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Anyone feeling this way?

lolasmitlolasmit member
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I will be 37 weeks on Wednesday. I keep feeling anxious like I want LO to come already. I know she will come when she's ready. My midwife said I am 1cm dilated which is extremely frustrating because we all know that's not really anything, lol. Then again I know that I will be 37 weeks, and my due date is April 23rd. I also know that the statistics say that for FTMs usually we go past our due date. 

To keep my anxiety low I've been trying to watch movies at home, cuddle with DH, go on walks, read, play the Sims, play video games, and everything I can think of that will relax me. Yet I still can't help but feel restless. Everything is spotless, everything is ready for LO and she's still not here.

I am not restless because I am uncomfortable. I've been lucky in that aspect. I am just really anxious to finally hold my little girl in my arms, and to finally meet her. I am excited to finally meet her and see her. Ugh. 

How do you all keep your restlessness/anxiety down? 
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  • kittycaitemommakittycaitemomma member
    Not to be rude but they consider 37 to 38 weeks full term now. . .just saying. An I feel the same way as you,Only I'm 32 weeks an i feel like I've been pregnant forever. I keep my restlessness/anxiety down by talking to the little one sometimes,just telling (mines a girl) her what I'm doing or seeing if she will respond when she hears my voice (kicking,moving etc). Or i go for walks,or take long baths to relax,sometimes If i bothers me a lot i like to catch up on a Tv series/Book series ( we all know after the baby's born were going to be lucky to get a shower in xD).
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  • jasrun80jasrun80 member
    with my first,,, I cleaned.. it was hard. for me, everyone said "bet you'll go early" because I was running a lot & was very physical etcetera. nope,,, a long 6 days late & I swear I cried hours & hours. I also grocery shopped often and listened to music that I loved super loud in my car. I recommend doing those 2 things because after baby,,, it's not the same. find things YOU love and dive in. you won't regret the me time you once had relishing in just YOU. it's hard, but before you know it, you'll be a whole new person overnight!!! 3 weeks sounds blissful to me! I'm 9 weeks away!!!!
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  • erikaja6erikaja6 member
    My due date is April 26. It seems as though you have a lot of good ideas regarding how to stay relaxed/patient. I guess the only other thing I can say is really try to focus on the fact that every day your daughter stays in you is better for her health/development. My son was born at 33 1/2 weeks. He was 5 pounds, 4 ounces and only had to spend 11 days in the NICU (which was pretty good), but still it was a really scary time for me and my husband. So, every day that this baby stays inside me (past 33 1/2 weeks) is a huge victory for me. I pray that I make it to 37 weeks (this Saturday!) and hopefully longer. Hang in there. I know you are excited to meet her, but keep telling yourself that right now she's in the best place.
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  • lolasmitlolasmit member
    That's true. I think it's safe to say that we ALL know at this point that the time when the baby is supposed to come is on their due date or around ideally 39 weeks or more. Definitely not at 37 weeks. 

    We have been trying to spend time together alone, but even still I can think is how I want her. It's funny in a way because whenever I get contractions I find myself saying, "Grace, no not today. You still have a few more weeks." It definitely is better for LO to come later. My SIL's friend had her baby at 37 weeks and she complains about how he doesn't even wake up to be fed and she needs to wake him up and how he is still considered premature. 

    It definitely is the best thing for my little Grace to cook in there longer. I just need to keep finding more ways to relax and keep myself calm specially since I'll attempt to have her without meds.Thanks for your other ideas as well to have dinner with my husband and go out. 
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  • NekotaruNekotaru member
    edited April 2014
    Actually, our birthing class taught us that 37+ is full term as well. I know 40w is truly full term, but I'm just saying, some places do teach expecting mothers this.

    As for my response to your post, I get anxious too, but my husband is really supportive and he helps to reassure me and calm me down. If you get a chance talk to someone close to you, it might help and even just talking it out might make you feel better. :)
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  • lolasmitlolasmit member
    I do agree that there are still many places teaching that full term is 37 weeks +. The only reason why I knew it is 39 weeks + is because my SIL's friend mentioned it to me since her baby was born at 37 weeks. Even my OB and my midwife told me that if my LO is born at 37 weeks that's okay because she's technically full term. I actually googled it and brought them the information saying it was 39 weeks + and they said that a lot of the medical professionals are still catching up since it was recently changed. 

