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3 yr old waking up multiple times a night

LIAngelLIAngel member
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This may be long, so bear with me.   My DD is 3 and has now started waking up at different times during the night saying "I want to go in your room".   I am not against co-sleeping, the only issue is that our DS (5) is already in our bed (he comes in some time during the night on his own).  I really don't want her to get into that habit too.  Plus the fact that our bed is not big enough for all 4 of us (and no, we won't be purchasing a bigger bed).    Every time she wakes up, I or DH go in to her and she eventually goes back to sleep, but I'm wondering if we should just let her yell or cry herself back to sleep.   On the one hand, going into her and waiting the 15 minutes til she falls asleep is faster (and the goal here is for all of us to go back to sleep as quickly as possible) than listening to her yelling and crying while we bring her back to her room.  On the other hand, she has woken up evry night for the past 2 weeks and who knows if us going in to her has conditioned her to wake up.   I don't know what to do, suck it up and let her yell waking up the whole house or keep going in to her.  Getting her an "Okay to Wake" clock wouldn't do any good.   She wouldn't care if I told her she couldn't come into our room til the light turned a certain color on her clock. 

Thanks for listening.

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Re: 3 yr old waking up multiple times a night

  • fitmom82fitmom82 member
    I think at 3 she's old enough for you to have a conversation during the day and her remembering it at night.  DD was 4 2 weeks ago and we've gone through this alot.  I have had some success talking to her during the day and promising her a reward.  Lately though she does find her way into our bed every night, and I've also thought this could be a problem when my 2 year old gets into a bed and wants to come join the sleep over.  I've also had many nights were her and I sleep in her twin sized bed.  I'm a pretty small person so it's never really been an issue.  I wouldn't think cio would necessarily work with a 3 year old because I feel like she's old enough to understand someone should be able to hear her and she knows what she wants and may get very scared if no one responds. 
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  • LIAngelLIAngel member

    That's the thing.  I do tell her during the day that she needs to stay in her bed all night.  She even says "Okay".   I say "So where are you going to sleep tonight?"  She says "In my room".  So she knows.  Oh and rewards don't work.  She couldn't care less about filling up a sticker chart to get a prize or having her favorite breakfast if she stays in her room all night. 

     

     

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  • TiffanyBerryTiffanyBerry member
    Eh... Why not a floor bed in your room?  Though, if she sees her older brother in her bed, she'll wonder why she can't too.  Maybe they could both have floor beds in your room?
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  • janinekrausejaninekrause member

    I agree. I think the fact that her brother is in there is going to cause some problems. Either let her sleep on your floor, or work on getting them both to stay in their rooms.

    That wouldn't fly in my house- if one was in my bed, the other would want to also.

    I am all for CIO, and have done it, but in this situation I think its mean if her brother gets to sleep with you.

     

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  • sugarbear0524sugarbear0524 member
    I guess I don't understand why it's ok for the 5 year old but not for the 3 year old. You probably need to work on getting them both back in their own rooms or make room for both of them in yours.
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