Depression during pregnancy? (Possibly AWish)

AMcLaws · April 2014

I've been feeling so down and disconnected from this pregnancy. And now I'm feeling completely disconnected from my hubby and from my DD. I feel depressed, anxious and completely alone. I've been kinda feeling like this for a couple months, but today has been awful. I feel like I can't stop crying. I'm so tired all of the time, I feel like I can't/don't want to get out of bed. I feel like I can't even be a mom to DD1.

Obviously, I know that I need to talk to my OB. My next appointment is on Monday. And of course, I've consulted dr google who says I'm depressed, or anxious, or suffering from bipolar disorder.

Any other ladies dealing with this? Or have any experience in dealing with this?

AMcLaws · April 2014

Me too, @symphony4586‌. Unfortunately, I've hidden it from DH as well. I need to talk to him so he knows what's going on. He works so much, it seems like we never see each other. (I work 40 hours a week, he does about 55-60)

AMcLaws · April 2014

Absolutely. I'm anxious to talk to him about it.

bewilderingstar · April 2014

I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Since becoming pregnant, it was terrible in first tri because of the waves or hormones. Every woman is different though. If you feel like this, you really should try to get some help sooner than later.

If you want to wait til you see your OB, then maybe try some lunch dates, dinner dates, (decaf) coffee dates or some sort of date with friends. Getting out and seeing people will bring up your spirits, laughing actually releases endorphin! Also, how about some vitamin D3? Seasonal depression is still in effect for many people right now. The lack of sun can really bring ya down.

I hope things get easier chica!

AMcLaws · April 2014

bewilderingstar said:
I've been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Since becoming pregnant, it was terrible in first tri because of the waves or hormones. Every woman is different though. If you feel like this, you really should try to get some help sooner than later.

If you want to wait til you see your OB, then maybe try some lunch dates, dinner dates, (decaf) coffee dates or some sort of date with friends. Getting out and seeing people will bring up your spirits, laughing actually releases endorphin! Also, how about some vitamin D3? Seasonal depression is still in effect for many people right now. The lack of sun can really bring ya down.

I hope things get easier chica!

I live in AZ, and we're not hurting for sunshine

admittedly, I'm a hermit crab and spend most of my days inside though. I leave the house to go to work, and go to the grocery store. We did take DD to the park the other night, and it did feel so good to be outside.

I'm going to call my insurance today to see if I have coverage for counseling. If it's too expensive, I do have people in my church I can probably turn to. Or they may have resources available for some therapy. I'll check into it

alyssa719 · April 2014

I agree with @bewilderingstar... I have a history of depression and anxiety and talked to my OB about this same thing a couple months ago. They suggested to go back to my therapist to talk about medication if it continued. I've been off medication for over 2 years so was not a huge fan of that option, but have been forcing myself to get out more and be active doing things that are fun.

katnipeverclean · April 2014

Depression during pregnancy is a real thing and a real disorder. If it is interfering with your ability to function and enjoy your life you need to talk to your doctor or your mid wife. I'm having the "Ok doc, let's talk about our plan of attack for possible repeat PPD/A" talk with my OB next Monday. I'm not excited about it. I'd rather stick my head in the sand, but I also know how much better the world is when I am not under that miserable cloud.

Hugs and prayers your way, hon.

edit: a word

Pinksundrops · April 2014

Thanks for admitting this. I'm starting to want to avoid everybody and everything and I realize that's a sign I'm not doing well. I'm pushing through and I LOOK great but inside I'm breaking. My DH doesn't see it because I seem so rational on the outside. I have actually straight up TOLD him I am not ok right now and he still is having a hard time believing me. Talking to a therapist sounds really freaking good right now, especially one who's used to dealing with all the hormones and changes and new work load pregnancy brings. Don't think my insurance will cover it but now I'm going to check. I may go do acupuncture too. That has helped in the past under extremely stressful situations where I've felt this way. Good luck! Definitely do what you can now rather than later!!

Akdlaster · April 2014

Around 17 weeks I began to have SEVERE depression and anxiety. I've had anxiety since age 16 but managed it with Prozac. All of a sudden out of nowhere I couldn't stop thinking about death and how we aren't here forever. So bad that I obsessed about it 24/7 and couldn't eat, sleep and barely spoke or functioned for a week. Had to go to the ER for a panic attack. OB put in an emergency referral to a prenatal psychiatrist who got me back on meds. Don't let anyone freak you out or make you feel bad about taking meds. We are far enough along. I feel so much better now (27 weeks) and wouldn't be where I am without the meds and therapy. Seek help, it's why it's available. Figure out the money part later, what's important is being a mentally strong mama! My OB said untreated depression or anxiety during pregnancy is much more harmful to the baby than meds. You don't need to suffer. Hang in there!

JoyfulJuly · April 2014

It's totally normal.

Ylvelill · April 2014

Such a step to acknowledge is struggles. Please seek the help you need from you ob or a therapist. Keep yourself and your little ones safe.

I do not myself deal with these issues, but grew up with a mother who did.

TallMomma29 · April 2014

I agree with everyone else that you should talk to your OB about it! You are definitely not alone and your OB should be a good resource for whether you need to seek out counseling and whether insurance is likely to cover it! I have majorly struggled with depression-like symptoms but I'm not sure if it is work related, pregnancy related, or deployment related and because I don't know what is causing it I just keep trying to ignore it. Definitely not the recommended approach! ;-)

SimpleComplexity · April 2014

You're not alone. I have a history of depression and anxiety. I started seeing a counselor again a couple weeks ago after being alright for several years.

ajhamb · April 2014

@ZeroZeroOne, hang in there! Definitely make that appointment, but remember that you aren't alone in feeling like this.

For every one person who chimes in on this board, there are probably a dozen lurkers who feel the same way.

Hugs to you as you figure it out!

alyss0nl · April 2014

I felt this way during my first pregnancy. It was a hormonal/anti-depressant issue that unfortunately turned into postpartum depression. Hang in there, and talk to your doc about your options!

mamakiss · April 2014

The most hopeless I've ever felt was in the heart of the nonstop nausea and vomiting from weeks 5-16. I figured id talk about it with my doctor at my first 2nd tri appt but for me the depression went away when I was no longer hopelessly sick.

I have opened conversation with SO about it however, because that was a hard place to be and if it happens again either further along or post partum, I know he'll make sure I say something to the doctor.

If I'm being honest I'm really nervous about PPD based in first tri alone. I realized I could be triggered by feeling as miserable as I was, I'm hoping it doesn't com back when I'm feeling new and hopeless and sleep deprived.

Lmagruder · April 2014

I'm in the exact same boat. Funny thing is i just said something about it before I came and hid in the bedroom. I have a super high deductible on my insurance so i can't afford the 150 per visit my therapist charges. I've noticed that it gets worse at the end of the week and i just cry. My OB put me back on my meds but it's not helping much. I just hope it gets better.

RKSnyder · April 2014

* loss mentioned!!*

To get pregnant with this baby, I did fertility treatments for 2 years- IVF, the hundreds of hormone shots, etc.,etc.. We also had a miscarriage along the way. I ended pretty damn miserable from both those things. When I talked to both my fertility doc and OB about it they said any influx of hormones can rapidly change our emotional barometers. I ended up taking medicine for about 5-6 months but was able to wean off of it after that. Not saying I don't have my tough times but things are easier to handle at this point without feeling hopeless.

I guess my point is I just want those of you that are struggling with this to know you aren't alone and just bc you feel this way now def does not mean it won't go away. Thinking of all of you...

Edited for loss warning!!!

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