    Either way, I think that we can't really help but get anxious when the date is so close. To me is just like when you are getting married, you know its coming, but you wish you could make it be here sooner. 

    I keep telling myself that I need to enjoy this NOW because once she comes out I won't be feeling her inside of me and that event hough I plan on having more children it will not be this special because it won't be her. :)
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  • WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member
    Nekotaru said:

    Actually, our birthing class taught us that 37+ is full term as well. I know 40w is truly full term, but I'm just saying, some places do teach expecting mothers this.

    As for my response to your post, I get anxious too, but my husband is really supportive and he helps to reassure me and calm me down. If you get a chance talk to someone close to you, it might help and even just talking it out might make you feel better. :)

    I would not take a birthing class that teaches outdated information. Wonder what other false crap they're telling you.
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    WashingtonQueen said:
    Actually, our birthing class taught us that 37+ is full term as well. I know 40w is truly full term, but I'm just saying, some places do teach expecting mothers this.

    As for my response to your post, I get anxious too, but my husband is really supportive and he helps to reassure me and calm me down. If you get a chance talk to someone close to you, it might help and even just talking it out might make you feel better. :)
    I would not take a birthing class that teaches outdated information. Wonder what other false crap they're telling you.
    No, they actually give a handout called "Waiting the Full 40" which explains the full 40 weeks is where you want to be and advocate that. They seemed to explain it as "Term" is 37+ weeks meaning the baby could be born and not have it be fatal or serious issues at that point but 40+ is where you should be to have the baby. Sorry, if I didn't explain that well. They do advocate that 40 is where they want the baby to be. You don't have to jump down my throat about "false crap" yeesh lol.
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  • WashingtonQueenWashingtonQueen member
    Cassidy & Peter said:

    Really, you're going to dissect terms? I definitely wouldn't be teary eyed to make it to 37 weeks. 


    I'd just be happy that my LO stayed in 37+ weeks is what I'd honestly do. Especially, if I wasn't considered a high risk mother. What is there to be anxious about with a most likely big healthy baby? I don't know. Enjoy it cause some of us don't get to. 

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    Cassidy & Peter said:


    WashingtonQueen said:

    Cassidy & Peter said:

    Dear lord, can you not read? Read the link I posted.


    I didn't read the link you posted - cause I don't give two shits about what you said. I was talking to the original author of this thread. 

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    Reading fail on your part. It wasn't OP who was "dissecting terms".
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  • lolasmitlolasmit member
    My midwife explained to me that if the baby is born at 37 weeks she will most likely have a high risk of respiratory issues. I don't WANT my LO to be born early. At this rate it is a waiting game, and let's face it sometimes when waiting for something good to happen we get anxious just because there's nothing to do but wait. 

    Either way, I am glad that I am not the only one that feels a little bit restless. That's partly because I am not working anymore. All I do is basically stay home, but go out and walk around. Since I am not working 8-9 hours anymore it's a little difficult to figure out what to fill that time with that isn't baby related for now. So what I've been doing is me treatment. 


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  • *sparky**sparky* member

    Anyone see the irony that OP's signature says "Baby is now full term!" at 37 wks 1 day?

    Anyway, OP, you said you were ready for your baby to come already, frustrated you were not more dialated, and "she's still not here", when you were not even 37 weeks yet.  I understand you are not working and it is hard to stay distracted, and that is a bit of a different question.

    Basically, if you are still feeling up to it, try to schedule things to fill your days - take walks, meet friends for lunch, shop for baby clothes, read books, take naps, cook fabulous dinners for you and DH or cook some freezer meals for after LO arrives, etc.

    But really you have to just realize it is not time for her to be born yet, so there is no reason to feel all antsy right now.  If you feel this way now, the next 4 weeks could be complete torture for you, so you just need to try to change your way of thinking about it.

