July 2013 Moms

Wedding shower gift

I need help and I know I can count on you ladies.

I'm going to a wedding shower on Saturday and I've never been to one before and I didn't have one.

I'm supposed to bring a gift right? How much should I spend? Any good ideas or gifts that you loved at your wedding shower? TIA!
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Re: Wedding shower gift

  • Stina2012Stina2012 member
    edited April 2014
    I agree, check to see where the couple is registered. I usually spend $50 for a shower, but that's probably on the high end.

    If the couple didn't register, I absolutely love my Kate Spade vases and picture frames. Macys carries them and Macys usually has coupons.
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  • So I buy her something off of the couples wedding registry? And then buy another gift for the wedding?
    Me: 35  H: 35
    Married: 4/5/13

    "You know that place between sleep and awake, 
    that place where you can still remember dreaming?
    That's where I will always love you.  
    That's where I'll be waiting."
    ~Peter Pan 

    *TW*
    BFP #1: 11/12/12  EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13
    BFP #2: 10/29/17   MMC dx @ 9 weeks
    BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
    BFP #4: 3/2/18  MC 3/9/18
    RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
    BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl  :'(
    Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
    BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19  <3  Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 
    BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022 
  • Stina2012 said:
    So I buy her something off of the couples wedding registry? And then buy another gift for the wedding?
    Yup! I do $50 for a shower and then $150-$200 for a wedding. But spend within your range, not mine! A lot of people do physical gift for the shower and monetary gift for the wedding.
    This is my rule of thumb as well. 
  • Cfreymc said:
    So I buy her something off of the couples wedding registry? And then buy another gift for the wedding?

    Yup what others have said.  $50 for a shower is a good amount if you are close, a little less or a little more would be fine too.  I read somewhere that wedding gifts were supposed to be roughly equal to what the bride and groom spent per person for the wedding.  Which is probably in the $100-$200 range.  I don't know about anyone else though but for my wedding my shower gifts were probably more in the $25 range and gifts in at the wedding were probably more in the $50 range.  But maybe my family and friends are cheap
  • I have always done a gift off the registry for the shower and cash for the wedding.  Nothing beats cash money!

    Spend what you are comfortable with.  Depending on how close I am to the person I spend probably $30-$60 on a gift and then give them $50 for their wedding. 
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  • As some of the previous posts said... I always do a gift off the registry - that's why it's there :) and I ALWAYS do cash for the wedding. General rule of thumb: you usually want to make sure you're covering your plate, whether it's a shower or a wedding. Weddings average $100 per person but then again, it also depends on where you live. I live in NY and weddings here get expensive so we usually do $300 from my husband and I (that's also about how much I've received from every couple at my wedding, some less, some more). If it helps, I heard that you can call their wedding venue ahead of time and ask how much the couple is spending per person.
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  • I've never heard that the wedding gift should cover the plate... Especially calling the venue to see how much. That just seems tacky. Registry is great for a shower as pp's have said. Brides usually register for low and high ticket items so you can pick something in your price range!

    As a bride the main thing I found super annoying were all the guests who just came and didn't even bring a card or one person literally wrote me a card with an IOU saying they'd get me something when they graduated college and had money... (Guess what, never happened ;) ) while money and gifts can be awesome, to me it was more about celebrating with friends. I always bring a gift though even when I was a broke college student.
  • I have heard that the wedding gift should cover the plate...but do what @Stina2012 does. But I didn't when I was younger and made peanuts. I would have done $30 for the shower gift then.
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  • Cfreymc said:

    So I buy her something off of the couples wedding registry? And then buy another gift for the wedding?

    We usually do a gift off the registry for the shower and give money for the wedding.

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  • I usually do a gift from the registry & cash for the wedding.
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