Daycare sucks

kescalera · April 2014

Apparently there is something wrong with my kid that makes him turn into a demon-child for any daycare provider the moment my back is turned. They all say he's such a sweet kid, they love being around him but he's so "busy" and so full of energy.

Yep, we were asked to leave our 3rd daycare yesterday because they have moms who have had kids there longer having babies and they can't handle the new babies and my toddler so he's being booted. At least this one is giving me 2 weeks to find another place for him although since we've already done the rounds several times before and put our names on all the waiting lists I'm not sure that is really going to matter. If I can't find childcare, I can't work and we can't afford our house or food or vehicle.

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I feel like I'm doing something horribly wrong as a parent because I have a little boy who'd rather be outside playing with a shovel or a stick in the dirt with Daddy than sitting inside playing with blocks. He loves other kids and people but has never been big on toys. Give him a dirt pile, a few fist-size rocks, a stick or two and he's a happy camper. Add water and he's in heaven.

dlbello23 · April 2014

That's ridiculous, but maybe he needs a babysitter or nanny that can take him outside to do these things, and can focus all of her attention on him. I have never heard of a baby asked to leave a daycare. How can a baby be booted? Good luck hope you find some child care and good one at that soon!!

kescalera · April 2014

I definitely need to talk to my boss and see if I can't work out a temporary schedule in case we can't find a placement. We have a friend who sometimes fills in watching Killian for us who said she'd cover a couple days. DH may just have to take both kids turkey hunting with him on the weekends so I can go into the office to make up hours.

Jackiemxoxo · April 2014

I'm so sorry you are having this problem. You are doing awesome as a mother! Hopefully you can find a daycare that does lots of outside time and luckily the weather is getting nicer out for this. DD is much happier when they get more outside time. Also, you should look on sittercity or care.com if all else fails.

ExcitedAunt2b · April 2014

I saw this and couldn't even think of a good response. I can't believe he's kicked out of daycare because he's too active, that absolutly blows my mind!!

I agree that maybe an in home daycare sounds best, it can be pricy but maybe you could work something out with work so he's only there part time or something.

Beth.1212 · April 2014

What a terrible situation! I'm so sorry that your daycare did that to you. I hope that your next daycare/nanny/childcare professional works out better for you!

JessAnnJ · April 2014

I don't remember where you live but is it warm enough yet for the kids to be outside? DD seems happier in the evening now that she gets to run around outside. It sounds like they are not doing enough with him and are just expecting him to play by himself. From talking to other people it sounds like kids don't really start playing with each other vs playing near each other until they are closer to 20 months. Maybe things will change when he gets older and has more of an interest interacting with the other kids.

Could it also be they are just looking for an excuse to get rid of him to make room for the babies?

I'm sorry this keeps happening to you. I know it is hard to find a new place.

kescalera · April 2014

Yea we've been hitting the 70s lately and he and I go out every evening with the dog. He's just bored and not interested in toys. We'll find something...

dlbello23 · April 2014

Most kids are more happier outside, I know dd loves to be outside. Picking up rocks, playing in dirt, it's the nature of the kid. Dd doesn't play with other kids yet either, when we do play dates it more of a mommy chat session than it is dd playing with the other child. Like I said before I hope I find something good. If I was closer I would watch your ds, after all I am a nanny and outside ALOT with the kids.

MrsBigTime · April 2014

The process of finding the right childcare situation is absolutely the worst! I'm sorry you're having to do it again - best of luck to you!

myskyegirl · April 2014

I'm so sorry, what kind of center can't take 1yr is beyond me. Is it a home daycares or one of the big centers, like Kindercare? It sounds like he needs a center that takes the kids out or have at least the playgrounds at the center. Could you maybe do 1/2day at the daycare and then 1/2 day w/a sitter at home? Although that will probably be expenive. Oh, maybe of the neighborhood moms can recommend a teen sitter that would be will to pick him up at the daycare after school and watch him until you get home.

SingleMom31 · April 2014

I'm confused by this on all levels... When our second arrives, nobody will get booted and the older (mobile/energetic/etc.) kids get moved to the next classroom so that the babies get more attention. What they're suggesting makes no sense. Was it an in-home place or a larger place?

Either way, good luck!

kescalera · April 2014

In-home place, mother-daughter team - it is all very odd but she said today they thought everything was going great until the state made them install a really loud, awful door buzzer & said they couldn't close the glass door (even leave it cracked) where he naps so he hasn't been napping during the day for about a month & that's when he started being more work to take care of... Duh! The kid went from a 2-3 hr nap during the day & a 6:30 bedtime to no nap & a 7:30 bedtime (because she waited a week to tell me he hadn't been sleeping)

SingleMom31 · April 2014

Well, that makes sense. Though if he won't nap with noise, I think that you might have a hard time. At our center, their cribs and toys are in one big room. They try to get everyone to nap around the same times, but it's often not quiet. Maybe look on care.com to see if you can find someone to come to you? Maybe he'd be happier at your house.

kescalera · April 2014

I'm pretty sure the issue isn't really the noise, or even him but as for napping, he can fall asleep in our hiking pack while DH is moving the lawn or using the weed-wacker, etc. He doesn't like to be away from all the "fun" so that fact the room he was sleeping in was so far away made him mad. We had a nanny last summer and it wasn't fabulous. I ended up using all my sick-time and vacation covering the days she was sick, etc. He didn't get socialized as much as daycare. I'd rather he be with other kids his own age.

I guess we will find out at the new place on Monday.

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