I forgot being pregnant is hard

jf198400 · April 2014

So DH had his knee surgery yesterday and is now on crutches, unable to drive, and off from work for 6 weeks. He won't be much help with our kids (2 and 3.5) for awhile. And I am 6 weeks pregnant. I just started feeling pregnant this weekend- nauseous all day long and completely exhausted. I forgot how hard it is being pregnant. I honestly don't know how I'm going to get by. I just want to nap all the time. We already told our parents and I know my mom and MIL will help with the kids, but I hate that I'm so dependent on other people. I am kinda regretting now that we didn't wait til after DH is recovered to get pregnant. I just feel so yucky right now and tired and stressed.

rockychryslerb2010 · April 2014

Take all the help you can get, this too will pass.

I forgot how much 1st tri sucked, or this time was much worse for me. There were times I regretted not waiting until I was finished my MBA for #2, but sure enough, I'm feeling better and will now have baby and MBA this fall! Hang in there, you're halfway to 12 weeks already!

mittensonkittens · April 2014

1st tri sucks, but the good news is that you'll likely be so busy with the other kids that it will fly by. In my pregnancy with DD, the boys were turning 2 and 4. I spent a lot of time laying on the couch watching them play. When they got too wild for me to handle, I put on a DVD. You'll get through it. Good luck!

shannm · April 2014

My first tri with my second was awful. I actually took a vacation week and slept the entire time. Hang in there! Use the tv and eat take out.

Reilly626 · April 2014

Oh wow that's tough, I can relate having twins when one if us is down it's tough alone not being pregnant. Hang in there I hope it gets easier.

mlee116 · April 2014

Don't be hard on yourself and if your mom and MIL want to help, by all means let them! I'm sure they love getting to spend time with their grandkids

. I hope 1st tri passes quickly and your H is up and at 'em soon too. Hang in there!

We just started TTC this month and now I'm starting to wonder how the heck I'm going to do it...And I only have 1 child!

jf198400 · April 2014

mlee116 said:
Don't be hard on yourself and if your mom and MIL want to help, by all means let them! I'm sure they love getting to spend time with their grandkids . I hope 1st tri passes quickly and your H is up and at 'em soon too. Hang in there!

We just started TTC this month and now I'm starting to wonder how the heck I'm going to do it...And I only have 1 child!

The thing is I honestly don't remember it being this hard. When I had a 1yr old and was pregnant with #2 and was commuting an hour each way, I don't remember it being too bad. Maybe I just blocked it out of my memory lol. But yea I thought it was manageable with 1 kid.

The hard thing now, aside from DH being unable to help, is DD doesn't nap anymore so even on weekends it's hard for me to get a nap, and the kids aren't down for the night until almost 9pm. So I'm just really tired.

mlee116 · April 2014

jf198400 said:

Don't be hard on yourself and if your mom and MIL want to help, by all means let them! I'm sure they love getting to spend time with their grandkids . I hope 1st tri passes quickly and your H is up and at 'em soon too. Hang in there!

We just started TTC this month and now I'm starting to wonder how the heck I'm going to do it...And I only have 1 child!
The thing is I honestly don't remember it being this hard. When I had a 1yr old and was pregnant with #2 and was commuting an hour each way, I don't remember it being too bad. Maybe I just blocked it out of my memory lol. But yea I thought it was manageable with 1 kid. The hard thing now, aside from DH being unable to help, is DD doesn't nap anymore so even on weekends it's hard for me to get a nap, and the kids aren't down for the night until almost 9pm. So I'm just really tired.

Well, this makes me feel better, haha. I was so excited but now that we've started, I'm nervous! But I'm just trying to remind myself that it'll be worth it.

Maybe this weekend your mom or MIL can take the kids for a few hours so you can get a nap? Or maybe even come over and sit with them in the evening so you can have a quick power nap?

valeivegas · April 2014

mlee116 said:

Maybe this weekend your mom or MIL can take the kids for a few hours so you can get a nap? Or maybe even come over and sit with them in the evening so you can have a quick power nap?

Ditto this - now is the time to rely on your family and DO NOT feel bad about it! I never feel bad asking for help - & I do quite frequently from all sides of the family. Or else I go totally crazy. I know how it is to have 2 at home that don't nap & be on your own... Do you have any friends that could come help you too?

Both of my pg's were tough - DD was worse though - I felt nauseous all the time & got sick throughout the whole 9 months... I've already forgotten a lot of it - so easy to forget! Hang in there! it will get better

jf198400 · April 2014

valeivegas said:

mlee116 said:

Maybe this weekend your mom or MIL can take the kids for a few hours so you can get a nap? Or maybe even come over and sit with them in the evening so you can have a quick power nap?

Ditto this - now is the time to rely on your family and DO NOT feel bad about it! I never feel bad asking for help - & I do quite frequently from all sides of the family. Or else I go totally crazy. I know how it is to have 2 at home that don't nap & be on your own... Do you have any friends that could come help you too?

Both of my pg's were tough - DD was worse though - I felt nauseous all the time & got sick throughout the whole 9 months... I've already forgotten a lot of it - so easy to forget! Hang in there! it will get better

Yea I did tell my mom I need help, she said she would come over sometime this weekend so I could nap. I just feel bad/guilty asking for help b/c our family helps us so much. My mom dropped the kids off and picked them up yesterday b/c I was at the hospital with DH, and my ILs took off from work the rest of this week to stay home with DH b/c I don't have enough PTO to stay with him. They'll be helping with driving him to physical therapy too. Even when I ask for help i always end up trying to do productive stuff like grocery shopping when I really need to just rest. I know I need to just get over it, admit I need help, and ask for it.

jlaOK · April 2014

I had the worst mom guilt when I was pregnant with DD. I just had to keep reminding myself that it is temporary and that DS wouldn't feel neglected by mom forever. It'll be hard but you have to tell yourself that it is okay to ask for help. Pregnancy is HARD but it is only 40 weeks. 40 weeks is a small blip in your total life as a mom. Give yourself a break - you deserve it.

Fullcircle06 · April 2014

Congrats on your pregnancy! I agree w/you, it's SO hard! Ditto what PPs have said, you should absolutely not feel bad about asking for help. Naps are important. And remember, this part is temporary and soon your DH will able to jump in and help again.

ccam · April 2014

I totally feel your pain. I just asked DH yesterday if he thinks I'll be able to do this! I'm super happy and excited but it's hitting me hard. I wish my Mom was close enough to help me out - take advantage of it!! Hopefully in a few weeks you'll be feeling more like yourself!

Klavanga74 · April 2014

It's definitely hard to ask for and accept help a lot of times, but if ever there were a time to do it, now's the time! I felt like a total slug for 6 weeks this time, and I needed to just let myself rest when I could. Accept the help and in a few weeks you will feel world's better and DH will more mobile. I'm sure if your family knew how much you were hesitating to ask they'd tell you that they're there for you!

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