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Ebosteels · April 2014

So inhale four more weeks left but I have been experiencing intense Braxton hicks and I an 25% effaced and baby's engaged ... So who knows ... Am I being to over emotional to want my husband around these next few weeks rather then out with his friends ....I have been really good this last trimester with him still going out a lot as a matter of fact he was busy almost all week last week I barley saw him ... What do you and your husbands or partners do in these last few weeks.... I feel like I'm fighting for his attention

SMM1986 · April 2014

Depends on how far he's going. If he's going out locally, I wouldn't worry about it. If he's planning a trip away that might be a concern, depending on where and what.

jfletcher3113 · April 2014

What is "a lot"? I mean is he having five boys nights a week? If so, I think that's a little weird and excessive. If it's a once-a-week thing with friends or some random outings that have come up, then I'd relax about it.

My DH and I don't do a ton of social things apart anyway, but if he got invited to do something I wouldn't expect him to pass because I'm close to my due date. I just would expect him to be reachable and able to leave where he's at if I go in to labor!

Like this weekend, he's having a boy's day to watch the Master's. Go for it. I have no interest and will instead get a massage and go lunch with my girlfriends!

Mimaloo · April 2014

DH is an accountant in the throes of busy season - I barely see him because of his hours. Even still, I actually encourage him to go out (not that he does) because I'd rather him go out now than have him out while I'm home with a newborn.

If your husband is staying pretty local then I'd let him get it all out now.

lauralou3x3 · April 2014

My husband is a social butterfly and is always doing something. He hangs with his friends a lot. As of right now I'm letting him because once the baby comes, those nights will be few and far between buddy.

fatbarbie0226 · April 2014

Yeah it would depend on the outtings. DH plays basketball with friends 2 nights a week and then tennis once a week. Sometimes he has a guys night out too, so that's four nights a week. I don't mind at all, I know where he is, and it keeps him happy. No need for him to sit around twiddling his thumbs waiting for me to go into labor. If I need him, I'd call and he would come hom right away.

Communicate with him and tell him how you feel. He is probably just wanting to see friends and have nights out before the baby comes. He'll be home alot with you when the baby gets here.

jenb_99 · April 2014

We're spending a tiny bit more time together (mostly getting the nursery and the rest of the house ready) and making sure to get some quality time with DS, but other than that it's life as usual. DH still works, still travels occasionally for meetings and conferences, still stays out late on Friday nights for his softball games, still watches sports in the other room, and I still stay up late several nights a week doing my own work. At least one night a week we don't even sleep in the same bed.

It would be cool to drop everything and make the next six weeks one long family vacation, but that's unrealistic. There's not much we can do to change our schedules, so we make the best of the time we have left and understand that when the new baby gets here, we'll be so excited about our new family dynamic that we won't be dwelling on that one time we missed out on date night. Plus there will be plenty more date nights, even with kids.

ETA: I let DH go on a fishing trip 7 hrs away when I was 37 weeks pregnant with DS. He went out of town for 2 nights for work when DS was 8 days old and went hunting when DS was 2.5 weeks old and 6 weeks old. This time around he has a hiking trip planned for 35 weeks and another fishing trip planned for 37.

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ho11yday · April 2014

I asked DH not to go to his sister's baby shower later this month since its in Vegas and a 6-7 hr drive. He was kind enough not to go knowing o rely on him. However, I'm always asking when his friends are going out and encouraging him to join them, even if he is home late or an hour away.

awc1986 · April 2014

As long as he's not going on a cross country road trip, I'd let him get as much boy time in as possible at the moment. There's been a few posts on here from women who are feeling a bit abandoned, so it's a common theme that guys tend to do some last ditch social "nesting" when we get closer to the due date.

Think about it this way, would you rather have him out and about now while you can still have some R&R? Or would you want him making up for it when the baby gets here and you need that extra pair of hands?

MrsT2008 · April 2014

Ditto the others - what's "a lot"? and how far away? If he's just grabbing dinner and/or some drinks, even a few nights a week, that wouldn't bother me at all. It's more important for him to be around once baby is here. I'm sure my view is a little skewed too since my husband is literally never home before 8pm on any given night and it's regularly 9 or 10pm because he's working full time as well as going to grad school. And I have a 2 year old. While obviously these aren't "fun" things keeping him from being home, but it still leaves me on my own every night and even with that, I haven't stopped him from the times he does want to go out for fun after work.

The only request I make of MH for these last few weeks is no work travel. Since that would be problematic should I go into labor.

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