Me again... Thoughts and prayers (Update)

candyland33 · April 2014

So these past few weeks have been terrible with family news..... So my husband and I are visiting my mom and she had a colonoscopy done and they found a tumor and the dr said from what it looks like it's cancer. so she's going for a catscan tomorrow and will be having surgery Wednesday. Please pray for her and that it hasn't spread and they caught it in enought time. And pray for me I'm emotional and I need to keep it together for my baby and for me. I will be staying with her and DH will have to go back to work. I totally lean on him during these times so I'm trying to deal with that. I just want to scream WHY MY MOM??? WHY NOW WHEN IM HAVING A BABY AND I NEED MY MOM!! This is supposed to be an exciting time in her life getting to be a grandma. I don't mean to sound selfish but I want my mom here and healed. Sorry if I sound like I'm rambling...

Update April 24th)

So my mom had surgery last Wednesday April 16th which lasted 3 long hours and was able to come home a day early on Tuesday April 22nd . The doctor was very happy with how she was healing. We did find out that along with cancer tumor they removed that out of the 14 lymph nodes they removed 2 tested positive and she has Stage 3 cancer. This news broke my heart. into a million pieces. My husband is on his way back to the town my mom lives in and we will be leaving on Sunday because I have a doctors appointment on Tuesday. I am very sad I will not be able to make it to her appointments and most likely will not be here for any of her chemo treatments because of doctor appointments and the 3 hours drive. I'm worried because she does live alone and wondering how she will deal with all of this. I am very happy that since we found out all of this a lot of family and friends have rallied around us and I know they will be there to take care of her when I am not here, but I want to be here. I just want everything to go perfect and I want her better and to be there when I have my sweet baby girl. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers its been a long and stressful 2 weeks but I am thankful for all the time I have gotten to spend with her. We have not had this much one on one time is a very long time, I am thankful for that but I do want her better!!

Laur110 · April 2014

I am really sorry you are going through this. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. I hope everything goes ok for your mom and she has a speedy recovery.

Allison7 · April 2014

I am so sorry! It is totally normal to have those feelings. I hope your mom gets well soon and is able to really enjoy becoming a grandma without any worries about her health.

Melbwhitley · April 2014

I'm fairly new to posting, but wanted to let you know you are not alone. My mother was diagnosed with stage 2B breast cancer in March. She's undergone a lumpectomy and will begin radiation once the swelling subsides. She's been very worried that this will negatively affect my pregnancy and that I won't enjoy it as much because I'll be worried about her.

Of course you worry and it's odd to have a sort of role reversal where you are worried about your parent just as much (or more) than they worry about you. You want and need your mother during your pregnancy. Everything happens so fast when you get news like you've gotten and you can feel very out of control (which for me, was VERY difficult). I cried for her and I cried for me. And that's normal. She, and you, and your family will get through this.

The only thing you can do is let the news sink in (reacting in whatever way you want!), stay positive (you don't know for certain yet if it is the C word), and support her. I've tried to encourage my mom through all of this that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Use your pregnancy and upcoming birth as encouragement for her to get through this! I told my mother that she will get through it and at the end, she'll be holding her granddaughter. Also, once the news sinks in, you may find that your pregnancy and talking about that instead of what she is going through is a desired distraction for you both. Thoughts and prayers to her, you, and your family.

aelhunt · April 2014

Sorry hun. It's hard to be support for her and be pregnant and emotional. Take it one day at a time with her.

rockyrollgirl · April 2014

*hugs* Sending positive thoughts.

Laura5533 · April 2014

Hang in there, and try not to let your mind run away with the worst possible scenario. I hope that when they excise it, it turns out to be benign or low grade and that's the end of it. T&Ps for you and your family.

IvyMagic828 · April 2014

Lots of thoughts and prayers for your family!

MeganEMcG5 · April 2014

So sorry you and your family are going through this. Lots of thoughts and prayers coming your way!

jmathi0149 · April 2014

Sending prayers and hugs your way!

Hilee18 · April 2014

Hugs, thoughts and prayers coming your way. I hope the news is positive!

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abirdd9 · April 2014

I'm sorry to hear this

candyland33 · April 2014

Thank you very much ladies. It's been a weird few days but my family and friends have been great. We are taking it day by day.

DH will be leaving today to go back home but will be back Thursday. And 2 of our very close friends will be with me on Wednesday.

One thing that gives me comfort is when the baby moves ❤️.