Cant do it...

Re: Cant do it...

• GalLaura member

  April 2014 edited April 2014

  @Cl8bad8 what do you do after that time? Try to comfort? I know my lo wants milk and try to comfort without milk but it never works.

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• Diana909 member

  April 2014

  When he sobs I give in after of few minutes. If it's sobbing and then screaming he isn't going to calm down. If it's just sobbing I wait a few then go in and comfort.
  DH needs to help. End of convo. I went on house/wife strike and DH learned real fast that it's a team to raise a child.

  
  

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• cynthia2007 member

  April 2014

  My DH also gets annoyed that some nights LO does not STTN. I wait 5 minutes before I go in to comfort. And when I do, I try not to pick her up. I tell her its ok and rub her tummy and that soothes her. I also pop a paci in to help soothe

  

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• benny713 member

  April 2014

  DD still nurses at least once a night. She's up once or twice. My DH was getting annoyed that she was up 3-5 times a night for a while (8-9 before sleep training). I told him that if it bothered him, he needed to help. With him going in first, she dropped nighttime wakings pretty quickly and has learned to self-soothe more often. He usually goes in first, and I go in when I know.she's hungry. She has STTN 3-4 times total.
  
  That being said, even I get hungry in the middle of the night sometimes and I'm 27. Your DH needs smacked.

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• GalLaura member

  April 2014

  Thanks, ladies. I do let him cry a good 5-10 minutes depending on how bad he's crying. What freaks me out a bit is he is sitting up and it's dark. He moves around a lot when he's upset and bangs his head sometimes. .
  
  DH pi$$ed me off because it is me getting up always. He said it still wakes him. He's actually a really good dad but can't function with broken sleep. It irritates me. I feel like I haven't slept in 9 months and i function 100x better than him.
  
  I just don't want to create bad habits for my lo. So thanks for your input.

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• Diana909 member

  April 2014

  GalLaura said:

  Thanks, ladies. I do let him cry a good 5-10 minutes depending on how bad he's crying. What freaks me out a bit is he is sitting up and it's dark. He moves around a lot when he's upset and bangs his head sometimes. . DH pi$$ed me off because it is me getting up always. He said it still wakes him. He's actually a really good dad but can't function with broken sleep. It irritates me. I feel like I haven't slept in 9 months and i function 100x better than him. I just don't want to create bad habits for my lo. So thanks for your input.

  Men suck at minimal sleep! They are the babies in the marriage I feel like, but I feel that a good swift kick in the butt and some tough love, they get it. I would rather deal with a DH that's on lack of sleep than a screaming/crabby/sobbing child. I try and do the MOTN wakes and then when 4:30 comes around and DH has gotten at least 5.5-6hrs of straight sleep then its his turn to wake. We trade off and this is how I survive and DH doesn't turn into a toddler having a tantrum. 

  
  

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• daffy2k member

  April 2014

  My H is pretty good with the night wakings, but lately she's been up quite a bit and I know a lot of it is out of habit. So we've decided to sleep train. Since H is on call 24/7 when he's on shift, he actually sleeps in our basement guest room when he's working. Just until she starts STTN again. He says he doesn't mind being woken up, but honestly, I mind. The conditions he works in can turn extremely hazardous at times, and if he isn't well rested he may not be as safe as he needs to be.

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