Father's Day shower

julestony · April 2014

Hi Ladies. Looking for opinions. My SIL and Mom have decided that my shower should be on Father's Day, since that is the only day when my mom is in town that she is free. Keep in mind, it's a ladies only shower. I don't feel right asking my family and friends to leave their families on a day set aside for celebrating fathers to come and celebrate my unborn child. Am I off course? Or are they out of line? Thanks for your thoughts.

ccam · April 2014

I personally would not attend a baby shower on Father's Day and I don't think a lot of people would.

VOR · April 2014

I would attend. While we celebrate Father's Day, at the same time, I'd take 2 or 3 hours out of my day to attend a shower for a good friends impending new baby. My DH wouldn't be upset by this at all.

Helenahhandbasket · April 2014

If the shower is early enough in the day, I don't see a problem with it.

We usually celebrate FD with a late afternoon BBQ, though.

Jags8 · April 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

No you are right, we spend that day with family and I wouldn't attend a shower given on Father's Day. Unfortunately since they are the hosts, they choose the date. If they are unwilling to change the date, then I would simply decline the shower.

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Nicolewinsbingo · April 2014

I would not go. We always attend church and then celebrate, sometimes with both sides of the family. Definitely no time for a shower.

julestony · April 2014

Darbie914 said:
Honestly, I would not attend a shower on Father's Day. We typically wake up and have a special breakfast in the morning and spend time together during the day.

I'd actually be really put off if I got a shower invite for Father's Day.

Exactly! I tried telling my mother this and she said they can celebrate in the morning. What? You can't tell people when to celebrate. She's really not usually this irrational...i think she's just stuck the father it's the only day she has free when they're in town.

julestony · April 2014

Darbie914 said:
Honestly, I would not attend a shower on Father's Day. We typically wake up and have a special breakfast in the morning and spend time together during the day.

I'd actually be really put off if I got a shower invite for Father's Day.

Exactly! I tried telling my mother this and she said they can celebrate in the morning. What? You can't tell people when to celebrate. She's really not usually this irrational...i think she's just stuck the father it's the only day she has free when they're in town.

julestony · April 2014

Darbie914 said:
Honestly, I would not attend a shower on Father's Day. We typically wake up and have a special breakfast in the morning and spend time together during the day.

I'd actually be really put off if I got a shower invite for Father's Day.

Exactly! I tried telling my mother this and she said they can celebrate in the morning. What? You can't tell people when to celebrate. She's really not usually this irrational...i think she's just stuck the father it's the only day she has free when they're in town.

Puppies+Rainbows+Unicorns · April 2014

I would not go. I would be super ticked if were in reverse and my husband wanted to skip out on Mother's Day morning to go to something like a birthday party.

74dragonfly · April 2014

jennish11 said:
I wouldn't go either. It's a day to honor and spend time with the fathers in your life.
It doesn't matter what time of day either... In my family the entire day is for the fathers and whatever they want to do.

Ask them to re-schedule... you can work another time out with your mom.

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Sam Buttons · April 2014

I would attend. To be honest, DH would see it as a pass to go play golf all afternoon and would be psyched.

Father's day isn't a big all day thing for us, or really any one I know. We usually have dinner together and the kids make gifts, but other than that, it's a regular day.

Disneygeek77 · April 2014

Well, it would be an easy choice for me and I would decline.

You can go along with the shower but don't be surprised if there aren't a lot of people there.

jf198400 · April 2014

I would probably still go to a shower on Father's Day, but I would be annoyed by it. We had to travel out of state for a friends wedding Father's Day weekend of DHs first Father's Day. We were bummed about it, but did get home in time to have family dinner on Father's Day.
I think it's kinda bullshit though that your mom is coming to town and has more important plans than her daughters baby shower. What the hell else does she have to do that Saturday?

julestony · April 2014

I know...unfortunately, she has a wedding to attend the day before Father's Day, and the Sunday before they'll be at the symphony - should have planned that for during the week when the rest of us are working! Granted, the wedding was planned before the baby was announced...but I am not digging this. She said my dad is okay with it...trouble is, he's not the only father affected...

So frustrated...hoping to convince them to drive up the Friday of the week before instead of Saturday...then maybe they can do it Saturday the week before. If not, then just don't host my stupid shower - I know other people will be happy to do it and won't pick a special day. Funny thing is, if one of my cousins had their shower on Father's Day, I can assure you my mother would have PLENTY to say about how rude and inappropriate it is...whatever - I want her there, but the day is not about her...