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WWYD? - feeling the nanny is getting ready to leave

mommaoftripsmommaoftrips member
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I have been having a feeling in my gut the last 2 weeks of so that something is up. The nanny called in sick last Friday, was sick yesterday (went home early out of the blue) and asked to go home early today for a doctors appointment. In 8 months she has never been sick. Also, when she was leaving today she took ALL her extra stuff home stating 'I just want to go through my things'.
Is there anything I can/should do? We really like her and I am stressed because I have some really busy work weeks coming-up and don't know how I could manage my work responsibilities and commitments if she doesn't provide adequate notice. Just looking for advice. Thanks.
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Re: WWYD? - feeling the nanny is getting ready to leave

  • jf198400jf198400 member
    How much notice is she required to give in your contract? If I honestly thought she was going to leave I'd put up an ad on care.com and start gathering applicants now so I have as much time as possible to find someone. I also might ask her what her long term plans are if you've never had the conversation before. Does she want to be a nanny, or was this a backup b/c she couldn't get a teaching job, that sort of thing. You could also try offering her a raise and see if she'd agree to stay.
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    OMG this JUST happened to me! Mine came out of the blue and started with me catching her in a lie. When I confronted her on the lie she said maybe she should quit which is not what I wanted at all. We talked a little but I told her to think things through and we could talk again. Briefly, there were some things that she was unhappy with and that we are going to change.

    So my suggestion is can you sit down with her and have an honest talk? Tell her that lately you are having a bad feeling that maybe she's not happy here. Tell her you really appreciate and trust her and want her to stay (assuming that's all true) but that you want her to be happy in doing so. See what she says then ask her if there's anything you can do to make her happy and if so see if that is smthg you're willing to do. If nothing can be done to keep her happy and staying with you then I would ask her for the max amount of time she can stay before she has to leave.

    A lot of times the unhappiness or desire to leave comes from compensation and hours so see if you have any flexibility there. If its just smthg personal going on in her life there may not be anything you can do.

    I'm sorry you're in this situation bc it really sucks. Hope you can work it out and if not hope you find someone really great soon. Do you have back up care or any trusted family who can supervise a new nanny? That's the hardest part and why I was freakimg out bc we have no one to supervise a new nanny and I can't take time off bc I'm saving it all for ML in a couple months. But if you have family that can pitch in or you can take some leave it will be ok.
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