Advice on hiding the pregnancy from friends and coworkers?

JCM285 · April 2014

Hi all! I was just wondering if anyone has advice on this subject. I have a bridal shower coming up for my coworker, followed by her wedding and a wedding for DH's friend. I am nowhere near ready to tell any of these people that we are pregnant yet, because I'm only four weeks now and I want to make sure everything is going well before I do. I also have a friends birthday coming up in May and she likes to go to bars for her bday usually. Anyone have advice on passing it off well when declining to drink? I have already been sick and taken time off from work so any slip up I make may make my coworkers suspicious. Thank for your help!

voplo · April 2014

Just don't throw up in front of them! Seriously, that happened to me and everyone first question was: "are you pregnant?". Apart from jokes, I went for a girls night out and I just said my stomach was feeling funny and I passed on drinks, none asked or I don't think even noticed.

jess123456 · April 2014

If you go to a bar order a beer with a dark colored bottle like Sam Adams. Then, go to the bathroom and dump it out and fill with water. You can take sips. Obviously you need to make sure no one sees you dumping the beer out and pouring water in but it's a great trick if you can pull it off.

JCM285 · April 2014

Thank you for your excellent advice! I am definitely going to use a few of your tricks! @voplo, I am going to try really hard not to throw up in front of everyone! Sorry that happened to you but I was laughing when I read your post, because I almost threw up at work today. I had really bad acid reflux that just wouldn't go away but I made it thru the day throw-up free!

SoxFan777 · April 2014

I second the whole "don't make up a story" thing... If you make too much of it, people will get suspicious. Relax, keep a drink in your hand, and have fun. It's not like anyone will be measuring how much you drink.

Jenrileysmom · April 2014

I managed to get through the whole holiday season without a sip. i was the designated driver, then I had a headache, I met my sisters "for drinks" and was so tired that I ordered a coffee.

I managed to keep my news a secret until 16 weeks when I was ready to share and I really had to because my clothes were getting pretty snug in the mid section.

nyg2042 · April 2014

For at least one of the events, you could say you are on antibiotics and can't drink.

dogsombrero · April 2014

I've done cranberry juice with soda trick to fake a vodka cranberry and limeade to fake a margarita. I've also had DH take my full beer and replace it with his as it got empty.

JCM285 · April 2014

Thanks everyone! Just thought you might be happy to know I am using three of yiur ideas currently in different situations. Tonight its the I-feel-sick-so-I-can't-go-see-DHs-cousin-play-in-band. Tomorrow I am pulling out the I-have-a-terrible-headache-no-alcohol-for-me (bridal shower). And next month cue the Offer-to-be-the-DD- for-best-friend's-birthday. Thanks to evryone who helped me prepare my military style pregnancy deception strategy!

Sweetiepops · April 2014

At parties, I have used an empty wine bottle and filled it part way with non-alcoholic wine, then had 1-2 glasses and used the designated driver excuse. Just don't share your "wine" with anyone because it does NOT taste like wine! Bars are hard... Once time I got soda with a lemon, and if someone were to ask, I would say I was having a vodka-soda, but no one asked! Did the same at a wedding. I have also had a virgin caesar (I believe in the US that would be a bloody mary). You just need to sneak off to the bar and order it when no one is around! On Friday I was at a friend's and I hadn't thought through an excuse, and was actually somewhat even thinking of telling them (I'm 13 weeks now). But I decided when I got there not to tell them yet, and all night they were asking me if I was TTC haha. Oh well! They won't be surprised when I tell them in a few weeks!

Sweetiepops · April 2014

Oh- funny story- at a wedding (the DAY I got my BFP in my first pregnancy) my sister went to get me a drink, so I told her vodka soda. So my husband went to the bar after and got me just a soda, and switched it with me! When I told my sister I was pregnant a few weeks later, her first words were "but you were drinking at the wedding!"

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