Let's talk about sex...or the lack of

jmc1110 · April 2014

I am 23weeks pregnant and let me tell you it is SOOOOO uncomfortable to have sex. No matter what position, no matter how slow, it hurts! I feel like my body is so stuffed that nothing else can fit! After sex is worse...I am so swollen and sore I can barely close my legs, I feel like something could fall out! Can you ladies relate? ...hoping I'm not the only one!

whitehousem · April 2014

I'm 33 weeks tmrw and we have had sex once this YEAR, as in 2014. After I felt like my vagina was on fire. I wanted to the first two trimesters and had lots of sexy dreams but DH was afraid to and I think once I started talking about hemroids that was it for him.

He hasn't/doesn't even attempt, which bothered me for a while but I don't even care at this point... and I was in the hospital in pre-term labor earlier this week so sex is off limits now anyway. You are not alone. Hopefully your DH is understanding. Sorry

Burberry0421 · April 2014

I was quickly put on my pelvic rest after sex because I had sharp, shooting pains in my vag. I've had a shortening cervix, so we literally have not had sex since last year (mid-December). I need SEX, but it's also slightly terrifying. I'm currently on HBR anyway, so there will be no sex having until after these boys are born.

sasky · April 2014

Twice since BFP. Early on I was so sick and pumped full of hormones, that was the last thing on my mind. When I started feeling better we did it a couple times and it hurt. I haven't had much of an urge throughout and for the past couple of months I've felt like an absolute whale. At this point I can't even imagine a position that wouldn't feel like I was being cracked in two.

I wish I was one of those hyper sexual pregnant people but I am just the opposite. Fortunately DH is very understanding and has never pushed the issue, although I still feel guilty about it.

Ylvelill · April 2014

Sex has not changed a ton for me

still having it and still enjoying it!

Angelahelena · April 2014

Sex changed but I am dealing. I miss it but can't do it for fear of hurting twins n pain. He deals better than I do

CNYBride05 · April 2014

8 mos pp and we've had sex a total of 4x since BFP! Ridiculous

Palan · April 2014

Still having sex about 3 x per week but it's not great. I get to the O but not very intense. Last pregnancy I was a horn dog, my husband and I miss that symptom.

Odebdo · April 2014

Sex? I think I might have forgotten what that is!

We have not had any since the night before embryo transfer....everyone told us not to first trimester...at least nobody would give us the green light of sure it is fine...and frankly after 6 years of infertility and an out of pocket IVF...we are ok focusing on the babies...

Everytime I think it might be nice to try...I then realize I cannot even put my shoes on comfortably...so not sure how it would even be possible.

shanaynerz · April 2014

I've always had a low sex drive anyways, but ever since I got much bigger much quicker than with DD, sex has been not happening. I'm just uncomfortable in every position and I got quite sore after. We haven't had actual intercourse in awhile.

However, my libido has totally gone up over this last week, like a lot. It's really weird for me! So, instead of actual sex, we do other stuff which has been great so far. I figure when I hit 3rd tri even that may have to end. Maybe try being intimate in other ways besides actual sexual intercourse if you still want to be intimate and whatnot.

Labyrinth3000 · April 2014

My husband and I stayed pretty sexually active up until 28 weeks. My hormones made me feel sexy all the time and my husband was turned on by my basketball belly. At 28 weeks I had a huge gush of blood after sex followed by cramps. We took a break for a week and tried again but the cramps became too painful so we stopped until I delivered early at 32 weeks. I'm counting down the days until I can be sexually active again!

ajsweeton · April 2014

I had a cerclage placed at 14w so we were on pelvic rest. 6w no orgasms at all for me then we could mess around but no intercourse. At 32w we were cleared for sex again. It was so exciting to try again, but I'm supremely uncomfortable. I've stuck it out a few times for DH, but our last episode had me almost crying from pelvic pain so we stopped and haven't tried again. I feel so guilty about withholding especially since I know that when the babies are born we have another 6-8 weeks with no sex. I really miss the intimacy of it.

4legsRbest · April 2014

It is a self induced slow down for us, and by that I mean every two weeks at the most. I am too afraid to enjoy it and won't allow any prostaglandins to get near my cervix (TMI sorry!). Honestly I do it for DH but he wouldn't be upset if I cut him off completely, which will be happening soon as it is starting to hurt, like you. I did the same with my DS until it was time for him to come out! I think there is just so much going on in there and your anatomy could be as such that it is causing you pain. Talk to your DH about it, he should understand. You have the rest of your life to have wild passionate sex, right now just isn't the time for you, but it is finite! Hugs!!

Angelahelena · April 2014

Ajsweeton, how did you get doc to give you cerclage at 14 weeks? My doc says she won't do anything until 24 weeks or so and I'm scared bc I've had five miscarriages.

ajsweeton · April 2014

Angelahelena said:
Ajsweeton, how did you get doc to give you cerclage at 14 weeks? My doc says she won't do anything until 24 weeks or so and I'm scared bc I've had five miscarriages.

I had a previous twin pregnancy result in PTL and PPROM at 22w5d. As part of our plan for this twin pregnant my MFM recommended going with the cerclage. It's not actually indicated in twin pregnancies, but he felt like it would help and he thought he could do a very good job inserting the stitch if he did it early. It brought me a lot of peace of mind even though my cervix hasn't shortened at all. If I'd been pregnant with just one baby this time around they would have waited until my cervix started to shorten to place the cerclage. As I had two again he didn't want to take the chance.

Angelahelena · April 2014

Ty for info

Rannndi · April 2014

I've always had a lower sex drive, but we were still having sex pretty regularly. It definitely was not nearly as "comfortable" as it had been in the past. I was very uncomfortable afterward as well. Now that I'm on modified bed rest and I have to keep my heart rate down in order to get Baby A here, we haven't in weeks and probably won't the rest of the pregnancy. Poor DH!

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