Crappy Family Response

CameraBug131 · April 2014

Anyone else's family not as supportive as you would like? Both of my sisters responded with things like "That's my worst nightmare" or "It's so dangerous for mom and baby" or "You don't know what you're getting into" when finding out I was preggo with twins. Is the normal response not "Congratulations!"?!? Everyone else in our life has been supportive and excited. My sisters are now acting excited but it clearly takes a lot of energy for them to do so, like it's work or hard for them or they should earn a gold star for doing so. What is wrong with people?!?

Aurora1181 · April 2014

Ugh. sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted (and deserve!). My family was super excited at first, and now has swung the other way, I guess because the reality has sunk in. Everytime we talk about the twins, THEY seem to feel overwhelmed and say things like, "I don't know how you're going to manage!" which are totally not helpful. It's definitely frustrating!

amberej · April 2014

I'm sorry you didn't get the response you were looking for. I hope that they start to give you the support and encouragement you need! Maybe they just need time for it to sink in.

ceechie · April 2014

My in laws were horrible. My sister in law said she wanted to gift us a check for the twins bc "she didn't know how we would afford them." Not bc she was excited for them and wanted to gift something nice.
His mom told us "oh, you guys should have been more careful." What?!?
His uncle emailed me to say he didn't know how were were going to do it with 4 kids. Lovely.
Eventually, dh told his mom to step up and deal. That the babies were coming whether she liked it or not and to get on board.
My own mom cried for the nine months bc she was so scared for mine and the babies health. Only my oldest sister was my supportive shining light. I called her daily.
Find your support person, people or us here and it'll really help you tune out the others. Congrats to you! Twins rock!

Angelahelena · April 2014

I got a mix match of wow and oh nos. but as long as I know the risk and take care and get educated I feel great about this wonderful experience

seawater · April 2014

I'm sorry! People suck. I hope that once they get to meet their wonderful nieces/nephews they'll be more genuinely excited, but if not: I agree with PP. Find your support people and try to surround yourself with them as much as possible. Congratulations by the way!

KatieGummow · April 2014

That's so not fun. We are lucky in the fact the only one who wasn't elated for us was DHs brother. He said, "but we were trying to have twins... You're raining on Carys' parade." (They had just had a singleton, 2nd child, and we were going to announce the same day the family was going to meet her.) Made us feel awful for raining on our niece's parade, wouldn't stop bringing it up. He is over it now though!

JessaPrimate · April 2014

Thankfully my family was all super excited and has remained so. With my first pregnancy (keep in mind I was married, in my late 20s, financially stable, etc), my parents' reactions were not what I hoped for. I think my mom realized she'd goofed and spent a lot of time trying to make up for it.

Back to twins, the first work friend I told was very doom and gloom. When I asked her about it later, she said she was mirroring the tone in which I told her.

katekat8721 · April 2014

Sadly this is a normal response for some people, though I haven't had my actual family say those cruel things.

I've had people tell me "Twins? Eh, better you than me!" and I just smile and say "Yup!" Check out the crazy shit people say thread above, the stuff that comes out of people's mouths is appalling sometimes!!

Hang in there girl!

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