     

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  • lolasmitlolasmit member
    I got that signature from thebump, lol for me to be able to track the progress weekly. So clearly the bump, not me, thinks that 37 weeks is full term. 

    Of course, i am READY for her to come. I'd like to hold her, but that does not mean that I want her to come out unhealthy or to come out early when full term is now considered 39 weeks. Just because I am ready to eat my soup does not mean that my soup is ready yet. 

    I don't know why I feel antsy. My midwife said that she thinks that I am probably antsy since I already did all the baby related things and that I am probably more excited than anxious. Hmm, that's a good idea to make some freezer meals. 

    I want her to come out when she's ready, not me because it's not about me. It's about her being ready. It's about her being healthy, and coming when she knows that it's time. Plus, I think if I've waited this long I can wait another 3-4 weeks, or 5 weeks depending if she comes late since I've heard that FTM are usually late.

    Perhaps, I am just excited. Who knows. I just have to keep myself occupied, lol. 

    Also why does the bump have these siggys saying that 37 weeks is full term? 
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  • *sparky**sparky* member

    It is perfectly normal to be excited!  Part of the reason I worked until the end with my first PG and this one is because if I were at home I would probably get bored and be obsessing too.  Instead I get to torture my CWs with my bitchiness for the next couple of weeks. 

    All I can say is to try to find things to fill your days that keep you distracted and remember that with each day you get closer to holding your LO. 

     

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    It's normal to be "ready" & restless well before your baby is ready to make their debut.

    My advice? Sleep! Eat your meals hot. Enjoy going to the bathroom in peace & not feeling rushed. Take long showers. Enjoy these last few weeks with your spouse before your tiny dictator gets here.

    I know you are excited. There is no shame in feeling done or restless. One of the best thing I did last pregnancy is schedule one "me" thing a week. Get a massage, get your hair done, get your nails done or just read a book at the coffee shop. Once baby gets here you will be running around like a chicken with it's head off.

    If you want to one project my mom friend did was write letters to her LO. She has them in a safe deposit box & will be adding new ones every year. You could do some baby proofing to the house so it's out of the way. It's easier before you have a mobile kiddo trying to get into everything.

    Your feelings are normal.


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  • CrazypregoseverywhereCrazypregoseverywhere member
    WashingtonQueen said:
    Not to be rude but they consider 37 to 38 weeks full term now. . .just saying. An I feel the same way as you,Only I'm 32 weeks an i feel like I've been pregnant forever. I keep my restlessness/anxiety down by talking to the little one sometimes,just telling (mines a girl) her what I'm doing or seeing if she will respond when she hears my voice (kicking,moving etc). Or i go for walks,or take long baths to relax,sometimes If i bothers me a lot i like to catch up on a Tv series/Book series ( we all know after the baby's born were going to be lucky to get a shower in xD).
    Are you trying to be a smart ass to the previous poster? 39 weeks is the very beginning of being full term, not 37 weeks. Know what you're talking about before you spout misinformation..... Just saying. https://m.acog.org/About_ACOG/News_Room/News_Releases/2013/Ob-Gyns_Redefine_Meaning_of_Term_Pregnancy?IsMobileSet=true

    Here she goes again! Watch out everyone. You can't reply with smart comments but she can be as rude as she wants. Issues!
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    WashingtonQueen said:
    Actually, our birthing class taught us that 37+ is full term as well. I know 40w is truly full term, but I'm just saying, some places do teach expecting mothers this.

    As for my response to your post, I get anxious too, but my husband is really supportive and he helps to reassure me and calm me down. If you get a chance talk to someone close to you, it might help and even just talking it out might make you feel better. :)
    I would not take a birthing class that teaches outdated information. Wonder what other false crap they're telling you.
     
    That's so stupid. It's a birthing class not a pregnancy website... do you really think they're going to tell you false out dated crap? I think everything you say is crap.
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    WashingtonQueen said:
    WashingtonQueen said:
    Dear lord, can you not read? Read the link I posted.


    I didn't read the link you posted - cause I don't give two shits about what you said. I was talking to the original author of this thread. 

