I'm doing a natural birth, hopefully very soon, for my first pregnancy. I'm using HypnoBirthing. I'm really confident (excited even) to do this, but I had a frustrating appointment with my [male] OB last week where he raised a skeptical eyebrow while reading the birth plan myself, my husband and our doula wrote. He's skeptical of HypnoBirth and told me, "Just be prepared to get an epidural because most first-time moms do."
He even snickered at the part where I requested I be allowed to deliver in whatever position was most comfortable. I told him that, because of symphysis pubis dysfunction that my chiropractor diagnosed me with, she and my doula agreed that pushing while laying flat on my back would be anti-condusive to moving the baby down and out. Any other position (side, squatting, all fours), would be way better. My OB said that SPD isn't a "real thing" and that "Pushing on your back is the best position," and backed this up with only the explanation of "This is how women have been doing it for years." He also warned me that nurses dislike doulas and won't take kindly to me bringing her.
He then checked to see if I was dilated and asked, after I gave no reaction I suppose, "That didn't hurt?" And after I said no, he said, "Well, maybe you can do this natural birth thing." It made me wonder, was he trying to hurt me? Was that test?
Needless to say, he's kind of a douchebag. Anyone else have similar experiences with a male OB with "traditional" thinking and skepticism about all parts of natural birth? I can't switch doctors (without a lot of unneeded stress) because I'm in a small town and this is who I'm stuck with (there are no midwives in the area and I'm 45 min away from the hospital, so a home birth is risky). But, I'm convincing myself it'll all be OK with the doula there -- as my mom friends remind me, my OB is only going to come in at the last second to catch the baby anyhow. I'm just so frustrated that he felt the need to be such a negative nelly about the whole things. Shows how far we still have to go to make natural birth not seem like some weird hippy movement.
Re: OB is crapping on my NB plans
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It is great that you have a doula. Mine played a huge part in my birth and was a wonderful, positive energy. Have you check on other options? It seems like this guy may be a huge PITA and the last thing you want to deal with in labor is a pushy OB.
FWIW some of the FTMs I know have had the natural/home births they planned and one had to have a hospital transfer (stalled labor), one decided to have an epidural and episiotomy at the eleventh hour and one had nitrous instead of an epidural or nothing. I'm surprised that with so many various outcomes in my limited personal experience your doctor expects you to believe that "all" FTMs get epidural!
I really hope it goes well for you.
ETA: clarity
Switch if you can.
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)