Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months

"Strange" Behavior at DC

My daughter is 13 months old.  I work full time, so she's been in daycare since she was 3 months old.  She's been walking since 10 months, so she got moved up to the waddlers class at 11 months instead of 1 year.  This is her third class.  Both times she's moved up, it's taken her several weeks to adjust to her new surroundings and to her new teachers.  Once she does, she's fine, and she thrives.  So she's been in her current class for 2 months, now.  Yesterday, one of her teachers told me that my DD has been acting "strange" at school.  She acts very scared and gets upset if any other adults other than her teachers try and interact with her.  I was told she'll either go hide in a corner or run up to her teachers with her arms up, asking to be picked up.  Her teacher also said that she's acting afraid of certain new toys in the classroom that make noise.  Other than that, her teacher says she's doing wonderfully - sleeps well, plays well with others, eats well, etc.  Is this behavior something I should be concerned about, or is her little personality just coming out?  Maybe she's just a reserved child.  She's a joy at home, and my husband and I haven't noticed any changes in her behavior when she's with us.  I'm sure I'm just overanalyzing the whole situation. 

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Re: "Strange" Behavior at DC

  • ss265ss265 member
    Are these adults, teachers she had previously, or are they brand new to her? If they are brand new to her, it sounds like she could just be going through "stranger danger". Did she go through that when she was younger?

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  • ss265 said:
    Are these adults, teachers she had previously, or are they brand new to her? If they are brand new to her, it sounds like she could just be going through "stranger danger". Did she go through that when she was younger?

    Most of them are her old teachers that she doesn't see on a day to day basis anymore.  It's always taken her a few weeks to adjust to new folks, but then she's fine.
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  • Nicb13 said:

    You might be overanalyzing it but hell, I would too. I would guess it's the age. Your LO is mobile, more aware of her surrounds and she might be realizing that she has this new crazy emotion called fear (or apprehension). Seems totally normal to me. 

    I wouldn't assume this is how she will always be and maybe it's just a phase. DS has been this way about adults for quite some time. My son is a very cautious child, wants me around a lot, is fearful of new situations and most strangers. I'm not sure if he will always be this way but I try to cater to his needs and help him through times that are tough for him. Hopefully the DC is doing the same for your daughter. 13 months is still really, really young and it's not surprising that things are going to be fearful for her.


    I asked them this morning at drop off how they handle it when she gets upset.  I was told they pick her up and comfort her.  I also asked that they tell whatever adult is making her upset to leave her alone and respect that she doesn't want to interact with them.  Her teachers said they do this, and that they never push her into situations that she doesn't like.
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    jennylyna said:
    ss265 said:
    Are these adults, teachers she had previously, or are they brand new to her? If they are brand new to her, it sounds like she could just be going through "stranger danger". Did she go through that when she was younger?

    Most of them are her old teachers that she doesn't see on a day to day basis anymore.  It's always taken her a few weeks to adjust to new folks, but then she's fine.
    If she doesn't see them often, she may not remember them and they are strangers to her.  DS went through a major stranger anxiety phase (and is still somewhat in it).  He's at an in home daycare and my daycare provider said that she knows if someone's coming up to the door because if DS sees someone through the window, he will scream and want to be held well before the person gets to the door.  He's their security system!  He also went through a phase where he was scared of certain toys or noises they make, but that passed.  I think it all seems like normal behavior for a 13 month old. 
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