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Mixed feelings about my RE

Bananappeal145Bananappeal145 member
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So, my RE is not really very warm, or comforting, and her bedside manner could use some work. She always seems to be in a big hurry and I get the impression that I am somehow annoying her and her staff by being there and asking questions. Her nurse is kind of a flake, and her receptionist is a flat out bitch who frequently rolls her eyes at me. All that being said she is being pretty aggressive with my treatment (which is what I want) and every time I tell someone in the medical community who I'm seeing they are all "Oh really? Wow! She's great!"  I'm supposed to be having my lap surgery next Tuesday but I'm having a little trouble trusting her. I'm very conflicted. I don't want to wait to have my surgery any longer but I think if it does not work out pretty quickly I might have to switch docs. I'm not really sure what I'm even asking for here, mostly just wanted to vent a little.
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Re: Mixed feelings about my RE

  • Jodee37Jodee37 member
    oooh that's a tough one. i am in a similar boat too. the first guy i saw was cold and factual, not like i wanted him to hold my hand and stroke my hair but is it too much to ask to crack a smile? we are seeing another guy tomorrow just to see how someone else "does it." however the first guy we saw is the BEST around as far as success rates and such and to me that is more important than bedside manner. but i hear ya on being disappointed. i'm glad you got your surgery scheduled! i'll keep you in my thoughts!
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  • SassFrassSassFrass member
    I am sorry you feel this way. My previous provider was a bit the same, his staff was amazing however, but he was always sooo nonchalant like it is just no big deal. Every time I would try to go to him he would say "Don't worry, you have baby soon." Uhm. That isn't what I am paying you for... needless to say,  he is gone.

    As for that receptionist, I would prob bitch slap her for doing that shit. I hate when people do that, they are they FOR you, you aren't there for them.

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  • Momarazzi007Momarazzi007 member
    so, the re i saw before one i am with since 2010 was total touchy feeling and then i went with the re i met after her whonwas totally opposite but i felt wasnt fluffing anything. but the nurse and receptionists are freaking awesome and we joke about everything- which was nice change of ace after the doctor (who has warmed up a lot. i think a good course of action is most important- but zero excuses for the receptionist to be rude or nurses cold. it is a matter of your comfort level. havedv you met any other practices?
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