it small, to people you know are interested, harm done is pretty much zero. As long as the icky stereotypes (Football player or cheerleader!) and other rudenesses ("gifts optional") are avoided, who cares. Kindly climb off the hyperbole bandwagon (kids-these-days, twat-as-understatement, really now?).

I hope everyone remembers that, although GR parties are tacky, grandma whining about it blows that trnasgression out of the water, rudeness wise.

I don't entirely agree w your last statement. I think part of the reason people are doing tacky things is because they see someone else do it and because "no one says anything" about it, others think "OH- cool, everyone is fine with this.". And then the tacky roll-out starts. Maybe grandma isn't going about it the best way, but I still think "good for her" for speaking up. It might make someone think twice now.

PrimRoseMama · April 2014

Gifts are always optional... :-??

I think sex reveal parties are AW-ish, but I think they are doubly so if you mention anything about gifts during them.

A second shower would be tacky. It's up to you to provide for your offspring. If others decide to be generous towards your family then that is a bonus.

PrimRoseMama · April 2014

mhayes120 said:
Already going to see I am going to be in disagreement with many people on gender reveal parties!

At OP, I think your party sounds lovely, and your grandmother needs to just get with current trends!

I think overall gender reveal parties are much more fun than baby showers! Although, they serve completely different purposes. Gender reveal parties are much more casual parties (optional gifting is a good way to go, some people will probably bring gifts even if you say no gifts) where people can watch the parents find out what they are having, while partaking in fun games. With all of my friends' babies we loved matching up old wives tales with their symptoms, or guessing if it would be boy or girl. Three had gender reveal parties, and they were a blast! Plus, they had great pictures from them! Gender reveal parties are just plain FUN!

Baby showers are more of a formal attire in my book. Formal dinner, or tea, presents, a celebration of the mother, hosted by close family or friends. If a baby shower is the equivalent to a bridal shower, then I feel like the gender reveal party would be the bachelorette party. Therefore, you need both, since they are so different.

And to whoever said, "it's not the responsibility of your friends and family to provide for your child. That's on you." Yes, I think that is obvious. That said, its them wanting to "celebrate" the baby by bringing a gift. Honestly, people who don't bring gifts to baby showers (I said baby showers, not gender reveals) are just rude.

Also, the whole gender versus sex, yes we all know the difference, but you all don't have to be so PC. That is just stupid. I will call it a gender reveal party until my dying day.

Lastly, most of you are just so plain rude! If you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all.

I think it's rude to minimize the suffering & mistreatment that others suffer because their sex doesn't match their gender. That smacks of an unfeeling person that lacks empathy. To me, that's "just stupid" & shame on you. It's not just PC. It's an issue that has costs lives. Pull your head out of your ass.

You can have an informal baby shower.

Yeah, just stop opening your ignorant mouth. The more you talk the more crap leaks out.

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