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    Reading fail on your part. It wasn't OP who was "dissecting terms".
    Oh go somewhere with your 2010 articles. No one cares about what you have to say
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  • lolasmitlolasmit member
    I have downloaded more books on my Kindle, and gone for walks at the mall. That seems to be helping :).

    I actually made an email address for LO and send her emails. :) Its quite helpful!
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  • yeah.yeah. member
    I told myself that pregnancy was 42 weeks, so that's when I was expecting to have a baby. Worked out well, since that's when DD1 came.
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  • meaghanjohnson34meaghanjohnson34 member
    I think its hilarious that people feel the need to be rude on these boards. I thought the whole point of these is to be supportive? Of course we all want the best for our babies and yeah maybe sometimes people put stupid things but there's no need to be rude, does it really make people feel better to correct someone by insulting them? That's sad :(

    Anyways I'm right there with y'all on being impatient! I was impatient from day one finding out I was pregnant! are you kidding?! haha I have just been that excited to have my little baby! Now that its my due date I'm even more impatient I think anyone who says they aren't impatient at SOME point during pregnancy, to meet their sweet little baby is lying! I tried telling myself he'll be so late i'll need to be induced so that I wouldn't get my hopes up and that worked until wednesday my Dr. told me I probably wouldn't need to be induced I could come anytime, he swept my membranes I've been cramping and losing my plug since then so its so hard not to get my hopes up! 

    Hoping he comes in the next few days so I don't have to be induced. Loving some of these comments though it really makes me want to enjoy the next few days just being me! I was getting depressed today but now I just want to change my attitude cause of some of these comments and maybe go take a nice bath, pamper myself and go get a really good meal! Hang in there mommas! Can't wait till everyone can hold their little miracles and hoping mine will come meet me any minute/day now! ;) haha
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    Crazypregoseverywhere said:
    WashingtonQueen said:
    Not to be rude but they consider 37 to 38 weeks full term now. . .just saying. An I feel the same way as you,Only I'm 32 weeks an i feel like I've been pregnant forever. I keep my restlessness/anxiety down by talking to the little one sometimes,just telling (mines a girl) her what I'm doing or seeing if she will respond when she hears my voice (kicking,moving etc). Or i go for walks,or take long baths to relax,sometimes If i bothers me a lot i like to catch up on a Tv series/Book series ( we all know after the baby's born were going to be lucky to get a shower in xD).
    Are you trying to be a smart ass to the previous poster? 39 weeks is the very beginning of being full term, not 37 weeks. Know what you're talking about before you spout misinformation..... Just saying. https://m.acog.org/About_ACOG/News_Room/News_Releases/2013/Ob-Gyns_Redefine_Meaning_of_Term_Pregnancy?IsMobileSet=true

    Here she goes again! Watch out everyone. You can't reply with smart comments but she can be as rude as she wants. Issues!

    Crazypregoseverywhere said:
    WashingtonQueen said:
    Actually, our birthing class taught us that 37+ is full term as well. I know 40w is truly full term, but I'm just saying, some places do teach expecting mothers this.

    As for my response to your post, I get anxious too, but my husband is really supportive and he helps to reassure me and calm me down. If you get a chance talk to someone close to you, it might help and even just talking it out might make you feel better. :)
    I would not take a birthing class that teaches outdated information. Wonder what other false crap they're telling you.
     
    That's so stupid. It's a birthing class not a pregnancy website... do you really think they're going to tell you false out dated crap? I think everything you say is crap.

    Crazypregoseverywhere said:
    WashingtonQueen said:
    WashingtonQueen said:
    Dear lord, can you not read? Read the link I posted.


    I didn't read the link you posted - cause I don't give two shits about what you said. I was talking to the original author of this thread. 

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    Reading fail on your part. It wasn't OP who was "dissecting terms".
    Oh go somewhere with your 2010 articles. No one cares about what you have to say
    @washingtonqueen, can you IP ban this psychopath? It keeps coming back like some nasty rash. Ugh.
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    Well this was a fun post to come back to after the weekend. I'll address things further when I get done with my morning errands. Let's just say that crazypregos lives up to her own screen name.
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